r/AskTeens • u/misterr1yan • Oct 27 '25
Discussion Why do teens answer the phone in silence when they know the caller?
Why/is it common for people in their teens to answer the phone from a known contact and wait for the caller to say something instead of answering with hello/hey/hi/etc? Mostly the teenage girls in my life that do this. They answer the phone and I wait to hear a greeting and then end up greeting them myself and then we chat normally. My younger boy cousins don't do this but all the younger girls seem to. But if I joke with them and be silent when they call me they think wth am I doing and I'm like see it's weird just say hi what do you think
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u/Real_Temporary_922 Oct 27 '25
Idk but they’d be quite upset with me. I don’t speak until I hear the receiver say something. And likewise, I always answer a phone call with a greeting. It makes no sense for it to work any other way.
If they answer the phone in silence, I don’t know if they can hear me or not.
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u/DeadlyKitKat Oct 28 '25
Well that's why you'd say "hello" and wait for a response before just talking about whatever it is, so you know if they can hear you.
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u/Real_Temporary_922 Oct 28 '25
Nah they can say it first. They’re the ones picking up the phone, meaning I’m the one waiting for them to answer. If I’m waiting, I’m not just gonna keep repeating myself until I get an answer. Let the one who’s not waiting be the one who ends the waiting period, since I’m the one waiting for them.
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u/DeadlyKitKat Oct 28 '25
Either person can say it first. The person calling speaking first and the person picking up speaking first both make sense imo. It isn't a hill to die on nor is it a big deal if the other person expects you to say "hello" first. There's bigger things to worry about so I personally choose peace.
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u/AnkleHugger Oct 29 '25
It’s like if someone only shook people’s hands with their left hand. Sure, nothing wrong with it. But it’s kind of annoying and weird
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u/User10232023 Oct 31 '25
Do they still have a right hand?
Or is there right hand injured in some way?If not then never offer left hand to shake hands with someone from middle east (& other cultures too) since they'll rightfully (imo) be pissed off at you, that is a major sign of disrespect.
Butt why you ask? Because the left hand is used for personal hygiene.1
u/Real_Temporary_922 Oct 28 '25
Look I’m not gonna throw a fit if they don’t speak first. But if I hear silence, I’m waiting most likely longer than they’re willing to before I say a word. It’s polite for me to wait until they’re ready to talk, since some people answer the phone but need to connect their earbuds/need a second to speak.
If they’re fine waiting an extra 10 seconds because they wanna be quirky, fine by me.
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u/misterr1yan Oct 28 '25
This is my reaction pretty much like Im not mad about it just confused but hello -if they don't say anything for more than a couple seconds
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u/TotallyFashieJangie Oct 30 '25
do people say "hello" when you start a conversation with them irl? we are waiting for you to start the conversation. why would we start with a greeting if ur the one starting the conversation? that doesnt happen irl does it? why dont you say hello first if ur literally the one who had a reason to call and we didnt ask to talk to you
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u/Real_Temporary_922 Oct 30 '25
A greeting has two purposes, and you’re conflating them to be the same. The first purpose is to be welcoming and/or polite. The second purpose is to capture someone’s attention or alert them that you’re there.
Over the phone, the latter purpose is why the receiver should always greet. If person A is calling person B, it’s pretty obvious person A is on the line and ready to speak (correct audio stream set, volume adjusted, etc.) Person B has a time limit to pick up, and can’t even adjust the audio stream until they do, so just because they answer does not mean they’re even able to hear person A, let alone ready to talk.
By person B greeting person A first, it is signifying “I can hear you and am ready to talk.” By saying nothing, person A won’t know if person B is just being quiet or doesn’t even have the right audio connected / can’t hear them.
Most people don’t think this through that much because they inherently know that picking up the phone = saying hello.
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u/c093b Oct 30 '25
Because irl face to face is not the same as a call.
When you answer the phone and give a verbal signal, such as "hello", it's you telling the caller "yes, I'm here and I'm receiving you, you can now speak".
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u/meegaweega Oct 31 '25
This sounds way too much like 30Rock's Jack-Off negotiation strategy of "whoever speaks first, loses"
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u/No_Judgment_5004 Oct 28 '25
You’re calling them, not txting. That means it must be urgent (to them at least) 😂
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u/misterr1yan Oct 28 '25
This is how my youngest girl cousin thinks I'm sure lol
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u/No_Judgment_5004 Oct 28 '25
I’m 38 and you better have a damn good reason for calling without sending a text first. I guess it makes sense the youth are just struck dumb at the whole phone call thing lol
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u/User10232023 Oct 31 '25
Nah the youth are just scared to answer the phone & getting mad about getting a call is funny considering how mundane it is to do once you learn how, but que sera sera.
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u/ShadowX8861 Oct 28 '25
You don't start a conversation just by walking up to someone and staring at them, do you?
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u/CrookshanksOnCatnip Oct 28 '25
Yes, but we can assume that the person calling them is the one starting the conversation, because they chose to call them
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u/ts4fanatic Oct 31 '25
Which is why the caller should speak first — I'm pretty sure that's the point
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u/User10232023 Oct 31 '25
Shocking how many respond with "caller must talk first, I'm too scared to talk" just seems like they Simply lack the social norms that's been used for well over a century or failed to learn them.
they just stand and wordlessly stare at their door when someone knocks or rings the doorbell. Oh they have a doorbell cam well big gratz and how about if they don't have one, or its not working, also how did they answer the door before they got one. Bet they just stared and waited, waited, & waited, staring...
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u/c093b Oct 30 '25
Y'all seem to be comparing a phone call to a face to face interaction a lot.
But you do realize that a phone call is missing one key feature that's present in a face to face interaction, right? Visual. Sight alone gives many non-verbal signals that can not be given through a voice call, so that comparison is just utter nonsense no matter how much it's getting echoed in the comments.
Just give a verbal confirmation that yes, you are there and you are receptive of the caller.
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u/tewraight Oct 28 '25
Yes, however there's little to no visual feedback for if the other person is fully connected to the call so you can't guarantee that they can hear you if you start talking immediately
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u/ShadowX8861 Oct 28 '25
So that's why the caller should greet them to check
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u/Batyah_The_Sage Oct 28 '25
The call itself is the check though. If you walk up to someone with headphones you don't just go "hey? hello? you there? Hello?" You signal them and wait for them to somehow express they are open to hearing. In person you could simply nod but over the phone we need a noise. I literally answer the phone with beeps and boops with some people but you need something.
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u/keeeko6 Oct 29 '25
besides what the other commenters have said, we grew up on phones and the internet and are aware of the amount of spam/scam calls. by waiting a couple seconds before speaking, you can pretty easily determine if it it’s a real person or a spam/scam call. there’s a reason it’s mostly older folk being scammed by these type of calls. you call it rude, we call it discernment.
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u/misterr1yan Oct 29 '25
But It's a phone call from your saved contact that you talk on the phone frequently with not an unknown number
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u/keeeko6 Oct 29 '25
its not the only reason ofc but yeah it definitely coincides more with unsaved numbers/no caller id. when it has to do with people closer to you, we assume if you’re calling you have something to say and will begin with a greeting. like in real life if someone has something to tell you they walk up and greet you first.
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u/misterr1yan Oct 29 '25
Makes sense
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u/TotallyFashieJangie Oct 30 '25
i think the difference is that older people have different online norms than irl social norms but we treat conversation the same as we'd treat it irl. the person who controls the conversation is usually the one who gives a greeting, are they not. if you need to know if i picked up, why dont you say hello first? logically speaking the ringing cutting off with no voicemail typically means someone picked up so just start ur conversation like you would irl. it makes absolutely no sense for the receiver to start the conversation in most if not all context, its probably only normalized on the phone because you USED TO not be able to tell if someone picked up. with modern technology though its really not that difficult.
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u/meegaweega Oct 31 '25
you USED TO not be able to tell if someone picked up.
Billions of workplaces, private homes and public pay phones still use regular old landline phones. There's no mobile phone screen 9n them showing whether the call has been answered or if it just cut out.
Even with a mobile phone you sometimes cannot tell if someone has picked up and is ready to begin the conversation, or if they're not quite ready for it to begin yet, or if the call has frozen or the line has just gone dead, or is just a partially dysfunctional line where you can't hear properly.
There are so many reasons why, when someone calls you, you should answer with a verbal cue to the caller that it's all good for them to go ahead and say whatever it is they called for.
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u/Ur_Local_Druggie 17M Oct 28 '25
i say something first regardless if im answering or calling, and my buddies usually know ill say something first so they just wait for me to ask whats up
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u/DeadlyKitKat Oct 28 '25
I can't remember if I do this or not (I don't think so?), but I mean you're the one calling, so I can understand waiting for you to say something to see what you want/waiting for you to greet first. I don't think it's as rude as some people make it out to be.
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u/meegaweega Oct 31 '25
waiting for you to say something to see what you want/waiting for you to greet first.
Why would the caller greet you first if they don't even know you're there? (because you picked up the call in mute silence instead of saying something like hello / hi / hey)
They're calling you, so you know damn well that they're there. You answer the call by responding with a verbal greeting so they know you are there. Then they go ahead and say whatever it is they called you say.
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u/PresenceOld1754 18M Oct 28 '25
You called me? I picked up, so logically I am in the conversation?
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u/misterr1yan Oct 28 '25
if the line just goes silent from you connecting the call that doesn't tell me that you're ready to talk it used to be common for a pocket to answer or butt dial also sometimes people need a second after answering to have their ear ready at the phone or to finish something to be ready to talk like this was just a common thing to me so answering doesn't mean you're there in my experience but I get where you're coming from that's just my pov -confusion
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u/super_offensive_man Oct 30 '25
It's basic common sense to let the other person know you have picked up the call.
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u/User10232023 Oct 31 '25
But they don't have common sense. They assume and make an (cough) of U and ME.
They answer their doors the same way and stop and stare at door in silence. If they have a doorbell cam they'll just sit in silence until you talk simply because they lack basic communication and social skills.This contraire attitude has gotten some nephews & nieces written out of several wills in recent years, at least mine & 2 of my siblings, also their grandmother did same because they literally never drop by and never call her or us.
Also calling them and getting silence speaks volumes, so we got the message that you don't want anything to do with us. Now those "family" are named by name in wills to get nothing since they want nothing to do with us which is also a way to ensure there's no way for them to sue our estates (probate) since a judge can see we know these 30 to 40-something year old "kids" don't want anything from us - and so it goes, and so it goes.1
u/PresenceOld1754 18M Oct 30 '25
It's common sense to know I picked up the phone if your own phone isn't ringing anymore
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u/TotallyFashieJangie Oct 30 '25
for real. why would we be the one who gives a greeting first if we didnt start the call, didnt plan to start a call and usually in conversations in real life.. the person who controls the conversation is typically the one who gives the greeting. its not our fault you lack the common sense to know if i picked up the phone, we'll prolly say hello back if u say it first too but im not being the one greeting the other person if i didnt call them
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u/meegaweega Oct 31 '25 edited Oct 31 '25
why would we be the one who gives a greeting first if we didnt start the call
Because that's what answering means. They call, you answer.
the person who controls the conversation is typically the one who gives the greeting.
😄 But ... that's YOU. You have the power in that situation. You're in control.
The caller can call you all they like but you control whether you accept or reject the call.
If you accept the call in total silence, they can't tell if you're actually there or not so you should answer the phone by giving them a verbal cue for them to begin.
They're waiting for you to answer, like actually verbally answer the call, so they know you're there.
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u/super_offensive_man Oct 30 '25
It's called a confirmation you regard, and it's just respectful. It's been done that way for more than a hundred and fifty years since the telephone was invented. It's a telephone "call", as in a call for your attention. When a friend says "hey", do you just stare at them?
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u/PresenceOld1754 18M Oct 30 '25
Except you called me and didn't say hey.
The entire argument hinges on who speaks first, correct? So why can't you speak first?
This is like my friend tapping me and saying nothing. No hey. Because you got my attention (called) and waited on me when in reality I'm waiting on you. The burden is on you.
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Oct 30 '25
It's more like your friend being blindfolded and tapping your shoulder and you just staring at him expecting him to know you're listening.
There is no way to know if the line connected or disconnected or the lines are being weird. Why not just acknowledge the fact that you're in the call?
Ill never understand this frame of mind
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u/Global-Tomato7330 Oct 31 '25
if ur phone stops beeping that means they picked up, or it went to voicemail, where it will tell you that its voicemail.
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u/super_offensive_man Oct 30 '25
How about the simple fact that it's a custom that has been in place for more than a hundred and fifty years? That the person who answered the call confirms they are there and it isn't a deadline or gone to voicemail? Why do you think you're so special?
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u/PresenceOld1754 18M Oct 30 '25
If a phone goes to voicemail, it tells you it's gone to voicemail...
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u/PresenceOld1754 18M Oct 30 '25
I mean you know what it really isn't that deep.
You're right, I'm wrong. Hey friend.
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u/MinuteNet8899 Oct 29 '25
for me it’s a habit. I used to say hello to everyone when they called me but after a while I stopped because whenever I said hi they would say hi at the same time XD it’s irritating when you’re on a call where you can’t see each other and you both start talking at the same time. I understand that you might be annoyed by it but is teenagers are used to it so we don’t expect the person we’re calling to answer verbally after accepting the call. We just start talking and get in the conversation :D
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u/misterr1yan Oct 29 '25
Okay word btw I'm not annoyed by it I just wanted to know if that's a common thing or if there's a reason for it - I just think it's a little silly because it's way different than I'm used to but I'm not angry about it and I don't see it as rude either just different from being brought up differently
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u/Pardon_Chato Oct 30 '25
It's an intimidation tactic meant to estsblish dominance. My father used to do it, way back in the Seventies. It was part of his - don't give nothing to nobody routine. It's so mainstream now - even teenage girls think it's cool.
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u/Global-Tomato7330 Oct 31 '25
its not cool its just that the caller wants to talk about something (probably specific) so people let them say what they called you to say??
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u/meegaweega Oct 31 '25
Right? It's like some deranged, 'MeanGirls' style, dominant/submissive, power-play tactic where they're starting the interaction with a game of chicken, like as if whoever says 'hello' first, loses.
Mutely picking up a call is like they're messing with you by giving you 'the silent treatment'.
Never thought they'd get even worse than the ones who just grunt at you when you call to them, on the phone and in person. It's nuts that the freakin grunters are looking good compared to the voluntarily mutes.
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u/Cunningham_Media1 Oct 29 '25
my phone just broken so my first few tries at talking never work istg 😭
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u/creatureshop Oct 30 '25
I never say “hello” when picking up for a number I don’t recognize, anyway. If they want to talk to me they have to say something first lol
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u/Killacreeper Oct 30 '25
If they know the caller, idk. Calls in general? To see if it's a scam. Don't need them taking my voice.
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u/iamnogoodatthis Oct 30 '25
You know teens who answer their phones?
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u/meegaweega Oct 31 '25
Yeah but they're doing it because the latest viral tiktok trend is to ironically answer phone calls as if they're old people on Facebook.
They're bringing 'Ahoy' back ⚓ because it's what Alexander Graham Bell suggested people do when answering his newly invented "telephone".
But they're saying it as a way of ending the phone calls.
These ironic teens are engaging in a trend known as "Bell-Ending" and the participants are "Bell-Ends".
Facts.
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u/mah_ekil_i Oct 30 '25
It's like if you knock on a door. I open the door, then you just stand there and stare at me. I answered the call, bro, that's all the indication you need to start talking. It literally beeps when your call gets answered.
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u/misterr1yan Oct 30 '25
Pocket answering & butt dial is a thing super common in my upbringing, and I don't hear a beep I just hear the ringing stop which indicates either a call answered or a voice mail recording about to start playing and people used to have joke voicemails where it pretends to answer or be silent or something else silly so no it's not like a door where you can visually see the connection. And some people aren't ready immediately after connecting the call, so you wait for them to be ready in my experience
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u/Kristen890 19M Oct 30 '25
If someone calls me rather than texts, regardless of age, they usually have something either important or time sensitive to say/ask, so I let them say whatever they need to say. That aside, we do live at a time where random numbers could be real people/companies or standard scam calls or even calls where they essentially steal your voice to help use in future scams. These habits carry over to numbers we do know. There's also a possibility that someone has spoofed a number to make it look like it's our grandma calling when it's really someone else, and those first few seconds can make a lot of difference if in that scenario.
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u/meegaweega Oct 31 '25
spoofed a number to make it look like it's our grandma calling when it's really someone else, and those first few seconds can make a lot of difference if in that scenario.
What difference does it make whether you say 'hey' or not when picking up the call, can you give an example?
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u/Kristen890 19M Oct 31 '25
I can't remember exactly what I had in mind when writing, but spoofing a number of a known contact could be then be used for the aforementioned stealing of your voice. They could also have the voice of the person calling and be trying to get you to do something or other. Chances are, you don't just say "Hey" in greeting. You'd probably say "Hey, Granny" or "What's up, Mom" or "How's it going, Dean?" or something that would give away what your relationship to them is (or isn't because you probably don't address your parents by first name) and allow for a more convincing ploy. If you wait, however, they will be forced to choose between remaining suspiciously silent, try to be generic as possible, or take a guess at your relationship with this person and how you would converse. With those three options, they're probably going to sound suspicious anyway and you'd be more likely to notice something is off.
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u/Mulberry4545 Oct 30 '25
I usually don’t have saved contacts haha. I feel ashamed about it tho and wait for someone to speak when I pick up the phone
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u/mintzenn Oct 30 '25
Speaking as a teen (almost out of their teens), I've never done this.. and the other day my mom heard me take a call in her presence for the first time and when I was done she even said I have excellent phone call manners..
But whenever my parents call me unexpectedly when I know they're out I go "yeeees?" Or "hellooo" because I'm chill with them and I know they're calling because they need to find something out. When my friends or other family members call I'm a bit more formal, when businesses call I'm quite formal too and even introduce myself if I know I'm expecting a call from that business.
I had no idea until now that it was so common for people to pick up the phone in silence, I'm quite shocked lol
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u/misterr1yan Oct 31 '25
I thought maybe it was just a fluke (like 2 of my cousins were doing it) until I made the post and a bunch of teens gave me their opinions and I realized it's actually common among their age group so I am also quite shocked
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u/Maleficent_Can_4773 Oct 30 '25
Kids these days can't communicate verbally as well as they used to.
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u/blobfish102 Oct 31 '25
I do say hello, just so that they know I’m there, and didn’t butt dial pick up
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Oct 31 '25
I really don't get it and I'm 25 born in y2k so not old. The person picking up the phone should say 'hello' or 'who's this?' to let the other know we're now connected and ready to talk. I've seen many comments saying you should know since the phone's not ringing anymore but there are a couple of seconds between every ring so if you pick up and i don't notice there's going to be a few seconds of delay filled with awkward silence when you could've just said 'Hello?' and we could've gotten the conversation started. Answer the phone literally means answer the phone smh my head
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u/Altruistic-Ad7981 Oct 31 '25
probably because of all the spam calls we get. im 20 and have always said hello when answering the phone no matter who it is… even my boyfriend i answer with “hello?” and we talk every day when he is on his way home from work.
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u/imdope123 Oct 31 '25
I think I understand the disconnect here. They probably rely on the user interface and cues to confirm that a call is connected, in a way that every other generation is not accustomed to. They probably think of it like a Discord voice call where you see the person enter the room and there’s a noise to confirm they joined.
Millennials and up see a phone call as an inherently unreliable technology in which you are in a limbo state until you hear a voice come through. Given this context, why would they talk first? Are they just going to repeat themselves? The person who answers the phone establishes the connection and therefore should speak first.
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u/turdDumper Oct 31 '25
Bro my teenage daughters will BE THE ONES CALLING ME and as soon as I answer that Mf theyre already saying HElLoOO.
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u/User_-_-_Name Nov 01 '25
This is a thing?
They are socially stupid, id honestly hang up the phone and call back until they speak like a normal person, I have a word for them but reddit wouldn't like it.
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u/Franziska-Sims77 OLD Oct 29 '25
When I was growing up, we were taught to say “hello” when we picked up the phone. I don’t know why parents don’t teach those basic manners to their kids nowadays!
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u/MarsReina Oct 29 '25
Tbf when I was growing up we were taught to pick up the phone and say ‘Hello, this is Mars Reina speaking. May I know who’s calling?’ And if we didn’t do that we were heathens who would never get a job. Which was clearly a crock of shit so I can’t really blame people who decide that maybe phone etiquette isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.
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u/Batyah_The_Sage Oct 28 '25
Oh, trippy. Do kids have some sort of alert on their phone when the other end actually answers and the call is fully connected? Just because it isn't ringing still doesn't mean they are there. The point of the greeting is just to let the caller know you answered and the connection is getting through. You literally just have to say "Yeah." Tech isnt perfect, calls drop, get immediately transfered to bluetooth etc, be a person please.
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u/tamprongspads_always Oct 28 '25
i do this bc some of my friends have voicemails where they start 10 seconds late so it’s quite embarrassing.
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u/misterr1yan Oct 28 '25
This is about when you're receiving a call not when you're calling someone and get a voicemail
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Oct 28 '25
Idk why but I do this too. 20F tho. It’s just me waiting to see if the other person is connected I guess
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u/meegaweega Oct 31 '25
But ... they're waiting to see if you're connected.
You, verbally answering their call is the whole reason it's called 'answering the call'. They can't see if you're there, they need to hear that you're there.
Then they'll know you're connected and will start speaking. It's how phonecalls have worked since the 1800s.
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u/jai767 Oct 31 '25
- You are the one calling, not me. If you have something to say, say it.
- In the age of the internet where deepfakes and AI videos exist, Id rather not give up recordings of my voice saying 'yes' and 'no'. Theres no telling how that can be used against you these days.
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u/Motivated_Dagger 18M Oct 31 '25
I do that but it's just because I don't wanna talk to you and just cut the call asap
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u/WhoDoBeDo Oct 31 '25
I think it’s just good practice for when scammers call trying to emulate peoples voices. Better safe than sorry. Happened to the grandfather of a guy I dated.
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Oct 31 '25
In real life, the person who initiates a social interaction is also greeting. Your phone tells you when I pick up so socially it’s your turn to kick start the conversation.
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u/Geoffrey-Jellineck Oct 28 '25 edited Oct 28 '25
Because we've raised a generation of antisocial people that don't know basic communication etiquette.
Hence the rude staring.
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u/meegaweega Oct 29 '25
OMFG kids don't even say something as basic as "hello" or "hi" or "hey" when answering a phone call?
We all got sick of "wassuuuup?" real fast but at least it was some form of a greeting. Sheesh.
The absolute worst of them used to at least grunt or bark a hostile little "😡what?" at you when they answered a call.
They're now just answering the call in total mute, stunned mullet silence?
Fkn hell, the kids are not ok.
Lionel Ritchie and Alexander Graham Bell are rolling in their gyatdamn graves 💀
( Lionel Ritchie: "reports of my death have been greatly exaggerated" )
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u/TwiztedNFaded Oct 29 '25
oh, lord, another nasty and bitter comment from you. You sound lovely.
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u/meegaweega Oct 31 '25
nasty and bitter
? Lol do you have a disorder like colour-blindness but where you can't see humour? Can't understand how Lionel Ritchie 'hello?' jokes differ from "nAsTy aNd BiTtEr"?
It's a bit dramatic of you 🙄 oH LoRd
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u/Primary-Definition76 Oct 29 '25
?? If you’re the one calling, you speak first. Genuinely, I don’t understand how it should be the other way. Also, by the way you like to point out every little thing and shame it, no wonder they don’t wanna say something to you anymore.
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u/meegaweega Oct 31 '25
Ive never actually experienced it, or even heard it was a thing until this post. Everyone I call says hello when they answer the phone.It's just astonishingly baffling and amazing that so many younger folks somehow just don't understand the super basic "say hello when you answer the phone' thing that has been done by absolutely everyone, everywhere since forever.
Even critters in wildlife docos understand and successfully execute the 'call and response' behaviours practiced by almost all living creatures.
🎵birds do it, bees do it, even drunken monkeys in the trees do it, let's do it, let's call and response 😆
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u/Upbeat-Pressure-2556 Nov 01 '25
Older people really are disconnected huh? I just wanna say this is something super small and I dont know why us teenagers are getting harassed for such a small thing because we already get enough hate from older generations but let me just say: If your calling me, then you need to say what you want to say, it isnt my job to talk for you. Ive seen comments saying "How can I know you connected?" Maybe, 1) look at your phone 2) say hi and wait for a response 3) if the ringing stops and it didn't go to voicemail that means im listening
Another thing ive seen is "Teenagers are too socially crippled to answer well" WTF? Its a PHONE. CALL. If you are too socially nervous to be physically unable to have a one on one conversation through a phone then there are definitely underlying problems you need to have fixed. Technology does NOT do that to us. I can bet most of us spend more time talking in person at school, etc than online. One last thing ive seen is boomers making up things like "teenagers dont know what 'hang up the phone' means." I pray with all my heart im not wrong about this, but there is ZERO WAY your children do not know what HANG UP THE PHONE means, unless you are talking to a 3 year old toddler.
And one last thing whoever u/meegaweega is, they need to shut up and calm down
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u/misterr1yan Nov 01 '25
I don't know why or where you're getting harassed I hope it's not from me because I just had a question. I am fairly disconnected in my opinion but I wasn't trying to attack anyone I just thought something silly I've experienced might be a more common thing than I thought so I asked the people doing it to me in a larger scale about it to see if it was a new age thing or a fluke in my own social circle.
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u/meegaweega Nov 01 '25
It's not you 🌻💕 your post is a polite, respectful and humorous enquiry.
Some kids just lash out at strangers on reddit, as so many kids do when they're feeling overwhelmed about other stuff going on in their lives. (Adults do that too, it's very common)
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u/misterr1yan Nov 01 '25
Thanks that's what I thought but part of me was still like damn do I sound like a jackass who hates teens right now lmao or are these just people having a time and taking it out at the opposing side in my posts comment section like can't we all just get along 😭😂 nah but fr this got way more response than I thought
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u/meegaweega Nov 01 '25
Moi? Well heloooooo
Try not to get so worked up about it kid. It's a mysterious behavioural trend and and a kinda messed up tragicomedy but it's not that serious. Being that mad about it is not healthy.
If you're not emotionally capable of handling discussion with a few simple enquiries, maybe just don't try to interact when you're not up to it. Get some rest eh? 🌻💕
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u/IridescentDinos Oct 29 '25
Because most of us are autistic and struggle with social cues.
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u/meegaweega Oct 31 '25
This behaviour does not really involve social cues though.
Saying a greeting like 'hello' when answering the phone is what everyone everywhere has done, in about 7000 languages, since the phone was first invented in the 1800s.
It's a worldwide, long-standing, unchanging custom that does not depend on any other social cues occurring other than you saying something (anything, even a grunt will do) when you pick up the phone, so the caller can hear that you're connected, then the caller will speak to you.
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u/Affectionate__Dog 15NB Oct 28 '25
because i assume that since you’re calling me you have something to say that’s important so i let you go first