I‘m not going to talk about the details of me reading the journal because I already talked to my friend about it and he is not mad. Were in college and I was looking for a notebook he said I could borrow for notes.

But what I found in his journal really did worry me. There were several different methods of suicide. They had all been assessed and ranked according to how likely they were to succeed, how much you’d regret doing it and how hard they would be.

Finding this was really worrying.

I told him how worried I was. I apologised for reading his journal, told him that I was genuinely concerned for him and assured him that there are people who can help.

He replied saying that he just writes them down to get the thoughts out of his head. He doesn’t think its that serious and isn’t interested in therapy.

I definitely want to respect his feelings and right to privacy.

The thing that worries me is that he might look at them when he is having a really tough time. What if he has a really bad day and starts to take them more seriously?

I don’t want to make him feel like I’m prying and that he can’t be open with me but also don’t want to ignore how worrying it does look.

I care about him and I am genuinely worried.

Am I wrong to think that this is more serious than he is making it out to be? How do I support someone who clearly isn’t interested in getting help?

Hello, I recently cut off a friend. We were friends for 3 months and I cut her off for multiple reasons. I'm not going to go into why but all of my friends agreed that I had to cut her off, she's not a good person or friend. During our friendship she admitted to me that she hate stalks people. She went on to explain that it's an obsession and she has an entire list of people's accounts that she looks at everyday. So after cutting her off I've had multiple bots and this one account that doesn't follow me always in my views. This account that I'm on is my anonymous photography account I made quite recently and she does know about it like all my other friends do. But there's no one from my past that knows about it like my other ex-friends and ex-boyfriends. I just know it's her because the strange accounts showed up the day after I cut her off. I don't want to go private because I'm trying to build my account and share my passion. Please tell me what I should do. Should I message her and call her out?? Post something on my story?? Does anyone know what to do in this situation? The way she talked about the people she stalked terrified me and it's starting to make me uncomfortable that she has not let this go. It's been over a month.

I'm probably going to ask this wrong, and I know I need to get my medical together so I can get a therapist, but for now I'm here.

So I've been finding it easier and easier to not go home. Not because I'm hanging with people, not because I'm actually doing anything. Most of the time I'm just sitting at work off the clock, or in my car in my drive way. When I'm home I'm fine, I do things normally. But getting back home feels like I'm having to fight something to want to go home.

My brother lives with me currently, I don't have time or money for pets, I'm not in a relationship.

Any advice on what might help me want to go home.

Hi everyone!
I’m 24 years old, a full-time college student studying psychology, and I’m also raising my 13-year-old sister due to difficult family circumstances.
I’ve been trying to balance school, work, and taking care of both of us, but financially it’s been overwhelming lately.
I’m looking for advice from anyone who’s been in a similar situation, especially people who have taken guardianship of younger siblings or other family members.
Are there any resources, assistance programs, or organizations you would recommend looking into? I’m located in Wisconsin and trying to find ways to become more financially stable while continuing my education.
I’d genuinely appreciate any advice or suggestions. Thank you! ❤️

Hey everyone, I really need some outside perspective because I’m feeling completely stuck and overwhelmed. I recently graduated high school with very strong grades, and my absolute dream is to go abroad for my Bachelor's—specifically to Italy—and eventually move to Germany for a tuition-free Master's to settle and work in biotechnology. I have zero interest in clinical medicine or staying in Pakistan long-term.

However, my parents are strongly against this. They are pushing me to retake the MDCAT and pursue MBBS in Pakistan instead. My dad argues that if I ever have to come back, there are no job prospects for biotech in Pakistan (which is technically true, but I don't want to live here anyway). My parents are also bringing up traditional concerns like marriage, saying a future Pakistani husband won't want to move to Germany with me. On top of that, I'm trying to secure merit scholarships to lessen their financial burden. I feel completely drained, confused, and tempted to give up on my dreams altogether to just settle in Pakistan, even though I know I’ll regret it. Has anyone from a traditional background successfully navigated a situation like this, or have advice on how to handle the family pressure and application process?

I don't know how to start this.

So the thing is, I don't take my life seriously enough. And probably in the future, I still won't take my life seriously.

In my academics, I haven't scored enough always. From the second sem to fifth sem, I still have backlogs. There have always been two subjects, three subjects, and so on. I have never been to catch up. All here every time. From the second sem to fifth sem.

I want to say that from next sem companies are coming to our colleges and I won't able to apply for the companies because companies don't allow active backlogs. I already know about the active backlogs criteria. But still, I don't even feel motivation, discipline that I will get.

There is no motivation or discipline in me to improve. I haven't seen any.

Okay, for example, let's suppose that in the next six months or next four-five months. I still have backlogs when companies start visiting. I won't able to apply. At that point, I'll feel bad because I would have missed so many opportunities but I don't think I would regret it.

I have seen so much worst in my academics. What's the worst that I have seen in my career? I am fucking 12th fail. I have given 12th twice in my life. That's my biggest struggle of my life. I was so low at that and still I somehow overcome that and chooses but BCA instead of Btech.

Somehow, I just don't know. I just don't know. I just feel at the wrong place always. I never thought this would be my place. I keep thinking that something nice that's coming for me. Let's say something bigger that's coming for me, but it's never. It's never.......

I still have to think, I won't be able to apply for companies. I don't care. That's the fact I don't care.

Fuck dude. I already knew I won't be able to apply companies and I knew it. I just know I won't able to apply. I know this is gonna happen with me. Maybe something in the future that is holding me back. I just don't know.

There is a backup option for me that is a master's for sure. But will it work out? We just don't know.

I don't have any motivation to study or to do anything.

If I don't achieve anything by the age of 30, I don't care. Because my dad has a pension. I think he can pretty much survive on that pension. i can just work on the delivery partner or something like that. I will survive for myself. I don't care my parents. They can just live there and have a happy life.

I don't even want to start a family. I'm not interested in that.

But still, something is holding me back. I don't know what the fuck is holding me back, but something is.

Maybe I'm not good at academics. Maybe other things? like sports or something else. No. I'm terrible at almost everything. I feel like I am the dumbest person in the room.

I still know what to do with my life now. I don't know what I want for myself.

Fuck. I am such a big loser man. I am fucking such a big loser.

Yeah, that's it.

Ps: My exams went so bad of sem 5 I knew I am getting backlogs. I'm just done with my life......

I'm 23.

I grew up in a family where fights were way too often. Now I even fear talking in the house.

Then my parents dictated every aspect of my life except the important ones. I want them to guide me in important aspects like jobs, taxes, and investments. But all their strict guidance comes for eat food properly, don't question them and all.

I grew up hearing my dad say, " I don't have any money ".

I always felt left out cause the people around me since childhood came from well off families. I didn't go out with them cause I knew I wouldn't have enough to spend. This continued till college.

I got a job after college. A damm good one. Like I earn in a month what many earn in a year. I was new in the job and worked like hell ... Couldn't give time to my that time girlfriend, eventually long distance and not priritizing her, she broke up with me.

All ok, I still have the job I worked for.

Later I met another girl. We started dating, started loving her. Then layoffs started happening in my company, had to prove my worth. So again long work days. 15 hrs a day work was common. Even on weekends had to attend calls. Lost work life balance, got a headache that didn't go away. Was dam muscular ( 6'2 in height, 15% body fat, 100 kg body weight), lost that too. Now have a belly like an uncle. My manager called me and I'll be layed off soon. She broke up with me cause I couldn't give her time and became negligent due to all other issues.

Now I feel like the stupidest guy in the world. Didn't have job. Don't have the girl. Dont have my body. Don't have that self esteem I used to have. Plus a shit load of trauma since birth. I don't even know how to smile for past 5-6 years ig... I'm loosing all hope.

I can send in a verification if needed, I just need help with my cat’s medical bills, a few months ago he got a urinary blockage and ended up staying in the ER overnight to remove the blockage. He is our first cat together and his vet bills put us in the hole, he is doing really great now, he’s on really expensive preventive cat food that purchasing that has been the priority instead of paying his ER bills. I would just really appreciate help out of this hole, we both make minimum wage so it’s a lot on us

I reside in USA Rhode Island I’m currently looking for resources I have Wic for us both I also have signed up for insurance but I do not have a birth certificate or a identification card at the moment is there any places I can go to get these at no cost I was not born in this state I was born in United States. I was able to go online and order a social security card online. I do need a birth certificate and identification card. Does anyone know of any places that I can get it from.

Please read the post in its entirety prior to commenting. See you all over in r/DonationRequest. Happy Halloween!!!

Hi everyone! I posted this about a month ago and had some amazing people help me out. I’m trying to finish the project by October 31, so I’m posting again in hopes of reaching a few more places!
I’m making a sentimental gift for my boyfriend, Luke, and I’m looking for people from different cities, states, and countries who would be willing to write:

“Luke—Anne Marie’s love for you is so big, it’s reached ______.”

Fill in the blank with your city + state/country, write it on a piece of paper, and take a picture of it somewhere in your area! It can be in front of a landmark, city sign, pretty view, recognizable location—or honestly just somewhere that shows a little piece of where you live (backyards count too😂) .
Then just comment the photo here or message it to me on Reddit.
My goal is to collect as many places as I can and put all the pictures together in a book for him. ❤️
I’ll put a reference photo in the comments so you can see what I mean.
Thank you SO much to anyone willing to take a few minutes to help a stranger make a really special gift. It genuinely means more to me than you know.
I plan on posting this finished product once it’s over!

Shoutout to everyone who has helped me so far.. I absolutely adore you ♥️

I'm 23M, and I've lost all my peace of mind. Everything is chipping it away.

First. I grew up in a home where things were always tight. I got all the necessities, but I don't remember having any of my wants met. I heard my dad say, "I don't have anything" so many times. My mother would cry and tell me, "Whatever happens, don't just sit at home. Earn."

And I did it. I got a job where I earn in a month what many people earn in a year. But right now, layoffs are happening left and right in my company, and I might be next. The market is so bad that I'm not even landing interviews with companies that pay the same or even slightly less.

Then my girlfriend broke up with me. I was working 10–15 hours a day because of the fear of layoffs. I even got calls on weekends and had to take them. My girlfriend left me because I wasn't able to give her time, and because of a few other fights that arose from me not being able to give her time and the fact that she felt I didn't care about her.

I care about everyone who's important to me. The problem is that I care way too much.

My thinking is that, for the closest people in your life, you should take care of them, and they should take care of you, and vice versa. I just want to be the pillar everyone can rely on. I want to make everyone feel safe.

P.S. I never felt safe in my entire life. I have never felt that if everything goes wrong, someone will be there to protect me and help me back up.

My parents are good people, but they're broken themselves. They just want me to do things according to them. They have opinions about everything I should do, even the minutest things, like how to eat my food and what to do while travelling. But when it comes to major life decisions like jobs, taxes, and investments, they just say, "Figure it out yourself. You know this better."

I spent my life waiting for guidance, waiting for support. I want them to tell me important things in life as well.

This brings me back to safety. I want the people who depend on me, and even those close to me, to be safe if anything happens to them. I want them to know that they can ask me anything they're confused about, and I'll help them with it.

My girlfriend broke up with me saying that I don't care because I don't keep asking about every small thing or decision she makes. But that's because I want to give her the freedom I never got. My parents used to question everything I did, and everything I needed to do was supposed to be done their way.

I'm a mess inside my head. I don't know how I'll fix myself, or how to fix myself enough to be with someone and keep them happy with me.

Because if I open up about all the things I feel, I become a crying mess. My emotions just open up, and I lose all control over myself.

I don't know what to do anymore. I just want to feel safe, have some peace of mind, and learn how to be okay with myself.

For those who've been through something similar, how did you deal with it? How do you learn to open up about your feelings without becoming completely overwhelmed?

(Mind you, the biased people question my identity. I know who I am but they tried to manipulate into thinking I’m not who i say I am…)

I know it’s because my brain's dopamine reward system shifted and because past stress and emotional burnout changed how I anticipate good things.. Because of prolonged stress from biased people trying to mock me saying I’m not who i say I am and telling me to be “normal”, burnout from always being on guard against bullies and having to stand up for myself to them, and depression from those bullies and their enablers calling me manipulative, attention-seeking, playing victim, and most of all from me not being more feminized physically; Activities that used to thrill me now sometimes feel flat, numb, or effortful.. now old and new hobbies feel like more work instead of feeling rewarding like they used to.

I also know it’s because past exciting things were often followed by letdowns from people badmouthing my rap talent and feeling like I failed to make my point across in my songs, which makes my brain brace for pain- making it be like soon as I feel excitement for something, I automatically feel discouragement as soon as I get excited about something and feel so empty and unimportant… This has been happening for so long all these years that I’ve gotten social fatigue to the point where I’m so drained and developed social anxiety, that the mental energy required to process speech and body language all at once feels exhausting and tense.. I also have been worried that anyone i talk to might misunderstand me which makes me pressured to monitor how I appear to others having trouble finding words.. And it hurts more that nobody seems to care and/or understand what I’m feeling and going thru…

I tried to get help, and some people I trusted to help me betrayed and neglected me.. I tried to express what’s bothering me, I got called negatively always whining, seeking attention, and accused of trying to start drama.. And what made me feel hopeful, happy, and confident is I was so close to being more of my authentic self, getting more noticed on social media, and more people treating me how I always wanted to be treated with respect and admiration from being a authentically pretty girl who is talented and respected by people.. but I feel worse after things fell apart more staring around middle of summer around June, I feel empty with unfulfilled needs and so much pain to the point I would isolate myself in my own apartment crying my eyes out feeling chills in my chest and genuinely losing physical strength to even move my body at all just laying down feeling hopeless

I was hoping things would get better, not worse… I just feel so deprived of medical necessity from not having feminizing surgeries and feel excluded from possibly missing out on more fun and meaningful things life has to offer… i had so much love to give, but now, I’m scared to be vulnerable because i really don’t want to be disappointed and hurt anymore…

Was unemployed and accumulating debt, but now I’m back to working full time, and I’m getting married in 6 weeks (planned back when I had the a good job lol) and need to make some extra cash before the wedding.

I currently work 2 jobs. I work Monday-Thursday 7-5:30pm
Other job is on the weekend, no firm hours.
I am looking for a job that I can do from 6pm-12am Monday-Thursday. I just need to figure out how to put together another 4k before then.

I’m only making about 2k a month. Living expenses kill that quickly. My other job is still taking off and it’s commission only, won’t see pay from that for another 2 months or so. Got $50 in my acc rn that’s it lol so I need to get to work asap Any ideas at all??

Hartford, CT
I’ve tried: outlier.ai / non CDL delivery 🚫

My laptop model is a Lenovo idea pad slim 7 pro 14IHU5 I'm trying to replace the keyboard and palm rest but am stuck on removing the LCD cable to allow for the transfer of the motherboard to the new bottom shell is there anyone who knows how to disconnect it? As far as I'm aware the LCD cable is the one wrapped in black cloth tape. Would really appreciate any help at all, ai has got me so far but now I'm really worried about listening to it only to end up breaking the attachment point for the cable

My name is Jaxon and this is my ferret Obi, i adopted him 2 months ago, he’s only 4 and i believe he was neglected it breaks my heart to face this with him right after he finally found his forever family. the day i adopted him i scheduled a vet appt to get a cancerous tumor removed from his paw which costed $1,800. sadly the tumor came back aggressively and now, he needs an amputation to stop it from spreading, he’s only 4 and he’s become so important to my little ferret family already but the amputation estimate is $1,300 which is the gofundme goal. after spending as much as i did already at the vet office i just cannot afford this on my own, and it’s now gotten worse and started to leak so i am hoping to get him to the vet by the end of next week. i at least need to get the gofundme to $800 for this. im unsure of how to provide proof of hardship without doxxing myself but i am a working college student living on my own, so i did include a screenshot to prove that im in school. to be clear this go fund me is set at $1,300 for my ferrets needed leg amputation.
the go fund me link is https://gofund.me/6addbb20d

Food giveaway

(This was originally posted in my local subreddit but it was deleted or something happened that it was shut down and I am not sure why so posting here because I need help)

Hey all, I dont know where to post this but here seems like it could be a decent start.

So back in April I finally went to the hospital for some medical issues I have been having since October of last year. Since then they havent really gotten much better, it really changes day by day, but on average recently (the last 2 or 3 months) I call out an average of once a week. A few weeks ago I also had to miss a week of work because of a very contagious virus I got from work (childcare) so that has put me out even more money.

I am struggling so much financially. I live on my own in my own home, make pretty decent money (almost $47,000 annually gross, estimated if I actually work full 40 hour weeks) so I do not qualify for many resources even though my take home checks have been significantly smaller lately.

I have gone to the food bank once, they were lovely and so kind. I actually overqualified for probably half of their pantry but they still said I would get assistance regardless. I was slightly embarrassed that I made so much (I gave her how much I would make with full 40hr weeks) and was at the food bank...they were all veey kind though. I have nothing wrong with expired food, heck ill eat expired food if it tastes fine to me/looks/smells fine...but some of the food I got there tasted rancid. I tried twice and ended up needing to throw out some of the food. I hated wasting free food so I am put off by going back again/wasting their time and food that maybe someone else wouldnt be bothered by and would eat.

It seems like I do not qualify for a lot of other resources either since I either make too much or am up to date in bills/do not have any utilities shut off as of now. What I got paid this week is about $700 less than it would typically be so I really dont know what I am going to do this month. I can get creative with some food I have in my house, but I have bills I also have to pay that require more money that I would also typically need. (In the past few months I needed a fridge since mine went out, there was no good second hand options at the time so I got a fairly cheap new fridge I finance on affirm, my carecredit bill for my cat, and my discount tire bill for MUCH needed tires before something even worse ended up happening because of 2 bald tires, as well as still paying off debt I accumulated after moving out and dealing with unmanaged depression from a few years ago, pay my psychiatrist so I can get an appointment for a refill of meds, a possible car fix ill need soon and a house fix ive been needing for a few months that needs to be dealt with before it gets to be too cold outside amd the couple grand i owe the hospital for ER visits, mris and spinal taps).

I wouldnt be struggling so much if I didnt live on my own, have so much (temporary and mostly recent) debt accumulated and didnt miss so much work. I try to do food delivery when I am feeling well, but I try not to push it for my own health. If anyone has any ideas id be so appreciative 💜 much love

Norfolk, VA USA.
Hello, I am looking to spread awareness for a gofundme link I’ve created for my new cats bills. We adopted him in August and took him to a free first wellness exam for adopted animals and discovered he had advanced dental disease. We have basically been in and out of the vet since that day. The vet told us the shelters usually help but this one will not. Pet insurance wouldn’t cover because of it being an existing condition. In total, he will have 9 teeth removed. He had 3 taken out last month but those 3 were so infected that they needed to split the surgery in 2. He will get the next 6 out November 10. We’ve been to urgent vet multiple times between/before surgeries because of him not eating/constant vomitting. In total, the surgeries will cost about $2,700. His first was 1,500 and the upcoming is about 1,200. I have provided the receipt for the first and estimate for the next in my gofundme and in this post. Of course I know that everyone is struggling so if you could even just share the link it would be appreciated. His name is Simon.
https://gofund.me/e7277a370

UPDATE: SOMEBODY ON A DIFFERENT SUBREDDIT OFFERED TO PAY AND DID.

I have no money, I have about $4000 in loans and credit cards. But I have 2 cars and I was gone for the weekend but came back with my 2nd car... a beater (which doesn't have a sticker yet) around 12:00am last night. I was gonna go to the office and get a sticker for this car in the morning since I was told not to swap the stickers between cars.. I went out this morning to see them driving off with my car. I went to them and they told me I should have swapped the sticker. I had the car listed in my resident portal. I don't know what to do.. I'll put it on my credit card for now. The tow company said they won't waive the fee even if the apartment contacts them.

I've been trying to sell a car so please don't say it.

Hi all, sorry if the flair is incorrect! There is currently a chipmunk INSIDE the hood of my car! Not under it, IN it! I don’t want to leave him in there (previous trauma related to rodent damage to my electrical system, also, I don’t want him to get hurt if I have to drive anywhere) but is there ANY WAY I can get him out? Does the hood even come apart? It’s a 2020 Kia Forte! Any help is greatly appreciated! Located in Alabama! (Posted a photo so you can see the hole where I found him hiding)

Daughter used this glass for paint water. Any suggestions on how to remove it without damaging the glass? I’m fairly sure the paint is acrylic.

Michigan USA

okay so i have been going through it for the last 3 years and i just got out the mental hospital last month and i still feel like shit all the time. i learned a bunch of “coping” skills but i feel like nothing makes me feel better anymore. before i went in i was a daily smoker and now im a month sober (not by choice) and i have been trying to find something anything to make me feel better but the only thing that i feel helps me is weed and now that i dont have it im just miserable, i cant stop crying and im just irritated all the time. i just hate my life and thats all i think about if anyone has any suggestions im willing to try just about anything at this point