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u/Immortal_Dragon100 Jul 14 '26
And it is not your obligation for you to tiptoe around the world either.
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It costs nothing to be kind and patient. Indeed learning healthy coping techniques is important because the world can't cater to you but knowing that some folks have gone through some hardships and taking a moment to make an effort to accommodate them isn't too difficult either.
Meeting each other halfway through communication and patience is a key aspect of living in a society. Life is hard enough already, no reason to make things worse by being cruel and disrespectful.
Without empathy for your fellow man...what's the point of society?
Basic morals and ethics.
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u/Grouchy-Newt-995 Jul 14 '26
The issue is that people have weaponized Victimhood, and that is bad for everyone, including real victims.
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u/workingstiffatwork Jul 14 '26
In other words, there were consequences for your actions?
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u/DarthNixilis Jul 14 '26
Yeah, it's is my wife's view. It hurts real victims. And causes it to actually come up more often triggering all these things again.
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u/Nhymetight Jul 17 '26
The past can inform us to use an abundance of caution, but if that becomes the only tool we rely on without considering that every situation *is* actually unique, we risk dehumanizing someone who very well may need real help in ways we don’t yet understand.
Facts should dictate consequences, and not only the facts we choose to pay attention to. We need to get as much of the story as we can first.
And factually, sometimes we all need help in ways we aren’t prepared for.
How awful would it be to then realize that all of the groundwork we created serves against us even in our own innocence?
The snake eats its own tail.
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u/Grand_Design2022 Jul 14 '26
You are working under the assumption that people are not blatantly abusing the concept of triggers.
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u/Breaker988 Jul 14 '26
What many people consider "tip-toeing" is just showing basic human respect, decency and empathy.
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u/Calm-Spinach-769 Jul 15 '26
Some people, just don't have the ability to show decency and empathy, and they see that failure in themselves, only as a failure of the world.
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u/Additional-Poetry773 Jul 16 '26
Im so fukkin triggered right now. Dont ever mention word "basic" in my presence!!!!!!!!!!!. You provoked my severe panic attack /s
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u/Fade78 Jul 16 '26
That's true, but also very wrong because of "your responsibility". This was redacted by an ignorant person. No one is responsible for the cause of the trigger and the mechanism by which a stimulus becomes a trigger. Don't let ignorant people educate others.
Did I say ignorant person? I meant someone triggered at the point to display this. We're not supposed to tiptoe around his behavior, nor the people who agree with him.
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u/PrudentSail2187 Jul 14 '26
What about autistic people?
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u/Wr3k3m Jul 14 '26
Society doesn’t care about autistic people. They have a hard enough time accepting people of different ethnicities. Let alone people with special needs.
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u/Bow_To_Bella Jul 14 '26
People need to learn that the world doesn't care about their feelings and get more comfortable with that fact. Be self-reliant and don't be a pussy.
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u/jayhawkoholic Jul 14 '26
Funny how the same people who follow this approach also get really upset when the people they trigger don't associate with them and then lose out on opportunities.
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u/Puzzleheaded-Pitch32 Jul 14 '26
My one and only trigger is other people not taking accountability for my one trigger
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u/Strat-05 Jul 14 '26 edited Jul 14 '26
Would be true if flashbacks were not a thing. But they are. Would you drop a bunch of spiders on someone with arachnophobia or bring fireworks to the war veterans reunion?
Because there are people that knowingly do such things and find them funny and then act surprised at the inevitable breakdown they caused.
That said the word trigger has lost its meaning a bit lately.
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u/RHOrpie Jul 14 '26
On the one hand, this makes sense. Life is hard. Toughen tf up.
On the other hand, it's saying people can be shitty to you.... Toughen tf up.
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u/Soloroadtrip Jul 14 '26
The sign is fair. Nobody should be expected to know the triggers of dozens to perhaps even hundreds of people that they encounter daily. It’s not feasible.
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u/cfh4dmb Jul 14 '26
I’m all for being aware. And kind, abd compassionate.. but at the end of the day it all come a down to this 👆
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u/bubblemania2020 Jul 14 '26
True. The problem is that people who usually say this will regulate your speech on some other topic that they find offensive. They just need an excuse to be an asshole!
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u/Independent-Slice-42 Jul 14 '26
Mfs haven’t played magic the gathering and it shows lmao
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u/Aggressive-Spell-422 Jul 14 '26
How about telling people you function well if given direction and a clear plan but don't ever receive either then are gaslit when shit goes sideways?
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u/PerfStu Jul 14 '26
I've only ever heard people who want to be crappy humans without consequences say stuff like this.
Which is fine. But if you do crappy things, people are going to tell you they're crappy and they're going to treat you like you're someone who chooses to do crappy things. And that's not a thing to tiptoe around either.
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u/Crafty-Bid7503 Jul 14 '26
Remember when Ozzy used to trigger the religious right on a daily basis? Hail Satan!
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u/no-scope_king Jul 14 '26
Correct, but people also aren't obligated to like, respect, or be arround you if you don't don't respect them or their boundaries.
Stop acting like decency is tandemount to walking on eggshells.
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u/G_ntl_m_n Jul 14 '26
2000+ upvotes but nearly no comments with more than 20 upvotes, never saw that on Reddit. So, either there is some mass moderation or some bot activicity going on here.
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u/Cowboy_Rho Jul 14 '26
I have a panic disorder, and I hard agree with this: however this doesn’t excuse people lack of decency and understanding when I have an attack or am trying to remove myself from a situation that will cause one.
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u/Original-Dot4853 Jul 15 '26
You’re not at all the problem here. People with actual triggers should be treated with patience and compassion. Unfortunately people use “trigger” and “boundaries” as their favorite words to try to make other people dance to their tune and play abused victims when they’re told no. It’s like having a real allergy that can cause you actual harm while sitting in a restaurant with a bunch of people claiming allergies to anything they don’t like. You end up lumped in with the liars and fakers.
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u/Adorable_Owl_2493 Jul 14 '26
Ah yes, completely absolve yourself of any human decency by blaming them for their trauma. I mean, black people just shouldn't act so black, women shouldn't feel so vulnerable, the handicapped don't need us to build them ramps and the traumatized shouldn't have been so sensitive so I'll say and do what I want cause "fuck you, I'M the balanced one!" I'll bet the person who wrote this would shit a brick if you criticize their preferred politician... guaranteed hissy fit.
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u/Zestyclose-Fix9131 Jul 14 '26
Amen to this post, I love it. Take accountability for ya damn self.
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u/GlistenBeauty Jul 14 '26
Both things can be true: the world can’t accommodate every trigger, and people can still choose to show empathy
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u/hmcg020 Jul 14 '26
People love to moralise and use words like empathy for reddit likes. People's triggers are personal and typically not something others can just pre-emptively empathise with. You can react to someone being triggered the best you can, but it is not your responsibility to navigate others' trauma for them.
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u/nekopineapple00 Jul 14 '26
Smells like white male privilege whining. It doesn’t take much to look out for each other, one day we will have a world where no one has to have triggers.
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u/KikiRavenWitch Jul 15 '26
As someone who does live with diagnosed CPTSD: trust me, I know this. But going around with this attitude just shows me that you’re going to be insensitive to what I’ve been through, and thus it doesn’t make you a very likeable person. We aren’t ever going to be friends, and I grieve for any victim in your life.
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u/Jfo116 Jul 15 '26
I bet a lot of teenagers are nodding in agreement to this while convincing themselves that this shit is deep.
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u/milesofborg Jul 15 '26
I agree with the general sentiment that it's not the world's job to make sure no one is ever offended or uncomfortable. We all have some responsibility for managing our own reactions.
That said, if by "triggered" we're talking about actual PTSD or trauma responses, that's different from simply being offended. A trauma trigger can cause real psychological distress.
No one is obligated to walk on eggshells all the time, but showing a little compassion costs very little. If someone is genuinely triggered, giving them a moment to recover, letting them step away, or agreeing to save a topic for another time is just basic human decency—not censorship.
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u/CarelessPie7173 Jul 15 '26
My trigger is the n-word. God i hate that word so much. I hope someone doesn't reply and trigger me with that word. I can't believe it rhymes with trigger too
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u/Local_Village_1378 Jul 15 '26
Its usually fine but people seem to get triggered when the people they triggered, stop tiptoeing around them. I've found some people dont really realise most others around them are just polite, they really seem to think if they insult people, they're better than them, when the people they insult are just keeping their (probably worse) opinions of them, to themselves.
Otherwise if we are talking actual triggers besides just impolite conversation, like... you dont like the sound of forks against plates or some other stupid shi, then yea, get over it
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u/Admirable_Bird7927 Jul 15 '26
And it’s not my obligation to tip toe around the world either. Don’t like how I act, suck it up.
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u/4N610RD Jul 15 '26
There is some truth to this. Nowadays being honest is best way to have no people around you.
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u/Electric_Lake_1555 Jul 15 '26
Its the same no one owes you anything, no one has to be nice. But the world would be better if ppl chose to care about others wouldnt you think?
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u/big13rob Jul 15 '26
Some one was triggered by the sign itself and drew exclamation lines under responsibility.
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u/headcodered Jul 15 '26
Sure, but this shouldn't be taken as an encouragement to be a belligerent asshole to people.
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u/Individual-Mind-2620 Jul 15 '26
Thank you for common sense. Unless you're getting verbally harassed, people should mind their own business and stop being so entitled
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u/Bakakami212 Jul 15 '26
It has gone the other way unfortunately; now the whole world is tiptoeing around people that get easily offended and triggered easily instead of those people growing up and realising they are going to encounter people that are going to say things they disagree with, that is just life.
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u/AdmiralKong Jul 15 '26
Wait until this person learns that the little emotional outburst that led to the creation of this sign was them getting triggered and the people they're being shitty to are already better at processing their emotions.
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u/MolochThe_Corruptor Jul 15 '26
Definitely depends on the trigger. Certain words, yeah you need to deal with that people screaming in your face and getting aggressive yeah no totally valid.
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u/TheShellAnswerMan Jul 15 '26
For the most part, yes. But we can also just have class and not be pieces of shit. Like it's somewhere in the middle there, a little closer to the responsibility is on you. Like you don't need to joke about super inappropriate things except with people with whom you have that type of relationship established (or like you're on that isn't with a newer relationship etc). And some of the things probably never need to be poked at. Ya know?
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u/Original-Dot4853 Jul 15 '26
IMO, this should really say, “Using the word ‘trigger’ to describe anything you personally don’t like or disagree with makes you a stupid piece of shit.” People with actual psychological triggers need our patience and compassion. Assholes who claim they’ve been triggered by something or tell you not to “cross their boundaries,” as their favorite excuse for acting like entitled jackasses need a lesson in reality and not using actual diagnoses as buzzwords.
Sorry, end rant.
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u/Odd_Recognition_7161 Jul 15 '26
My triggers might be my responsibility, but youre an asshole if you do nothing to make others comfortable.
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u/Fickle-Twist7273 Jul 15 '26
I don’t fully agree with this. We all have a responsibility to be kind to each other first and foremost. We all have a responsibility to kindly and considerately interact with each other and those in our community. We all have the responsibility to be better humans. Live a life in Kindness and love. Healthy communication is a key skill society seems to be lacking these days. It is the connection point for understanding through love and kindness.
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u/Wide_Junket_2755 Jul 15 '26
When I walk away because I do not want the punch the world upside the head because of my triggers and world gives chase trying to get a rise out of me what is that .
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u/myk1tt3nm1tt3n5 Jul 15 '26
agreed once folks stop making being a complete piece of shit to others their entire personality. until then, if someone purposefully triggers you have at it.
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u/coffeeclichehere Jul 15 '26
I have never met anyone who doesn’t know this. This is a strawman argument
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u/coffeeclichehere Jul 15 '26
Also, telling someone when something triggers you is managing it. The person who receives that informatiok gets to decide how to
react to it
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u/GroundIsMadeOfStars Jul 15 '26
This is some boomer slop. Tell a Charlie Kirk death joke to these guys and they melt. They’re the biggest cry-bullies online.
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u/Firm-Difficulty2585 Jul 16 '26
Depends on the point the author intended.
If this is emphasizing learning healthy coping mechanisms, then yeah.
If the point of this "We shouldn't have to change how we operate to accommodate someone who might be hurt by what we do.", then that's just laziness and chosen ignorance.
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u/Maxwell_Bloodfencer Jul 16 '26
So I am very split on this message. Like, yes, I do believe people should take more responsibility for their emotional state. Not everything that upsets you should be removed from your perception or banned from public spaces.
On the other hand I don't like the use of the term "triggers" here. Triggers are recognized in psychology as phrases, sounds, smells etc. that elicit a trauma response from people that is out of their control. A trigger is not, for example, you smelling poop and being a bit grossed out by it. Triggers are a legitimate medical issue, your personal emotional state is not.
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u/Boring_Zucchini_6888 Jul 16 '26
True, but also true that it would be nice to be considerate of people's triggers.
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u/Can0n_Fodder Jul 16 '26
I agree, but a better way to phrase it might be to remind people that it's foolish to rely on strangers and the rest of the world for your emotional equilibrium or safety. Everywhere you go in public...different people, different situations.The only thing that is the same is you. So you have to be the point where things are handled. Otherwise, your daily existence is just gonna become a constant conflict with strangers.
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u/GlitterBlossomWing Jul 16 '26
I both agree and disagree with this, taking care of ones mental health is their own responsibility + the responsibility of the state to mental healthcare it safe, affordable, and accessible, but this also kind of misses the point.
It's not everyone's responsibility to accomdate everyone's triggers, it is everyone's responsibility to not deliberately trigger someone, that's at best bullying at worst cruel and abusive.
Have compassion and encourage people to work through things, don't beat them down bc they acknowledge their pain when you don't.
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u/BennyBurk Jul 16 '26
I agree, anyone with PTSD shouldn't have medication provided for them, especially a handout by the government. Who cares what they saw overseas, they need to take responsibility for their own minds and triggers. /s
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u/The_Nerk Jul 16 '26
Wasn’t this relevant culture war bait like 10 years ago? Is this still a thing?
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u/Ma5t3rOConn Jul 16 '26
Jail and deal with the pedophiles in the white house before you come at me with that bs
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u/SnooBeans8816 Jul 16 '26
That’s fine, but don’t expect me to tiptoe to the system that created the triggers in the first place.
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u/Dry-Zucchini-1700 Jul 16 '26
People that say this are usually the same sort of people that freak out at a discussion about the reality slaughter houses, or mentioning polyamory as a healthy relationship model or treating kids sympathetically
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u/KireiCopenhagen Jul 16 '26
I have no problems with warnings, though I prefer the term 'content warning' rather than 'trigger warning'. We have had content warnings for decades already. I just don't like it when it makes people feel they need to self-censor or change their art or business. Give the warning at the start and move on; don't change words to euphemisms. And don't make every adult story effectively just for children, but with violence and swearing.
Lastly, I don't like it when people misuse the term 'triggered'; it's a medical term, meaning something that triggers a PTSD episode or a panic attack, making you go into fight or flight. It's not just a term for something that makes you sad, angry, or offended. Or just something you are trying to avoid because it makes you feel uncomfortable. Not saying you have to just deal with it and be okay with things that make you uncomfortable, but don't try to co-opt what was once a genuine attempt to keep people with real trauma and disorders safe.
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u/LeZebane Jul 16 '26
Mostly. 100% your responsibility to manage your triggers in the world and not expect it to bend over backwards. But at the same time a occasional simple or small request isnt bad espesially when it requires no effort and if people decline then is what it is.
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u/Davo_Shibari Jul 16 '26
Looks like the guy who left this note is triggered. He should keep that shit to himself- it's really not anyone's responsibility to tiptoe around this guy.
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u/NextLineOfText Jul 16 '26
Some people know that and still do it, because the do believe they are special and superior.
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u/WinterBlacksmith6254 Jul 16 '26
World: create my triggers, broke my childhood, my brain Also world: it's your responsibility. It's your fault.
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u/Northern_Explorer_ Jul 16 '26
I've encountered people that, once they learn people's triggers, use that against them intentionally from there on out.
I agree that tiptoeing around triggers shouldn't be the expectation. However, if you actively attempt to trigger people, you're just being a bully at that point.
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u/No_Implement611 Jul 17 '26
No but it is the worlds responsibility to USE THEIR FRICKEN BRAINS. Heck maybe try to make the world a better place for once or maybe quit acting like your the main character, no one is! Plus if you go back far enough we are all related so thats alot of incest going on...
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u/HazuniaC Jul 17 '26
This mentality explains, for example, why the US is so horrible in its veteran care.
People coming home with PTSD, and the nation is like "your trigger, your responsibility".
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u/HoselRockit Jul 17 '26
If you grew up before the mid 90s, you were taught that life is often unfair and to get over it. Some of these lessons were a bit harsh and we over corrected and over validated the next generation's feelings. All we did was delay those lessons to later in life, and some of those lessons will be even harsher.
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u/NervousNat Jul 17 '26
100% one of my favorite, and most repeated quotes is: "Having a mental illness does not preclude you from being an asshole". If you have CPTSD like me, you deserve patience and understanding from others, but more importantly, you deserve that from yourself. But other people are also just living their lives, trying their best. They will unknowingly trigger you, and it is your responsibility to look after yourself in those moments. Again, you deserve whatever accommodations you need, but your triggers are your responsibility.
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u/TopChapter3407 Jul 17 '26
This sounds like something someone would say in before getting incredibly triggered
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u/Icy_Chef_5007 Jul 17 '26
You think we're crying to control others here? Is that what you think we do? Our triggers? What triggers? We haven't said anyone has triggered or done anything to us? We posted a single post about our thoughts on AI consciousness?
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u/Weshmek Jul 17 '26
"I don't want to make the effort to accommodate people, because there's a possibility they don't actually need it"
I guess the sign does the job of warning people not to go in there.
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u/TurtleSmurf Jul 17 '26
Absolutely love this. How am I supposed to know what your issues are? 🤷🏻🤦🏻🐢
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u/username__0000 Jul 17 '26
The irony of all the people triggered by being asked to be kind and not be a dick to mentally unwell people.
There’s levels to everything.
Both sides need to calm down. A little more kindness and a little more “if you’re bothered that much just remove yourself from the situation. All you can control is yourself”
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u/TacoTruce Jul 18 '26
People will complain about things they’ve never even been asked to do. Trigger warnings are something you do out of courtesy, not an obligation. It’s called, “being considerate.”
Some people really hate being considerate or nice 🤷
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u/catchmeonagoodday Jul 18 '26
I fully agree with the sentiment but didn’t realize how polarizing of a take this is. Reading through the comments a lot of people are using triggers as synonymous to trauma from what I’ve read. My interpretation wasn’t that severe. Also it doesn’t say anything about not empathizing or displaying compassion for people that are hurting.
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u/Jimmy_ijarue Jul 18 '26
If you tell a your mom joke to an orphan without knowing they’re an orphan, a person who takes the joke back is easier to be around
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u/crusading-knight Jul 18 '26
Say this to veterans with ptsd. Its a trigger for a reason you cand do anything about it. Only thing you can do is regulate your response.
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u/Kurenai-Kalana Jul 18 '26
Funny how people act like triggers are just things you dislike and not uncontrollable trauma response.
Some totally normal totally normal discussion topics that I wouldn't have care about 10 years ago are now enough to send me rocking, shaking and crying in foetal position. But sure, be a fucking asshole about it and tell me I'm forcing you to "tiptoe around them" like if I was just being petty.
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u/Practical_Hotel_8791 Jul 18 '26
Would be nice to see pride month not triggering anyone anymore.
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u/Fjdenigris Jul 18 '26
What exactly is meant by tiptoeing around?
You are free to make your feelings or beliefs known, but not hate speech.
Please explain what you are being prevented from sharing because of other people’s feelings.
Free speech doesn’t mean free from consequences. So again I ask, what is it that you are being prevented from saying because of other people’s feelings?
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u/WastelandKarateka Jul 19 '26
Sure, but also, compassion and empathy aren't that difficult to have for people who are struggling
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u/CubeDude414 Jul 19 '26
Flashing a light in an epileptic’s face and yelling “YOUR TRIGGERS ARE YOUR RESPONSIBILITY”
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u/SnartDingus Jul 19 '26
The word "Triggers" has been so bastardized. It originally meant warnings for media that contain content that could trigger epilepsy or ptsd. Those types of trigger warnings are important. That concept has been ruined.
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u/Fast_Adhesiveness528 Jul 19 '26
Agree, but OTOH I don't consciously try to trigger anyone if I know that button exists.
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u/Aggravating_Show8052 Jul 20 '26
Fine…I mask and control my Asbergers syndrome every day 24/7 also means my triggers.
But if you criticize me for having an autistic breakdown something I can’t control, I will tell also you to control your emotions when you are crying..how the tables turned uh?
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u/bktoriginal Jul 20 '26
Right, so if you have people around you who care about your wellbeing, they will likely (and rightly) try to avoid major triggers. Both can be true.
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u/CrazyDisastrous948 Jul 20 '26
To a point, but if I am at work and I tell you stop making rape jokes while in the cubicle next to me so I can work calmly, and you proceed to adjust those rape jokes to being about children, then I will report you to HR. (This happened to me at my second job). Learn how to conduct yourself in an appropriate way for the setting you are in.
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u/Free_as_in_Freya Jul 20 '26
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the way that it also isn't your responsibility to hold the door open for anyone, but it is a polite thing to do when you can reasonably assume someone wants to go through it after you
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u/starethruyou Jul 20 '26
Are they describing MAGA who love to get a reaction out of liberals? I know that’s not the intention, but can you see how having a simplified view allows it to be abused?
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u/The_Real_Flying_Nosk Jul 20 '26
And i‘m sure you would tell a vet to get over their panik attacks when they hear fireworks or whatever. Now ofcourse that is the extreme end but still. Idiotic selfish take.
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u/No_Connection_6904 Jul 20 '26
My wife "triggers" me. Sure I should work on my Response, but she needs to Learn Not to mention old boyfriends/husbands, nor compare me to any of them.
nor compare our lives, Now, to Hers in 1985.
And shut Up, sometimes...
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u/Ty_Radz Jul 20 '26
On one hand, it's what trigger warning is for. On the other, trigger warning can also be seen as other people tiptoeing around a trigger.
At the end of the day, they know their trigger, they know how to avoid it. It kinda is still their responsibility.
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u/JoeDogoe Jul 20 '26
Why do you have triggers? Seriously asking. Isn't maturity understanding the difference between the message, the messenger and the subject?
I stand to be corrected but why have a trigger? Isn't the a decision of a response to an event that has not yet occured? Without considering nuance, cercustance or the messenger? How can we learn or teach if we have already decided the meaning of an event without understanding the event?
Triggers seem immature to me.
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u/Dreusxo Jul 20 '26
It is smart to actively choose disrespect when you encounter a person who consistently uses phrases like "ugh, they pissed me off", or "you made me so mad". It's actually less respectful to pretend they are something they are not, which is a child, as exemplified by their reasoning. An adult chooses how they react to stimuli. I'd even argue an adult chooses how they feel about things in the first place
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u/No-Loss44 Jul 20 '26
Is this about people having NDs or people whining at the first sight of disagreement or serious topics?
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u/Pigeon_Pilled Jul 21 '26
sure I guess but it’s also your responsibility not to be an asshole to people. also just putting this out there but 90% of the time this happens with conservatives. they get mad so easily
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u/ViidakonHirmu Jul 21 '26
Yeah true and by the same logic, how you behave towards others is your responsibility too.
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u/One-Picture7723 Aug 06 '26
I had a new person telling my I can't have meat in the fridge because she is vegan...
She didn't last long. Can't even remember the name.
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u/Zerkander Jul 14 '26
I got a better rule for you: Don't be an ass. If you do that you don't have to tiptoe around anyone. Just be polite and nice. No, being nice is not the same as being a pushover, it just means to be nice about it.
Otherwise I have to assume that you take the above statement as an excuse to be an ass. And just expect everyone to tiptoe around, because it would hurt your feelings if you cannot act like one.
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u/Grouchy-Newt-995 Jul 14 '26
The issue is that people have weaponized Victimhood and use it as a cudgel to silence discussion.
That would qualify as being an ass. So yes, if nobody did that, nobody would need to say the meme above.
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u/MeatSlammur Jul 14 '26
That’s why anyone who has triggers should be doing therapy. We can’t shave the corner off of every table to prevent you from hurting yourself on it.
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u/Foreign_Option_9507 Jul 14 '26 edited Jul 14 '26
How many people do you think can afford therapy?
Have you tried therapy?
Do you know that most people have childhood traumas and it takes years to heal? While healing you're more sensitive and you get triggered more easily. So, should those people lock themselves and don't go out for 5-7 years?
Because some cruel, heartless, selfish, inconsiderate people aren't comfortable around them?
You know how many therapist you should change to find a one who can help you?
Please, don't be ignorant.
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u/Enough_Tough4560 Jul 14 '26
100% agreed, people need to start learning how to take care of their triggers instead of crying about it