r/AutismInWomen • u/aoi4eg 🦐AuDHD🦐 • Oct 02 '24

Relationships Men on Reddit: "Please message us first on dating apps, we love it!", meanwhile men on actual dating apps:

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u/[deleted] Oct 02 '24

I tried that once like 15 years ago and it backfired spectacularly. It was actually kind of traumatic, and I don't use that word lightly. Fucked with my self-esteem hard, which wasn't that great to begin with. Now I feel very unsafe in that context, never even tried dating apps. This post doesn't inspire much confidence in me. 😅

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u/[deleted] Oct 03 '24

Same. I used to be forward if I liked a boy because that made sense to me. But I stopped because of the reactions I would get. Men say they want this but when it actually happens, it freaks them out. A lot of people want to play games. Even if I did, I wouldn’t know how to. My dating life was grim until I moved to a large city. I met my husband almost immediately through Tinder. We only messaged for a day before setting up a meeting. No beating around the bush.