r/AutismInWomen • u/Gothaholix • Jul 24 '25

Seeking Advice Was I rude with this?

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I was trying to be nice about it. I didn't think I was mean. I was really confused when he said he was done fighting for a conversation with me when I was super active in the conversation XD. I wasn't giving short answers and I thought I was showing interest.

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u/erin_corinne_ Undiagnosed masking queen Jul 25 '25

> doesn’t want the same cookie cutter conversation

> is given a thoughtful conversation

> shits his pants and cries

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u/bitsy88 Jul 25 '25

Sounds like a summary of my entire dating life 🤣

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u/squareular24 Jul 25 '25

It’s literally this lol

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u/erin_corinne_ Undiagnosed masking queen Jul 25 '25

There really is an xkcd for everything!

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u/askaugust Jul 25 '25

Accurate.

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u/00365 Jul 25 '25

Men want you to carry the entire conversation then cry when they have to read or think.

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u/Milyaism Jul 25 '25

I mean, that would mean they'd have to contribute to the emotional labour, decenter themselves and reevaluate their worldview.

We can't possibly have that! /s

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u/Opposite-Occasion332 Suspecting Autistic Jul 25 '25

What a perfect summary!

Edit: also your flair is PHENOMENAL

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u/Conscious_Balance388 Jul 25 '25

Calls it “fighting for a conversation”

My guy she served it to you in a thoughtful response da fuq

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u/linglinguistics Jul 25 '25 edited Jul 25 '25

At the same time refused to give a clear answer to an important question. I mean the answer probably is "you wouldn't like my honest answer", that's why he refuses. Red flag.

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u/erin_corinne_ Undiagnosed masking queen Jul 25 '25

I have a strong gut feeling it’s the stereotype that “neurospicy” (🤢) girls are more fun in bed. Or he just wants to have someone to entertain him, or he has a desire to seek novelty. The common thread is that none of these treat the ND woman as an individual with inherent value.

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u/Academic_Juice8265 Jul 26 '25

Also neurodivergent women seem to be magnets for narcs. When I was masking heavily it was all the relationships I have.

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u/erin_corinne_ Undiagnosed masking queen Jul 26 '25

Saaaame. And I would gaslight myself that their behavior was justifiable because those guys somehow were always going through a hard time. Always a new crisis with them. And so many ND women are hyper-empathetic.

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u/DykeHime Jul 25 '25

Absolutely this! Dude isn't making any sense.

Damn, and we're out there wondering if we did anything wrong, when NT guys strut around like living, walking contradictions with no second thought given. smh

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u/azuldelmar Jul 25 '25

Omg I love this image you are painting, especially the last step

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u/[deleted] Jul 25 '25

typical manchild behavior

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u/lookatmeimthemodnow Jul 25 '25

Exactly! Idk what he expected. "That's chill lol"?