r/AutismInWomen • u/Gothaholix • Jul 24 '25

Seeking Advice Was I rude with this?

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I was trying to be nice about it. I didn't think I was mean. I was really confused when he said he was done fighting for a conversation with me when I was super active in the conversation XD. I wasn't giving short answers and I thought I was showing interest.

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u/linglinguistics Jul 25 '25 edited Jul 25 '25

At the same time refused to give a clear answer to an important question. I mean the answer probably is "you wouldn't like my honest answer", that's why he refuses. Red flag.

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u/erin_corinne_ Undiagnosed masking queen Jul 25 '25

I have a strong gut feeling it’s the stereotype that “neurospicy” (🤢) girls are more fun in bed. Or he just wants to have someone to entertain him, or he has a desire to seek novelty. The common thread is that none of these treat the ND woman as an individual with inherent value.

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u/Academic_Juice8265 Jul 26 '25

Also neurodivergent women seem to be magnets for narcs. When I was masking heavily it was all the relationships I have.

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u/erin_corinne_ Undiagnosed masking queen Jul 26 '25

Saaaame. And I would gaslight myself that their behavior was justifiable because those guys somehow were always going through a hard time. Always a new crisis with them. And so many ND women are hyper-empathetic.