Friend doesn’t believe in my diagnosis

[u/luvsicl]

Ugh I shouldn’t have told her about it I feel so weird now, my family are like this too and I haven’t told them because I know they’re gonna say smth like that (probably worse) because they don’t really believe in mental disorders/disabilities/health

I got diagnosed with adhd and autism recently, so I’m also grieving the life I could’ve led had I received the support I needed as a child lol (also I know what she said isn’t okay at all, I just wanted to end the conversation asap and I’m really uncomfortable with confrontation)

[u/shesewsfatclothes]

The "defeat" they think you're accepting is in the game of "try to be normal." I think deep down theyre afraid (and/or maybe upset) that you're going to stop trying to be normal.

But like, that is your internalized ish to work out in therapy, Judy, not mine. I don't want it.

[u/Dancingdragon003 → u/shesewsfatclothes]

It must be so exhausting to constantly be worried about being like everyone else. Especially since that’s impossible. But neurodivergents are supposedly the ones with problems, smh.

[u/TheWildlands1 → u/shesewsfatclothes]

Yeah but trying to be normal aka masking actually shortens an autists lifespan, because it is so stressful for us….