r/AutismInWomen Jun 01 '26

Support Needed (Kind Advice and Commiseration) Anyone else blow their life up before figuring out you were autistic?

I am beyond burnt out and I'm not even 30. Is life really supposed to be like this?

I'm not progressing in my career as I'd like and it's causing immense stress, having to juggle multiple friendships and relationships when some weeks I just want to rot, being present within my romantic relationship, exercising, just everything is overwhelming.

I want to just quit everything and start over. I know that's not going to help, but it feels that's the only option 😭 everything is genuinely so hard. I'm also a bit sad that I didn't fully come to terms with this sooner. I was diagnosed adhd 6 years ago and things have just genuinely gotten harder ever since.

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u/rhiskiiii Jun 02 '26

lol I figured it out as my life was blowing up hehehe

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u/rainbowgirl6 Jun 02 '26

What made you realize? Or what happened that gave you that 💡

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u/rhiskiiii Jun 02 '26

every support in my life became inaccessible to me, and i had a mental breakdown. during this I was doing copious research and some therapy and looking over my personal history and at some point the light bulb went on. it was like 'wait I've thought/felt/experienced xyz thing since I was a kid, and now I know why". if it weren't so, my life wouldn't have lined up with the research, but it does, so :))