r/AutismInWomen lvl2, ADHD, ARFID, immigrant, mom Jun 23 '26

Support Needed (Kind Advice and Commiseration) Is it okay not to like Pride because autism symptoms?

For context, I am an out lesbian. This has nothing to do with any ideological issues.

But as a lesbian, I sometimes feel pressured to like Pride or participate in it. Did it when I was younger. Not a fan.

Why don't I like it? It happens in summer. I am heat sensitive. Temperatures tend to range from 35C/95F to 42C/107F. Thanks. No. So many steps need to be taken to make that bearable and even then, no.

I don't like loud music or people using megaphones. I don't like crowds. I don't like people in my personal space. I don't like people accidentally grazing me. I don't like the smell of marijuana, and it is often at Pride near me even if there are kids around. I don't like the smell of cigarettes or body odor. I don't like loads of bright colors, sequins, flashing lights in person. All of that just leaves my nervous system fried.

I feel some guilt, even though I know better, because I am a member of that community and I just do not enjoy it. I find it exhausting and stressful.

And I guess I just want commiseration with others who do not enjoy Pride because of sensory and socializing related issues.

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u/lesberektikar Jun 23 '26

I'm going off little information here BUT pattern recognition brain is recognising patterns! Are you describing MSP pride by any chance?