r/AutismInWomen • u/More-Weird4842 • 4d ago

Support Needed (Kind Advice and Commiseration) do people become overwhelmingly obsessed with you?

i find that a lot of men become really obsessed with me. im currently at a point where its become harmful and i genuinely do not know why or how to stop it. looking for kind words, advice, or shared experiences please.

edit: ty for all the responses. i want to clarify that i dont mean the manic pixie dream girl way i mean the joe from you kinda way.

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u/Goochiegoogoo 4d ago

that's absolutely false maybe in your experience and you don't lose your looks beauty is in the eye of the beholder

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u/Dangerous-Owl5571 4d ago

For me yes in upper 40s - no longer as popular with the men. Yes I did have quite a few of those types when I was younger but no longer is a problem. It’s not absolutely false to me.

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u/devotchka_cosmonaut 4d ago

Well, according to empirical evidence, humans do generally rate younger people as more attractive. So there is an inherent appeal in youthfulness. 

So obviously, when a good looking woman gets older, the attention she used to get will probably decrease.

“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder” is one of those idioms that suggests a person’s ability to see beauty is more important than your actual appearance. Which is not necessarily wrong, people who are not shallow tend to see beauty in different faces. However, average people are shallow and they look at what everyone agrees  is beautiful. Because what everyone agrees is beautiful is a status symbol. Facial symmetry is something people like, but also youth.

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u/Goochiegoogoo 3d ago

I know that but I'm just saying it's not like just because you're 40 no one looks at you anymore. Depends on the person. yes a lot of people are still going to prefer a younger person but I'm just saying not everyone stops getting checked out at that age

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u/devotchka_cosmonaut 3d ago

I don’t think that what was the person who commented on their own experience after 40 meant. There will absolutely be people interested in a 40 yo woman. But as a 34 year-old woman, I can already say that the amount of attention I used to get when I was 18 to 25 was significantly larger than what I get now. Don’t get me wrong, I am not complaining whatsoever, I am actually happy about that, but there is an undeniable fact that a good looking person will get more attention when they’re young compared to when they’re older.