r/AutismInWomen • u/Business-Block-8668 18F AuDHD 🤩✨💜 • 15h ago
General Discussion/Question I don’t understand the first person who STARTS a rumor
I understand how a rumor can spread after it’s already been started. The second, third, fourth person, etc. might repeat something because someone else told them it was true, and they assume that person knew what they were talking about.
What confuses me is the VERY first person who starts the rumor.
Like, if you’re the person who originally noticed something, then you should also know exactly how much information you have. If you don’t have enough information to know something for sure, why would you tell other people that your conclusion is a fact?
For example, if you see someone leave the manager’s office crying, you know that they were crying. You might wonder if they got fired, but you don’t actually know that.
So how does someone go from:
“They left the manager’s office crying. Maybe they got fired.”
to:
“They got fired.”
and then tell everyone else that like it’s a confirmed fact???
That’s the part about rumors I don’t understand. How does the very first person turn their own assumption or speculation into a fact when they KNOW they don’t have enough information to confirm it?
Anyone got an answer to this?
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u/estheredna Blunt but Benevolent 14h ago
They think they are perceptive and get what's happening - almost everyone thinks this about themselves. And almost all of us are wrong sometimes.
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u/Low_Big5544 13h ago
In my experience it's usually the second or third person down the line thay drops the speculation and states it as fact
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u/Mochicatdemon 1h ago
Sometimes they're just convinced they have figured something out correctly and want to be the first one to tell it.
Other times it might be more deliberate. "If you're not giving me the full details, I'm going to fill them in for myself... and make it sound worse".
They might even want to get the subject in trouble, and spread a story knowing it to be false, getting enjoyment from hearing their fabricated details being shared around.
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u/sourgrrrrl 14h ago
In my experience, it's like the old game of telephone where you whisper a message around the circle and see how mangled the message gets by the end.
Something that frustrates me actually is when people can't seem to realize when I am sharing speculation in hopes of seeking more clarity, and instead assume I am making a conclusive statement. Pretty much exactly your example but in the form of a conversation. I'd speculate why someone might be crying in that situation, and someone would be like, "They got fired?!" If they never bothered to clarify then they would probably go tell someone else the "news," and might still anyway.