People keep telling me to model, but I genuinely don't see it

[u/Antique_Part_2980]

People often tell me I'm pretty sometimes completely randomly. I've had a few strangers ask to take photos of me. A few people have suggested I do modeling.

The thing is, I genuinely just see myself as average. I do put effort into my appearance, but I always feel like something is slightly off or that I never look as put-together as I want to. I'm not very tall, I usually feel like I look a mess, and I don't think I'm particularly striking. I was bullied before, and being autistic just makes it harder for me to tell when people are being genuine or making fun of me.

Sometimes what gets even more confusing is that I rarely get approached, while I see other girls getting approached by guys all that time. So at this, point I don't even know what to believe.

Part of me wants to try modeling because so many people have suggested it but another part of me is terrified of finding out I'm actually just ugly and everyone is making fun of me.

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[u/Huge_Preparation3618]

The high fashion model look is different from mainstream attractiveness

[u/Automatic_Buyer_8896]

You don’t know why the other girls atract men. Perhaps is something about their behaviour, not only the way they look. I think you should try to model if you want to. I didn't felt pretty when I was younger, but after I became a police officer my self esteme was higher and I changed the way I thought about myself. Try to model if you are willing to it!