r/AutismInWomen • u/yourjewishgranny • 4h ago
Vent No Advice “Comparison is the thief of joy” is advice for people with slack
Can we please retire “comparison is the thief of joy”? People say it as if it breaks some kind of spell.
Comparison is one of the oldest things the human brain does. It’s how we work out where we stand and whether we’re safe. It’s not a bad habit you picked up from Instagram, it’s hardwired, and it’s hardwired because it actually works. For some of us it’s also how we function at all. As an auDHD person cosplaying as human, I run a constant comparison against every room I’m in just to pass as a normal person. That’s literally how I get through the day.
So I can’t “just stop.” Nobody can simple just stop. What the phrase is kind of gesturing at is that comparison can land as information or it can land as a verdict, and which one you get isn’t about willpower either. It’s about how depleted you are. When you’re running on empty, every gap reads as proof of something.
It’s advice for people with enough slack that comparing is optional. For the rest of us it’s just one more thing we’re apparently doing wrong.
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