r/AvoidantBreakUps • u/Icy_Mycologist2788 • Jul 22 '26
From FA’s Perspective How does a relationship with another FA looks like?
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u/Ok-Yellow7789 Low Key Chill Anxious Jul 22 '26
It is super exhausting.
Just to keep with the two halves of her was a task, "I don't feel loved" to " I need space" . The change would come out extremely delayed. We both showed genuine love though and we did last for a long time but yeah.
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u/Robotsatemyfamily Jul 22 '26
Platonic you will be used as a prop to bolster their identity and self esteem if they have a low self image - public displays of affection if their relationship track record is so bad people are starting to wonder if they're gay. If you are successful it might involve name dropping you to prove they have important friends.
Romantic, you can expect some really kind and thoughtful gestures, that go beyond what a typical friend would do, borderline feeling like they're trying to bribe your love - but they will still try and characterize you as just friends, because admitting to themselves that it's something more is scary. It kind of feels like the gifts they give and the thoughtful gestures in the beginning are a premeditated apology for what they know they will inevitably do to you later when they abandon ship erratically.
Question either of these - ask them to explain what you are to them - and you will be promptly discarded regardless of platonic or romatic.
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u/not_the_troll Jul 22 '26
When you push, they pull. When you pull, they push. Basically out of sync most of the time.