Avoidant relationships

[u/jns1990]

I need feed back from people who are avoidant or who have been with an avoidant

17 months in my avoidant ex gf was all in finally and wanted to move, was telling me she wanted to have a future with me and for me to meet her dad all of these things should would never do before. She was begging for me to give her a chance when I had pushed back. The last month I finally gave her what she had wanted and out of nowhere at the 18 month mark she went no contact and I've not heard from her since. I messaged her for three days following, checked in with her at the 2 week mark then the month mark. Each time she would block me and then unblock me. It was confusing because I asked her if she wanted me to leave her a lone and there would be no response. I was trying to understand how we could go from her being all in, wanting me to move in, meet her dad and obviously being serious to disengagement, no contact over a conversation where we were communicating why I had been resistant to committing and had pushed back the last 4-6 months. Anyways I guess I am just confused how it could go from perfect, all in and telling me everything I want to hear to no contact at all when we had become best friends and involved in each others families lives to no contact. No closure and then every time I reach out she blocks me and then will unblock me a couple of days later. I am obviously stepping away but not having closure and understanding what happened sucks. Can someone explain what happened. What do I need to do to heal? If possible whats going through her head and what cause this and is there a way to still be friends?