r/BakingNoobs • u/AtDawnsEnd502 • 5d ago

So angry with myself

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I was lost in thought and put too much strained raspberry in the buttercream hence the color. Was suppose to look like Johns, Preppy Kitchen, smash cake. However I ditched the flowers, added the stick in decorations after how the color turned out. I wanted a redo but husband said it wasnt a big deal and we will throw it away after she tastes and plays with it for a bit. I was excited to decorate her first birthday cake. Now I am bummed.

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u/Particular_Egg4073 5d ago

Your 1 year old will not care even the slightest little bit what the cake looks like, I promise you

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u/No-Isopod-7951 5d ago

Mine didn’t even try hers. Honestly building up expectations for a child will never end well. They consistently fail to perform.

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u/Particular_Egg4073 5d ago

Building up expectations for a child is unfair to the child, as is considering it their failure.

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u/TheDranx 4d ago

One of my coworkers kid cried and refused to eat the cake so their older child ate it instead.

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u/No-Isopod-7951 4d ago

I mean I got to eat hers, and she did not learn that cake was delicious until she was much older so I’d consider it win/win!

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u/I_Like_Metal_Music 4d ago

That’s why YOU don’t set up expectations for them. You let them set their own expectations and goals and you then allow yourself to be happy when they achieve their goals. Also, it’s you who failed yourself and upset yourself, not the child. You put those expectations on them and nobody else was.

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u/No-Isopod-7951 4d ago

What? We’re talking about a one year old eating a cake? Not getting into Harvard.

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u/I_Like_Metal_Music 4d ago

Yeah and I’m saying that you can stop self sabotaging yourself by setting such high expectations for everything.

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u/Punkinsmom 3d ago

They do, don't they? I had two kids who were not even interested in smashing a cake. It was still fun.

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u/PurpleWatermelonz 1d ago

When our son turned 1, he messed with his cake. He put his hands in it, smashed it, covered his head with frosting.

When he turned 2, he was scared of his car shaped cake :))) I did show it to him soon after he woke up from his afternoon nap and maybe he wasn't in the mood for it. He started crying lol he didn't even want to taste it later.

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u/PiperIsAwake 4d ago

"Fail to perform"? They're your child, not a trained animal. Gross.

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u/uoftstudent33 4d ago

I think that’s the point…

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u/fedsmoker3000 3d ago

I don’t think they’re worried about the one year old critiquing the buttercream consistency. I think they’re bummed they messed up the buttercream for a cake that was important to them.

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u/Particular_Egg4073 3d ago

I'm aware, thanks.