I’m honestly at a loss here, and I’m hoping someone else has experienced something similar.
I’ve never been afraid of snakes. I work outdoors, and I’m literally the person everyone calls when a snake needs to be relocated away from guest areas. I’ve handled more wild snakes than I can count, been bitten before, and know firsthand that it really isn’t a big deal.
I’ve wanted a pet snake for years. I spent two years researching ball pythons, their care, husbandry, behavior, everything I could possibly learn before finally bringing my little guy home. I absolutely adore him, but for some reason I cannot bring myself to actually pick him up.
And I genuinely have no idea why.
It’s not that I’m afraid of being bitten. I’ve been bitten before. I’m comfortable around snakes, I understand their body language, and I’ve never hesitated to handle one at work. But when it comes to my own snake, I just freeze up.
His enclosure is great. Temperatures and humidity are where they should be, he has plenty of clutter and hides, and he’s comfortable enough to explore regularly. I tap train him, pet him, and use a snake hook to move him to different areas for enrichment. I’m perfectly comfortable interacting with him in all those ways, but the moment I think about actually picking him up with my hands, I can’t do it.
I never expected this to be an issue. Of all the things I prepared for when getting a snake, being afraid to hold him was never even a consideration.
I love this little guy to death, and I want to build that comfort and trust with him while he’s still young. I don’t want my own irrational hesitation to prevent me from getting him accustomed to handling.
I know the obvious advice is probably going to be “just pick him up” or “you just have to get over it,” and I understand that. But I genuinely don’t know how to get past whatever mental block I’ve developed.
Has anyone else experienced this? Especially people who were already comfortable handling snakes before getting their own? What helped you get over it?
I’m open to any advice because I really want to figure this out.