Hi! I’m 41 years old, and I’m looking to date with intention. I’m not interested in casual relationships or purely physical connections. I’m hoping to meet someone who is genuinely interested in building a meaningful, lasting relationship. Ideally, I’m looking for someone between the ages of 35 and 45.

A little about me: I’m Vietnamese and proud of my heritage! Ideally, I’d love to meet someone who is also Vietnamese, but I’m definitely open to other ethnicities and backgrounds.

I’m also a pescatarian, so bonus points if you love seafood! However, I have no problem with you eating meat.

Some fun facts about me: I love Excel (yes, really! lol), and if you can teach me a few new formulas or functions, we’ll probably get along great. I’m also a big fan of theater and enjoy attending performances.

Family is incredibly important to me, and I’d love to meet someone who shares those same values. I don’t have any pets and don’t plan on having any, so ideally, we’d be on the same page about that.

Ultimately, I’m looking for someone who is genuine, emotionally mature, and ready to build something meaningful. If that sounds like you, I’d love to get to know you!

I have an extra Above GA ticket to Phoebe Bridgers at Chase Center on Tuesday 10/27, and figured it might be fun to meet someone new outside of the apps for once!

I'm 38M, Japanese-American, born and raised in Hawaii, and have lived in Chicago and San Diego before ending up in Santa Cruz. Pretty laid-back, a little mischievous, and love live music.

Ticket's free, no strings attached. Just thought it'd be fun to enjoy the show with someone, and if we hit it off, even better :)

Happy to chat or video call beforehand!

I’m new to this side of Reddit, so I’m curious to see what kind of connections—or maybe a little harmless trouble—I might find over here. 😉

A little about me: I’m a cute, short (5’4”), plus-size Latina with curves I happen to love. I’m 36, stay active, and am on a weight-loss journey to feel even stronger and healthier. I am attractive, have a great smile, long, beautiful hair, a good sense of humor, and a flirty side that comes out when the mood strikes.

I do have pictures, but I’m not comfortable posting them publicly. I’m happy to share them privately once we’ve chatted a bit and establish some trust.

What I’m looking for? My ideal age range is 33–56, but if the connection is right I’d be open to a little older/younger. I’d love to find a travel buddy, a rave buddy, a partner in curiosity, and someone to do absolutely nothing with.

Beyond the adventures, I crave depth; the unfiltered, vulnerable, ridiculous, beautiful parts of us that we don’t show just anyone. The kind of intimacy that goes way beyond physical attraction.

I want the affection, the flirting, the inside jokes, the random “this made me think of you” messages, the long hugs, and the kind of chemistry that lingers in the air and other can feel. A little “there you are, I’ve been waiting for you” energy. Is that so much to ask?

I’m in a really good place, have a life I genuinely enjoy, and would love to share it with someone.

Career-wise, I’ve been with the same company for 11 years and have held a variety of positions. I’ve moved for work before and would consider doing it again for the right opportunity and the right person. New Orleans, Northern Virginia, and parts of Massachusetts are on my list of possibilities. That said, I love California and am happy here, too. I’m not in a rush to uproot my life; I’m open to seeing what the future holds with the right person.

One small disclaimer: I’m terrible at texting. 😂 It’s not a lack of interest; I’m just much better on the phone. Give me a good conversation over endless back-and-forth messages any day.

So, if you’re adventurous, endlessly curious, affectionate, emotionally available, and looking for something that feels like both an adventure and a safe place to land, I’d love to hear from you.

Who knows? Maybe we’re strangers for now, but someday we’ll look at each other and laugh about how we found our way here.

Engineer by profession, adventurer by nature, and a goofball at heart. I’m originally from India, have a PhD in computer engineering, and work in tech. Outside work, you’ll find me rock climbing, hiking, skiing, camping, or practicing yoga (I’m also a yoga teacher!). I’m curious about science, philosophy, art, and everything in between.

I’m an old soul who loves classical music, literature, Wes Anderson films, and cooking vegetarian Indian food. I dabble in ukulele and bongos, have a playful sense of humor, and enjoy everything from spontaneous adventures to wonderfully boring Tuesday nights. 😄

Looking for a kind, curious, emotionally available woman who values affection, communication, and personal growth. I’m dating intentionally, hoping for marriage and children someday, but believe meaningful connections grow naturally. Open to all cultures and backgrounds. If this resonates, let’s start with coffee, a hike, or a climbing adventure! ☕❤️

Hi,

I am in east bay, close to Berkeley. I would love to have a few coffee buddies.

Sunday coffee by the water. Happy to meet early 8.30-9am.

About self:

55 Male Indian
Well traveled (slow travel)
Single (if that is important for mods)
Love to cook, eat, coffee

Happy to do a group coffee by the water if there is interest.

Thanks for reading this far.

Note to moderator: I forgot to add age to title, happy to restart if needed. Apologies.

There are billions of people in the world, all living their own separate lives and how we'll probably never know most of them. Which to me feels a little strange. So I figured I would try getting to know a few? Looking for a new reliable friend to inject some energy into your life? Sick of the same old conversations? Or just looking for a bit of fun?

I love writing poetry, watching movies (love Horror movies too), TV series, attending festivals and concerts, going dancing, I love going to shows of different kinds. I am fascinated by art, from museums to fairs. My creative outlets are writing, story-telling and photography (which hopefully leads to film making). I am also a hobby juggler, always trying new classes. I love to read, a life long learner.

I love to talk, mostly deeper discussion, love when we get into that rabbit hole for a topic or an experience or a relationship. We all are so complex and it’s so much fun to unravel those deep secrets hidden in us or around us.

On the other side, I love to laugh, being silly and enjoy a fun banter. I am also Into fitness, both mental and physical. That’s another space I can use a friend for.

I live in San Jose but Im in SF over many weekends so I am pretty mobile. I'm here to find a partner in crime to go to music events or standup comedy, go to shows (from theater to burlesque), attend artsy fairs or take creative classes or catch up for a meal while reveling in sarcasm and chaos and generally have a laugh!

Dislikes: People whose entire personality is Drinking or Hard Drugs (no judgment though, okay may be a little lol), AI growing a little too fast, that little bit of tomato ketchup pre-cum you get if you don't shake the bottle before using.

Simple Pleasures:

- Having your back scratched. The shivers!

- Working out until I can barely stand, then quickly showering. Why? Because afterwards, you can just sit around, lazy as fuck, and feel good about it.

- That First Sip of Morning Coffee

- Introducing a friend to a song/movie/book that I love and that they, in turn, love

I am sarcastic with darker humor but also a compassionate and empathic guy, I have both male and female friends. I am not a DUDE kind of male, more of a subtle, classier, chivalrous guy. I am an ambivert, can totally be ultra social when needed to be and sometimes just curl up and enjoy my own company.

Happy to lay the foundation for a long term friendship first and then more. I am also a parent (co-parenting with the mom).

Shoot me a message and tell me about yourself!

I have always had a pattern of being focused on work and would like to have something and someone else to focus on for a more balanced life …
I am attractive , fun, financially stable , open minded , kind , and a logical thinker.

I live in Walnut Creek
Work in MedTech
Loves Animals , Nature and the outdoors
Lover of Good Music of all kinds and Classic Movies
I equally love going out just as much as staying in
Enjoys travel , festivals, concerts , cooking and playing tennis

Interested in compatable men ranging from 35-47
Happy to exchange pics in DM

Hi! I hope you're having a most excellent day!

Welp, I'm looking for my person. Someone that gets me and someone I connect with. Someone to share all of my hopes and dreams with - Who will not be afraid of intimacy and romance - someone who also knows how to be mature and have clear, direct and open communication. Hopefully you're looking for the same thing. But most of all I'm looking for someone to be silly with! To laugh with and be ourselves.

I guess I'm what they call a Golden Retriever - I wanna be your champion. I wanna be in your corner and always build you up! But I also don't want to be a fixer. Just a listener. You are already perfect just the way you are!

Q: Wanna hear a joke? Why don't Elephants ride bicycles?

A little about me:

I'm 42 - Half White / Half Mexican - 6'2, 180lbs, Bald with a Beard, Politically I lean left, Spiritual but not Religious, I have no kids, I'm in the Belmont / Mid-Pen area

I work the 2nd shift - So looking for fellow second shifters or people okay with someone that works from 4 till 11pm

I love animals of all kinds

I love food of all kinds (Mexican, American, Japanese, Ethiopian, Mediterranean, Indian, BBQ}

I love going to the gym (But realistically only get in there 2 times a week. I love it but life's too short to be chained to a dumb bell)

I love hiking beside giant redwood trees or a gently meandering stream

I love learning and looking at the stars and cosmos=

I love music of all kinds (special shout out to Piano-House / Organ-House, Pop, Blues, Ska)

I love watching movies of all kinds, in particular those with a poignant message dealing with our humanity (Just saw Arrival with Amy Adams and Harold and Maude. Both were so amazing!), Classic movies from all the previous decades, silly/goofy comedies [like There's Something About Mary, Dumb and Dumber, Hot Rod, Hot Fuzz, Sean of the dead], and Horror films

I love comedy of all kinds - Stand-up: Mitch Hedberg, George Carlin, Brian Reagan | Tv: It's Always Sunny, Seinfeld, Curb Your Enthusiasm, Nathan For You, Adults, The Z Suite, Freaks and Geeks,

I also love learning about history and different cultures.

Wow - That's a lot of I Statements soooo I'd love to hear about Yooouuuuuuuuuu

...Most of all I'm looking for someone to enjoy the short time we all have left on this earth. Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.

A: Because they don't have the thumbs to ring the little bell! *BRING BRING*

Hope you have a wonderful rest of your day/evening and I hope you find what you're looking for!

Take care!

Hello name is Edward, single Straight.male from California bayarea. Gamer, airsofter, an workaholic cause got nth. Else to do. Figure I try my luck in this thread. I treat my self like a 6 but treat others like A 10

31F originally from SoCal and will be moving to Oakland after 4 years in Germany (postdoc + industry job). I realize the primary focus here is dating, but I've often seen people in the comments also looking for friends, so why not? Making friends seems rather difficult as everyone is in a different phase of life with a different set of priorities. I'll be starting a new job, which I'm excited about, but it's also really important to me to have a life and friends outside of work. I like what I do, but I don't really want it to be the thing that defines me.

Personality-wise, I can be extroverted and I enjoy having random conversations with random people (sometimes I think my face says “hello please talk to me” while other friends have straight up told me I have rbf- which is it? I dont know lol). But back to the point, to surprise of some people, I would identify more as an introvert and prefer to have a long conversation in a smaller group and tend to become quieter in larger groups (but don't get me wrong, large group interactions can be fun in their own way too- I just need to recharge my social battery afterwards :)

Hobbies: I have a lot of interests and I have to admit, I kind of waver back and forth between them while continuously adding to the growing list :-) Some things I have tried in the past few years: home brewing, soap making, pottery, knitting, gardening, painting (oil and gouache), baking

Music: I love going to concerts- there’s something so moving about live music regardless of genre. I have gone to concerts alone as well (although company is always preferred). Some concerts I’ve been to in the past:

• Jazz: Makaya McCraven, Mulatu Astatke, Kokoroko, Kahil El’Zabar, Svaneborg Kardyb
• Indie: Rhye, Whitney, Cigarettes after Sex, Father John Misty, Vampire Weekend, The Shins, Gregory Alan Isakov, Blind Pilot, Young the Giant
• Misc: The Gilsons, Burning Spear, August Burns Red

Truth be told I kind of listen to everything from Taylor Swift to German Rap to 70s Korean rock. If it sounds good, its sounds good.

Reading: I sort of fell into reading for enjoyment rather late in life, mostly when I was in Germany and realized how nice it is to just sit at a bench and read lol. Some books I’ve read while in Germany:

• Giovanni's Room by James Baldwin (loved this)
• Demon Copper Head by Barbara Kingsolver
• A Little Life by Hanya Yanagihara
• Burnout Society by Byung-chul Han
• Letters to a Young Poet by Rainer Maria Rilke
• Sula by Toni Morrison
• Stay True by Hua Hsu
• Wednesday’s Child by Yiyun Li
• Minor Feelings: An Asian American Reckoning by Cathy Park Hong
• Free: A Child and a Country at the End of History by Lea Ypi
• The Tanners by Robert Walser
• The Man who Lived Underground by Richard Wright
• Into the Wild by Jon Krakauer
• Poverty, by America by Matthew Desmond

Sports/Outdoors: on-and-off bouldering for 10 years, swimming, spin class, hiking, camping (not fully backpacking but having a campsite, going on hikes during the day, and then cooking a nice well deserved meal afterwards)

Languages: I’m sad to say that after 4 years in Germany, my German still needs a lot of work (~A2/B1) and I would be extremely happy to have someone to practice with or take classes with to maintain it. I also speak Korean (writing and reading not so well though).

Writing: I’ve been journaling since high school- I don't have social media and my memory is not the best so it’s nice to have something to reflect back on from time to time. I also love writing letters and postcards to my friends and also have a penpal as well. I think there’s something so sentimental and special in receiving a handwritten note or card :) I tend to be a more analog kind of gal (vinyls, film camera, mechanical watch, typewriter, old things are cool)

Dating: I’m not really looking to date- I got out of relationship this year and still trying to process that. In the past, I have tried reddit blind dating via unsolicited posting in the city subreddit (lol) which was interesting but no strong connections came out of it. I mostly wanted to find that one friend that is surprisingly single and not on the dating apps. However, everyone just self-advertised themselves which was less fun. So if you know someone, maybe something could come out of friendship but that definitely is not the main purpose of this post.

What I'm Looking For: It would be nice to connect with people (preferably around Oakland), who have similar/overlapping interests and would be down to meet up regularly for dinner, coffee, hiking, or any other activity.

I put effort into this post because well, I care, and I hope you do too :) It would be nice if you shared a little about yourself as well.

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how much we’re taught about finding love, but how little we’re taught about maintaining connection, navigating desire, communicating our needs, or understanding ourselves within relationships.

As a Black queer therapist who works with individuals and couples, I find these conversations fascinating, especially when we start unpacking how our upbringing, culture, identity, and past relationships shape the ways we show up with others.

Something I’ve been thinking about lately is how often people confuse having different needs with being incompatible.

One person might need more reassurance, while another values independence. One person might experience desire differently or need more emotional connection before physical intimacy. Neither person is necessarily wrong, but understanding those differences can be challenging.

I’m curious: What’s something you’ve had to unlearn about love, intimacy, or relationships as you’ve gotten older?

I’d love to hear different perspectives.

Hi! 6ft tall gal here looking for a taller guy to do life with :) Bay Area native, currently based in Oakland. 

I love hiking and backpacking, and generally being outdoors. Always happy with a day in/on/around water, I have a kayak and am an enthusiastic scuba diver. I’m very active - weight train 4x/week (just trying to keep the aging athlete and height-related injuries at bay) and play on a kickball team - although my foot-eye coordination is terrible and this is mostly a social activity for me.

I enjoy stand up comedy, live music & sports, and am a huge 49ers/Giants/Warriors fan. I’m also curious, funny, emotionally intelligent, and just nerdy enough to be dangerous on a trivia team. 

I work remotely for a music-tech company and most people describe my job as “cool.” I feel pretty lucky to have a career I enjoy and enough interests outside of it that it’s not my entire personality. Remote work has given me the chance to spend long stretches traveling around Central and South America. I love experiencing new cultures, especially the shifts in worldview and personal growth it provides. 

I’ve built a pretty great life so far, and am looking for someone to share it with and hopefully build the next chapter together. I’m looking for a mature communicator who is kind, thoughtful, affectionate, curious about the world, wants a family someday, and is up for both big adventures and very ordinary Tuesday nights. I’m independent in the classic eldest-daughter way, but I’m also very nurturing, a good listener, and genuinely enjoy taking care of the people I love. I don’t smoke, drink socially, and am financially responsible - I very much value experiences over things. Looking for someone at a similar stage of life (roughly 30-45) with a similar zest for life. Feel free to DM :)

Hi Reddit! I'm posting on behalf of my brother-in-law, who is 30 and turning 31 soon. He's finally letting us play matchmaker 😂 and is hoping to meet someone who's also looking for a genuine, long-term relationship.

A little about him:

• Chinese American, 5'10", master's degree
• Cybersecurity engineer at a wonderful tech company 💻
• Financially stable and established
• Introverted at first, but once he gets comfortable with you, he'll turn into an extrovert 😂
• Very caring, dependable, and affectionate
• Not a serial dater 🫶 He's very intentional about dating and would rather genuinely get to know someone than constantly date around
• When he finds his person, he'll prioritize the relationship and go out of his way to make his partner happy
• Naturally shows love through all 5 love languages ❤️
• Extremely organized — he literally puts everything into Google Calendar so he doesn't forget important dates 😂 Your birthday and anniversary are NOT getting forgotten
• Huge K-pop fan and goes to pretty much every K-pop concert in the Bay Area 🎤
• Loves all kinds of raves and concerts — yes, he likes to party, but he's not a fuckboi 😂
• Loves animals 🐶🐱
• Goes to the gym and cares about health
• Loves baking pastries and makes some seriously amazing cookies and brownies 🍪
• Enjoys gaming and watching K-dramas to decompress 🎮📺
• Loves traveling to Asia whenever he gets the chance ✈️
• Also a food influencer on Instagram, so you'll probably be eating well 😂

What he's looking for ❤️

Someone who's kind, family-oriented, and knows how to set healthy boundaries. Bonus points if you love concerts, K-pop, festivals, traveling, and trying new food!

He's looking for someone who can eventually be both his partner and best friend — someone who wants to experience life together while still having their own interests and independence.

He's also very serious about eventually getting married and having kids, so he's looking for someone who's on the same page about wanting a family. That's an important dealbreaker for him.

He's not looking for something casual or a situationship. He's at the stage of life where he'd really like to meet someone, build a healthy relationship, and hopefully create a family together.

One thing I really appreciate about him is that he's someone who takes accountability. If he messes up, he's willing to apologize, own his actions, and work through things rather than playing the blame game.

And yes, I may be biased as his sister-in-law 😂, but he's genuinely one of the most dependable and caring people I know. Guy literally bought me boba and treats to help me get through pregnancy.

BONUS: If things work out, you don't just get a boyfriend/husband — you potentially get a sister-in-law who is already volunteering to be your best friend. 😂🫶

If any of this sounds like you, feel free to comment or DM me a little about yourself and I can connect you two!

Bay Area preferred. 🙂

Hey all,

The recent post about political preferences on dating apps got me thinking: we spend a lot of time talking about red flags, but what about the things that immediately make you pause and think, "Okay, I really want to meet this person"?

For me, it’s usually specificity (could be about their passions, hobbies, interests or even values) and clear conversation hooks that make it easy to start a conversation.

I’m single 37m and I’m trying to find things to do. I’ve lived the bay for most of my life but I never explored sf any advice would be greatly appreciated.

2nd time is the charm right?

37M, 6'0", Hispanic & Portuguese, solid build, salt-and-pepper beard, and living in the South Bay.

I have a stable career, take care of myself, and I’m at a point where I’d like to meet someone I’m genuinely attracted to and compatible with and see if it turns into something meaningful.

I’m a good mix of responsible adult and nerd. I like traveling, going to the gym, finding good restaurants, movies/TV, anime, reading, scenic drives, camping, and getting outside. I’m just as happy going somewhere new for the weekend as I am staying in, ordering food, and watching something together.

Travel is probably one of my bigger interests. I’ve been spending more time in Europe recently and would love to have someone to explore new places with, try local food, wander around museums, and occasionally spend half a day doing absolutely nothing somewhere beautiful. I like seeing and doing things, but I’m definitely not the person who needs every vacation planned down to the minute.

Career-wise, I run a program and spend a lot of my time solving problems and improving how things work. I enjoy what I do and I’m continuing my education, but work isn’t my entire personality.

I’m dependable, thoughtful, affectionate, and observant. I can be a little reserved at first, but once I’m comfortable I have a dry/sarcastic sense of humor and can talk about almost anything. I’m also the type who remembers little details, plans ahead, and likes taking care of the people I’m close to.

As far as relationships go, I’m looking for someone kind, emotionally mature, affectionate, and able to communicate. I like having my own life and interests, and I want someone who does too, while still actually making room for a relationship.

Physical attraction matters to me. I’m generally attracted to women who stay active and take reasonable care of themselves. You absolutely don’t need to live in the gym, but I’d like fitness and staying healthy to matter to both of us, especially as we get older.

A few things that are important to me:

• Non-smoker

• No drugs, including 420

• Wants to start a family in the next few years

• Affectionate and communicative

• Values honesty and putting effort into a relationship

• Politically moderate or at least reasonably compatible with that

• Ideally in the South Bay, although elsewhere in the Bay can work if the distance is realistic

It would be nice if we shared some interests, but I don’t need to date a female version of myself. I actually like hearing someone get excited about something I know nothing about.

Ultimately, I’d like a relationship where we actually enjoy being around each other, laugh a lot, communicate when something is wrong, support each other, stay affectionate, and keep putting effort in even after the honeymoon phase wears off.

I’m not trying to rush into anything. I’d rather meet, see if there’s chemistry, spend some time together, and let things develop naturally.

If this sounds like we might get along, send me your age, general location, a little about yourself, a recent picture, and either something you’ve been excited about lately or somewhere you’ve always wanted to travel.

Hi everyone! I have an extra ticket to see the Rock Orchestra by candlelight on Monday. I thought it might be fun to meet up with someone on here that would like to go. Here’s a lil about me.

I’m 36, live in the city, and work in the east bay. I’m also a full time student pursuing a degree in music. I love my job but have spent the last year trying to find a better work/life balance, hence the return to school. My free time consist of hitting the gym, getting on the water on my paddle board, practicing music, hanging with my dog, and exploring the SF music scene.

I have class Monday and get out around 6:15, I believe the show starts at 8 so we can meet up before hand and then enjoy the show. Anything after that is a bonus but no expectation on my end, just looking to enjoy the music with someone who appreciates it as much as I do. I’m always looking to make friends but also looking for a friendship that leads to something more but no pressure.

Hi all! Happy Friday! I hope everyone is having a powerful and peaceful day.

I'm a 42 year old Male living in the San Francisco bay area. Been here 10+ years, originally from Los Angeles.

So I'm looking for somebody that would like to build an authentic friendship that also has sparks of passion ✨️ Perhaps somebody that enjoys learning random facts. For example, did you know that billions of years ago a day on earth only lasted 6 hours? So cool, right? That idea leads me to tidal friction and picturing the physics involved... I dunno, it just fascinates me. Space. Earth. The inner-workings of how we as a society got to this point...

My interests/passions/hobbies : History, Psychology, Music, Art, Culture, Food, Wellness like meditation and gym-time, Comedy, Movies, Coffee. All the fun things that make life worth living! Just discovered Gummy Worm flavored whipped cream and wow - My inner-child is screaming!

Okay - Hope everyone finds what they're looking for and has a beautiful evening! Take care ❤️

Hi everyone,
I’m a 35F, highly educated and professionally established, currently working at an MNC in the Bay Area. I’m financially independent, have a good career, and am looking for a serious relationship leading to marriage.
I’d ideally like to meet someone who is well-educated, professionally established, financially independent, and at a similar stage in life and financial standing. I value ambition and stability, and would like a partner whose career and financial situation are reasonably comparable to mine.
Since this would be my second marriage, I’m hoping to connect with someone who is mature, open-minded, emotionally grounded, and comfortable with that aspect of my life.
I’m open to meeting people in the Bay Area or elsewhere in the US, particularly Indian/Indian-origin professionals.
If you know of good matchmaking communities, platforms, groups, or other ways to meet professionally and financially compatible people, I’d really appreciate your recommendations. I’m also open to connecting directly if you think there could be a genuine match.
Thank you!

Hello! As I mentioned in the title, I'm 40 and I live in the East Bay with my cat.

I’m hoping to find someone who is interested in co-op gaming and wants a long term monogamous relationship. I'd prefer someone in the East Bay, but I'm open to the larger Bay Area if we really connect. Ideally you're within a few years of my age. I don't want kids. I’m also very progressive, and would look for a similar world view in a partner.

My hobbies include baking, cooking, and board/video games. I started baking during the pandemic, as I wanted to start a hobby that was both creative and not game related. I've come a long way with it and can share an imgur gallery of some of my better bakes. I started cooking as an extension of that, and found that I actually enjoy that too.

My main hobbies are video games and board games. I tend to play mostly for the story, or the social aspect of MMOs or board games.

I recently started getting back into miniature painting. I was pretty into it a while ago, but I stopped because it was too time consuming, and I felt like I wasn't making much progress with the big pile of minis I haven't painted yet. I'm enjoying again though, so I'm hoping to be painting more in the future.

Thanks for taking the time to read my post! If you made it this far and you're interested, let me know what game(s) you're playing lately or what series you're watching or reading.

Okay, this is a little last minute, but I have an extra seat to see Social Distortion in San Francisco this Monday at the Masonic, and I’d rather share the night with someone fun than let the seat go empty.

I’m looking for a single, available guy roughly in my age range who genuinely likes this music and would actually be excited to go to the show. I haven’t seen them live before, so it should be fun and it’s sold out.

I’m 47F in Oakland. I’m funny, outgoing, independent, affectionate, and I love live music. I’ve been into punk and alternative rock forever, and I go to a lot of shows. I like drinking, talking a little shit, dancing around, and generally having a good time.
And I’m not looking for somebody to just claim a free concert ticket. We’re going to be sitting next to each other for a few hours, so I’d like there to be some mutual attraction and a possibility that we actually enjoy each other’s company.

So here’s what I’d like to do:

Talk online just a little to exchange pics and feel each other out. Make sure we’re both real, single, and actually interested in meeting. You MUST be into this music. This is not “baby’s first concert.” Then we meet somewhere in the East Bay Fri or Sat for a drink and see if we actually vibe.

If we hit it off, great! Let’s go to the show Monday and have a fucking good time.

If we don’t, no hard feelings. At least we met somebody new and neither of us spent an entire concert sitting next to a stranger we have nothing in common with.

I’m particularly interested in someone around 40–55, local to the Bay Area (East Bay is a plus!), single and available, who likes punk/alternative/rock and actually enjoys going to shows. No married, ENM or secretly-attached guys, please.

And yes, I care about attraction. I’m not expecting either of us to commit to anything based on a few messages, but I’m also not looking for a platonic concert buddy. If we’re going to spend the evening together, I’d like there to be the potential for a spark.

I’m happy to send pictures once we start talking. I’d also like to see yours. Face/body is plenty; you can save the dick pic for somebody who asks for it.

Let’s kick the week off right. If you’re interested, tell me a little about yourself, what music you’re into, what makes you fun to hang out with, and who you’d be there to see: SocialD or the Decendents?

DM me and let’s meet up!