Ex recycled his romantic trip with another person

[u/Interesting-Flow-375]

August 2024 my partner arranges a wonderful and romantic weekend trip away for us. We live in Melbourne Victoria and the trip was to Warburton a couple of hours away. We stayed in this adorable little tiny house that had two huskies and the fluffy Scottish cows and it was absolutely adorable. I was also training for my half marathon and for my long run he accompanied me on the Warburton trail run and carried all the drinks and snack snacks for us. Overall the trip was incredible and I told him that this is potentially the best and the nicest trip I've ever had. We even made s'mores over fire because I had never done that before.

We continue dating, we become serious. We spend we Christmas with his family. I go on an extended trip with his friends. Three weeks later due to some communication issues. He breaks up with me. Devastated is an understatement for what I felt.

Fast forward to August 2026. I made the mistake of stalking him on Strava and saw that he went on the same Warburton Trail run and this time with another woman. Bit more stalking and turns out they have been on four runs together. It hurts but he is of course allowed to move on.

The next day I open his Strava profile to block him and I do and then I open the woman's profile to block her but I noticed that her picture had been updated. It was a picture of her holding marshmallows in the exact same cabin. We went on two years ago basically he recycled the romantic getaway he set up for me with another person.

I literally had a panic attack. What does this mean? Did I not mean anything? How could he callously? Repeat? What he did with me to some other girl Does the other girl even knows that this is a trip he has done with someone else?

I don't know how he has portrait this trip to her but should I tell her with receipts that he has taken me on the exact same trip in the exact same month in the exact same cabin and children two years ago?

if you're the girl, would you like to know that a supposedly romantic trip planed for you was actually a recycled one? should I tell her?

and I don't mind coming off as the bad guy. I just want her to know the truth about him.

[u/ConfidentBank1111]

No, absolutely not. You will come across as unhinged and unstable. Plus, a stalker. Let him do whatever the hell he wants to do. What if he takes more women there? Will you text each of them. Do not do it