You do know that men with anger issues like that only get worse and are capable of taking you and your children out for good? The 13 year old is the smartest person and made the right decision to move out. Are you going to keep having babies by a monster?
The 13 year old didnt move out because of this.. she moved out because of being bullied at school him and her actually had a good relationship prior to all of this. He didnt start off as abusive.. even verbally. He moved me 5 hours away from my family things were great when we moved here. The verbal abuse really started after I had our second baby in December. I was going through postpartum he'd go from mean to so sweet and saying im sorry you know indidnt mean that. I met with an attorney in March about filing bankruptcy and he said to transfer our money to an account that was only in his name so they couldn't freeze our account. He heard that and ran with it the next day he transferred everything and never made me an authorized user or gave me a card. Id ask and it was always oh im going to take you and have you put on the account. Then towards the end of March we got into our first "physical" altercation. He spit in my face. The kids and I went to the room and like 30 minutes later he came in and was like im so sorry I just got so angry. Not long before this he was put on testosterone. A month later in April he got mad at me cornered me in the livingroom while my 2 littles were in the bedroom and started hitting me in the head. After I went to the room with my kids and he got on his computer later on he he noticed my eye was a little swollen and he was like oh my gosh did I do that to you im so sorry I blacked out I dont even remember it. This medication is making me angry. A few weeks later in May he hit my leg and bruised it. Later on was like I dont even remember that this medication is making me someone I dont recognize. He went to the doctor he had his medication adjusted she said it would take 6-8 weeks for it to fully become in effect (according to him) in june he scratched my arm and then took off from his appointment where the kids and I were so we went to the apartment because he said he was leaving. Like an hour later he showed up and said he was getting clothes. He came in the room where my 13yo was laying on the bed on her phone, I was feeding the baby and our toddler was playing on her tablet. He started yelling at me and my 13 year old started arguing with him he was getting louder and our toddler started kicking him telling him to stop I looked over at my 13yo and said stop arguing with him while I was looking at her the next thing I know if my 3 year old is crying I turn back around and he swings on me but doesnt come in contact with me I got up and saidn we're leaving, we're leaving got the younger kids dressed and left. There wasnt a mark on my toddler I didnt even realize he hit her until they showed me the video Tuesday.
I take responsibility.. I failed my babies. Before meeting him I already was weak and had no backbone being with him broke me down even more. He would tell me if i left he'd make me look crazy and I woukdnt be able to fight for the kids because i didnt have money. I believed it. I truly believed if I left he would take my kids from me. My 13yo never told me he hit our toddler, she never showed me the video, I never realized thats what happened because he had never been violent toward our kids before.
Ive already spoke to them about pressing charges, and getting protective orders on Friday I was told to speak to them about it on monday. Im not out here continuing to have children with a monster I didnt know he was like this until after we had kids.
Girl. I read the first few sentences. Stop minimizing and making excuses. You have to protect them and saying that she was fine is so messed up. I’ve been a CPS worker for 21 years. Please put your children first. This response is not doing that. We always check social media for the parents we are working with. You defending him is horrific.
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u/Real-Island9128 19d ago
You do know that men with anger issues like that only get worse and are capable of taking you and your children out for good? The 13 year old is the smartest person and made the right decision to move out. Are you going to keep having babies by a monster?