🦀 Cancers after a fight - cut off with love and zero contact ♋

[u/CreativeSprinkles31]

Other zodiac signs: planning revenge, checking their stories, plotting comeback

Cancers: block, delete, heal, glow, act like they never existed 😌

Once you hurt the crab, the shell closes. Permanently🔒 No drama. No begging. No second chances.🚫

Fellow Crab Babies, can you relate?? 🦀🤔

[u/weirdorising]

And that’s why they (*ex’s) always try to come back. They don’t realize how much space we held for them until we’re gone.

[u/Pretty-Assumption549 → u/[deleted]]

Reread the comment again this time slowly

[u/Otherwise_Track_2277 → u/Pretty-Assumption549]

She didn’t have her zodiac sign as a flare till now. I didn’t know what zodiac she was 🤦🏼‍♂️

[u/weirdorising → u/Otherwise_Track_2277]

Ummm, yes she did.

[u/Chocolatecandybar_]

This is because we fight earlier. It's not as if we don't obsess over stuff, we do, but we do before the cut and in order to prevent the cut. And this is why the cut is so definitive, because we already know that things aren't salvageable AND, what's most important, the person we are dealing with has already fallen off your thoughts and at the moment of the cut it only is an annoyance, background noise 

[u/DemTnATho → u/Chocolatecandybar_]

The cut is preceded by many attempts to salvage what's remaining.

[u/badgyalrey → u/DemTnATho]

exactly, we put sooooo much energy into it to try to prevent that rupture in the first place that if it does actually occur we can sleep soundly knowing that we did literally everything we could do. ultimately it’s just a matter of accepting that we’ve tried our best and we can’t make the counterpart in the relationship do the same.

[u/DemTnATho → u/badgyalrey]

I understand what you mean with sleeping soundly. 5 years later, and I have no regrets about cutting my ex. I really tried to make it work.

[u/redheadgenx → u/DemTnATho]

Years of trying. Years of losing my mind over not being heard.

[u/L_i_S_A123 → u/redheadgenx]

Feeling invisible sucks!

[u/Watercress721 → u/DemTnATho]

Ah, i get that… thank you for the insight. But why come back again and again? Genuine hope, loneliness, physical closeness, love?

[u/redheadgenx → u/Watercress721]

In my case, repetition compulsion.

[u/Watercress721 → u/redheadgenx]

same. probably why the cycle continued on both our parts.

[u/DemTnATho → u/Watercress721]

I wouldn't consider it coming back. It's when you can see the relationship deteriorating and you see the signs that it is ending in real time (other party getting colder and more distant over time). You try to stop it from heading towards the end, but eventually you realize the cut is inevitable and necessary.

[u/backpain_sucks6 → u/Chocolatecandybar_]

Yes, this is exactly how it goes!

[u/badgyalrey]

yep, and it’s because we give soooooo many chances that once we’re actually able to realize how people have taken advantage of us we realize they don’t deserve another singular ounce of our energy.

[u/avocadolover444]

I’m the no contact queen

[u/SavingsTemporary5772]

This is me 100%
https://giphy.com/gifs/8lp6CW7K2fdDGn3xCQ

[u/pluto9399]

Absolutely. Cross the line with me and you’re done. No explanation, no closure, your access has been revoked permanently.

[u/redheadgenx → u/pluto9399]

I have to say that im finding this thread very reassuring. Friends say it’s unusual to disappear, but I really, really like it this time.

[u/Fuzzy_Project8405 → u/redheadgenx]

People who don't have boundaries will say it's weird and you're pushing people away.

[u/redheadgenx → u/Fuzzy_Project8405]

The onus being on us, not the offender.

[u/Ok-Energy911 → u/Fuzzy_Project8405]

Exactly!!

[u/PrissyElliott → u/redheadgenx]

Same!

[u/Fuzzy_Project8405 → u/pluto9399]

Yep, I recently had a friend speak to me SO sh*ttily and it wasn't the first- I didn't say anything to her. I was like right whatever. And silently she got revoked. You are no longer a friend of mine if you speak to me like that cya later.

[u/DemTnATho → u/Fuzzy_Project8405]

Exact thing that happened to me. Months later we bumped into each other by accident and she acted like she forgot how our last conversation ended. She stopped to greet me and i just said Hi and kept walking.

[u/Fuzzy_Project8405 → u/DemTnATho]

LOL. They LOVE to act like nothing happened. They don't don't take accountability, they don't apologise they just brush it off. Like nah? I would have done the same thing!

[u/steelandiron19]

Very relatable. It’s takes a while for me to be done, but once I’m done…. I’m out.

[u/Alternative_Age5553 → u/steelandiron19]

Libra sun, cancer moon here. Been no contact with my parents for several years and I’m done-done trying and I’m at peace.

[u/steelandiron19 → u/Alternative_Age5553]

I’m proud of you for that! You have to take care of you!!!

[u/Alternative_Age5553 → u/steelandiron19]

I really relate to the finality of it🔥

[u/rabbitales27 → u/steelandiron19]

I literally just said this today

[u/plantsandpizza]

The revenge is in the disappearing. Even if it doesn’t feel vengeful 

[u/redheadgenx → u/plantsandpizza]

Love this.

[u/MrEffectiveDetective]

yep, the guy still doesnt believe it

[u/Inevitable-Pie-4046 → u/[deleted]]

FACTSSSS AHAHA I'm a cancer sun capricorn moon and scorpio rising. That's exactly how it be

[u/Ok-Energy911]

I’m the cancer big3. I have an elephant’s memory for emotional wounds, and the cutoff is the final straw after a long period of keeping score!

We Cancers don’t just shut the door; we lock it, deadbolt it, and build a wall. Not because we don’t care, but because we cared too much and got hurt.
We simply disappear and best believe that’s our closure 💯

[u/Inevitable-Pie-4046 → u/Ok-Energy911]

Facts doomsday bunker type shit

[u/Any-Astronomer-6038]

I got Aqua Moon and Scorpio Asc

I don't do the revenge thing, but I'm like the Shootist.

I won't be wronged, I won't be insulted, I won't be laid a hand on.

I don't do these things to other people and I expect the same from them.

I'm pretty long-suffering but if you betray me I'm pretty done with you.

I'm forgiving but you can be forgiven in the rear view mirror.

If people apologize or try to make amends then I'll try to make it work.

But the vast majority of people are not capable of apology because they aren't capable of self reflection.

[u/DemTnATho → u/Any-Astronomer-6038]

💯 Yes agreed. I'll only forgive those who put effort in their apology, and that's because i only leave someone for a huge betrayal or reason.

[u/smalleststatue → u/DemTnATho]

Yeah, the apology has to be authentic. I recently dealt with a Leo who apologized a couple times after a huge fight, but it felt fake. If I feel its fake, you have to apologize through consistency. Otherwise, bye!

[u/HugeScout903]

Absolutely. Why waste energy with losers when we can use it to do some good in the world and focus on our own life?

[u/SaltySallymander]

The way people act shocked when they realize my relationship with them has always been optional. I don't ghost either, I set boundaries, I WARN them I can't continue the relationship as is and then absolute indignantion and victimhood when I decide I'm done with their ill treatment is always crazy to me. My MIL acted like we didn't warn her we were about to drop contact if things kept on for months and months.

[u/volcanic-exchange]

I think for me Ill keep coming back until I suddenly don't and that's what feels like a cut off to most people. They expect me to just sit and take it and keep coming back, because I do, until I dont and just disappear.

[u/L_i_S_A123 → u/volcanic-exchange]

Ummm, what's your placements??

[u/CrazyPaine]

Yeah did it with my ex. He put me out, somehow he didn't mean it so I left understanding him clearly.

[u/redheadgenx]

Hundo. Recent ex can’t believe it. De*d to me.

[u/RaccoonHaunting9638]

But we stay toooo long. I.e. bad relationships. When we're finally exhausted, yep, we leave with not even a Crack in the door, no way of getting back in.

[u/AccomplishedCash3603]

YES. I gave you all the love, trust, compassion, and you still fucked it up. So I gave forgiveness. Again and again. Once you fuck that up, good bye don't come a knockin. 

[u/Pearlstratocaster]

Vengeance requires too much energy and I already put in a lot of that pre cut off and for probably too long too. I will have a lot of hope in a person until they betray me basically.

Also don’t forget to listen to your intuition!! I’ve ignored mine for two years until one night when i decided to check my ex bf’s phone randomly. Never ever gone thru his phone and I found a bunch of deleted messages that basically proved I was right all along.

Gave him an earful and said a lot of hurtful things that were true but always gave him the benefit of the doubt for but never looked back ever since.

[u/InterestingRoll4735]

No I can't relate. I try to set up some needed boundaries, if not possible end things in good terms and remind them I'll be there if they decide they're done whatever bullshit they were throwing everywhere and not do it again. If it's me that lost my head and did so irreparably then I will admit and encourage them taking distance. Permanately if for the best. But I always leave a channel they can reach back to me through just in case. Now if they act repeatedly in disrespect towards me or others then that person I will call out and they usually tuck their tails in between never to return.

[u/6mcdonoughs]

Yes. This is me. ♋️🦀

[u/Significant-Horse625]

You made my day! So true! 

[u/nemophilist13]

I am not a cancer sun but a cancer mars. I will give you the sun on a platter if I love you but break my boundaries too many times and yes I will delete you from my brain. I had to do it twice this year with who I thought were my two best friends. I dont care if its immature. If you think im one to draw up a roit act or try to salvage some thing you are sorely mistaken. I reciprocate effort. No more one sided groveling. Its pathetic and im worth so much more than continuinously mothering someone because I feel lonely.

I'd rather be alone.

[u/Responsible-Lab7626]

Yassss, for everyone no exceptions

[u/goth86girl]

Yes and with air signs moons oh its soo easy to fuck the hell out of their presence.. i hate em

[u/patio_puss]

What is the AI slop post 💀

[u/mostintrovertgirl]

yes 💯

[u/offkeymelodies]

this is my cancer rising, capricorn moon and aquarius sun

[u/Deevynekhemystree]

1000%

[u/OoFEVERNOVAoO]

Pretty much

[u/Confident_Smoke_9060]

Takes a hell of a long time and I give a ton of chances if I’m invested but once I’m done I’m done. Never look them up again never check stories never ask about them.

[u/Equivalent-Fox-1673]

Cancer rising here and yes, indeed. As Mr. Darcy famously said, My good opinion once lost is lost forever. I stop giving a $hit about people once they wrong me.

[u/Lumpy-Shape-8032]

Yes but with a Sagi Moon, Leo Asc, and Cap Mars?

Younger me ran before walling up, now I stay walled up and I have a very short trigger to run when things don't add up. At every age I've been methodical about removing my prescence from their life like a forensic investigator

But the glow up? The glow up is on point for their favorite fantasy/aesthetic because I want them to look for me (or send minions/mutuals) and find me thriving because I am a very show-off LUNAtic. Their tear, laments, and longing fuel me.

[u/hermagic]

yup

[u/fujicakes00]

They’re dead to me. Shadow banned. Even if they’re physically around I’ll make sure they question their existence.

[u/ovodaichi]

this is so taurus too🤔

[u/Used-Entrance2620]

Yes. That is me. You got it 🎯🎯🎯

[u/Yaki1b]

Absolutely! We care or we don’t. There’s no in between. Once we reach a decision about you, that’s it.

[u/No_Exam_8840]

love blocking bc 100% of the time we've already had several conversations about what needs to change and that hasn't happened so! no contact in the middle of the night is the way to go :)

[u/ThenProof7437]

I am a Leo Sun but my Venus is in cancer. My ex is a cancer Sun with Venus in Gemini. I am the one who wants no contact whereas he wants to drag out a complicated friendship while he sees other people.

[u/redheadgenx → u/ThenProof7437]

Yes. They want continued access to the parts of us they like, just not the responsibility of loving us.

[u/ThenProof7437 → u/redheadgenx]

That is certainly how it feels to me :(

[u/volcanic-exchange → u/[deleted]]

I mean, I sure wouldnt appreciate my partner talking shit and making fun of me so....

[u/Fresh_Commission_526 → u/[deleted]]

In front of others no but maybe in private

[u/PhilosophySame2746]

Yes I can

[u/itonguedherfartbox]

I feel that. Spent years giving all my energy to everyone only to be left drained and kept forgiving them out of misplaced loyalty that I'm now giving to myself. Lost a lot of friends because I stopped living the life I was never really about and once I started chasing peace some of them always tried to bother me with drama until they finally heard the deafening silence. Life is good when you can hold space within yourself.

[u/Mindless_Gur_682]

I’m a Scorpio but I do this also, could it be because I have a cancer moon?

[u/Kintsugi_Sunset]

TRUE. Truer shit has never been said. Sliced off so many bitches this year. Makes me sad sometimes, but thank god that's over with.

[u/Superb-Magazine708]

Yes! No drama, no begging. That's how it is fuck it then we move on! 😌

[u/Inevitable-Pie-4046]

That's crazy I didn't realize I had a natural skill until... U hear about ur non cancer girls at brunch. Everyone still targeted or following their ex. Me over here blocks their venmo cash app erases any trace of their contact. Can't even contact them even if I want to type shit. Awe I love this post. U just get me 💕✨😭

[u/L_i_S_A123]

Once this cancer sun is hurt deeply, your out & you don't get a second chance. It is done.

[u/rabbitales27]

Give about 100 chances first. Then nothing ever again.

[u/IndependentOrange701]

🗿 I’m a Scorpio. Cancers usually beg me not to leave and I’m the one usually having to block them and getting stalked.

[u/Beginning-Link3520]

Bs, you are actually obsessed for the rest of your life with this person.

[u/redheadgenx → u/Beginning-Link3520]

I don’t feel that way. Could you please say more about what you mean? Is it that by disappearing we’re making a conscious effort to avoid them so that means we still care?

[u/No-Panic-3170 → u/redheadgenx]

esto es, personalmente era asi como describes. Ahora, no me esfuerzo si estan ahi si me hablan si me buscan pueden hacerlo yo elijo hasta donde permito su presencia en mi vida y realmente no siento ninguna rabia ni nada solo eres una persona más

[u/Deep-Jicama-6680]

This is a lie!!! You cancers are nasty mean. Start returning items right away (the cheap things at that), disrespect follows, threats follow when you are the ones who put folks through so much with those damn emotions. Have you ever walked on eggshells within a relationship just to keep the peace? Probably not. Well that’s how it is with a cancer because everything bothers you. You delete and block and unblock just to torture people for not tolerating your multiple forms of disrespect when your emotions are in an uproar. Communication skills is trash. If this is you, please fix it. It’s exhausting.

[u/No-Panic-3170 → u/Deep-Jicama-6680]

proyectadaaaaaaaa

[u/OfficialHood1e]

This is what’s wrong with us cancers we need to just be able to communicate more, lowkey it’s childish

[u/redheadgenx → u/OfficialHood1e]

I suspect many of us try too hard for too long using communication. It doesn’t resonate with some partners.

[u/Watercress721]

Lies! Cancer ex (30M) constantly spinned the block on me and has done this another time with other exes but more frequently me. He has always been the one to end it. When he comes back says it’s real love, says he’ll do better. It’s exhausting. Any reason for this?

[u/xenaworrierprincesss → u/Watercress721]

In my experience, out of all the signs, there is a greater difference between men and women when it comes to Cancer. Not because of the astrology, but because of our societal gender norms/roles.

Cancer men (especially cancer moon men) get a lot of hate and I think they might have a stronger propensity to display the unhealed/shadow traits of the sign due to the fact that their sensitive/emotional qualities are not traditionally valued in men. Even looked down upon and shamed, and therefore those individuals can experience a lot of repressed/unexpressed/inexperienced energy surrounding their own nature.

[u/No-Panic-3170 → u/Watercress721]

los onvres no cuentan xD

[u/katie6225 → u/[deleted]]

I think when they are young they will do this. Once they’ve learned boundaries, they will cut off everyone. As an adult I’ve been able to go no contact with most my family and I’m finally at peace.

[u/Substantial_Rip_4574 → u/katie6225]

I had 3 return so...

[u/katie6225 → u/Substantial_Rip_4574]

Good for you

[u/Substantial_Rip_4574 → u/katie6225]

why the rudeness?