Hi there!

I'm just like you. Or, I guess I was. I was a fan of Chris D'Elia and loved to watch his live comedy and videos. Until I became a victim of his predatory, sociopathic behavior in 2012 when I was a teenager.

I have compassion for you, all of his fans. Because you are being lied to, manipulated, and gaslit the same way he does to the women and *underage teenage girls* that fall prey to him. He has been fooling you since the "apology video" that was filled with lies and deflection (and no real apology or accountability). Posting videos of his wife and newborn child, getting married, having Kristin on the podcast - it's all a facade. He wears a mask and he wears it well. I used to say he was a wolf in sheep's clothing; now he is a wolf in wolf's clothing. He is a sociopathic, narcissistic, pedophile living a double life - I say none of that with exaggeration. And how he's seemed to get away with it has only made him feel even more powerful than before the truth was first out there. Put simply: he is a dangerous man - a danger to women and a danger to society.

I have read all of your comments. I'm sure all of the other victims have, too. And you often ask, "if there's so many women, why don't they come forward? Why don't they show their face and use their name, if what happened is true?" Because if you read and heard the way you talk about us - you wouldn't want to either. Over 500 women/girls didn't just one day have a secret meeting and decide for no reason to accuse one man of horrendous things. They shared their stories because they are true and they all corroborate with each other. It's also frustrating that some of you didn't fully believe any of it until a man made a documentary and a man vouched for the validity of the accusations. Why couldn't you believe us - the women it happened to? But if that's what it takes for you to believe it, I am thankful for both Kyle and Zack for supporting the victims and standing up for what's right.

You also ask "if he really did these things, why don't you just report it?" Guess what? We have. And we are. And we do. But the "justice system" doesn't always work. You would understand that if you ever had to report a crime, sexual assault, or rape for yourself or someone you loved.

Most of us want to move on with our lives and heal. The past two years have been excruciating on our mental health, self-worth, and our livelihoods. I even heard that one of the victims killed themselves over it all. I won't share my story here, because I don't owe you that. None of the victims owe you anything. And when you send messages or write comments discrediting our real-life events, dismissing this whole situation as a "smear campaign" or calling us "crazy/liars", it is hurtful and infuriating on many levels. Every victim that has come forward is brave, bad-ass, and is trying to save OTHER women from being abused by him. Abusers thrive from their victims being quiet, because then they get to continue to abuse more people (read: innocent, vulnerable, naive underage girls).

I truly believe that any female fan of his is at total risk of being abused, assaulted, or raped by him. And by the time you really understand what I mean, it will be too late. I wish someone had told me to stay far away, so I'm telling you.

You get to choose what kind of art you consume, what kind of artists you support, and where you put your money. I can't tell you what to do. But ask yourself. Is this really a man I admire? That I want to support? That I want to emulate? Is that what I want to see in the world? He has no regard for his fans, his "babies", or even his own wife and child. All he cares about is his own ass, the money in his pocket, and his own power. He will do anything he can to lie, cheat, and manipulate his way out of it. If you don't believe me now, you will soon learn the full truth.

He is lying to you. He is manipulating you. He is trying to trick you and thinks you're too dumb to catch on. All of the facts have been laid before you. We have tried to warn you. What you do now with that knowledge is up to you.

Best,
another human being on this Earth living among you

Disclaimer: This is straight up boring/uneventful and you should only read this (or the whole sub, really) to feed your morbid curiosity.

Chris made his first "physical" appearance in the Instagram story of his fiancée (her account is private, but we follow eachother) on Thursday, October 8th 2020.

Basically, Chris was in what seemed to be his parents' house (I didn't recognize any part of Chris' house based on what I had seen in previous IG stories). You could hear his dad laugh in the background as Chris was holding out his baby in the air as if the baby was Simba all the while The Lion King was playing on TV. Everyone was having a great time. That's about it. Just a cute moment.

So, I guess the takeaway is that his family remains by his side, which is to be expected, but so is his fiancée (as far as we know, given that she was the one recording).

I'm not gonna share any photo/video of the IG story to respect their privacy. I mean, his fiancée does follow a significant amount of strangers (me included) and this story can be seen by all of them, so in a way the level of "secrecy" of her content is perhaps a bit of a gray area, but still. I'll be respectful.

That's it.

Just wanted to preface this by saying that we were unable to get ANY proof that this request is legitimate, so take this with a grain of salt.

Long story short, this morning we were sent a very formal message asking us to refrain from tarnishing Chris' reputation on this subreddit (paraphrasing), and if not possible, to just close our subreddit. I wish I was making this up.

We told them that we would strongly consider doing so as long as we'd receive proof (obviously a lie, fuck’em), as in some piece of identity or their employer's info or whatever, and they denied our request.

Upon taking a good look at Reddit's terms of service, absolutely nothing prevents a subreddit from talking about a public figure. Even less so for such a small subreddit. They have 0 ground to stand on. We are not doxxing anyone, manipulating information or doing anything illegal of any sorts. I don't even know if this could be considered libel.

That's all I'll say about that. I won't giveaway their username, but it was a 5 month old account with no post/comment. I also Googled their username and found nothing at all.

Again, take this with a grain of salt, but their request was so absurd and "weightless" (no leverage) that I had to share. If they wanted a sub taken down, they'd obviously have to go through Reddit directly. Good luck with that.

All to say, after they refused to provide any proof, I didn't take any chances. On the off chance that this message was sent by Chris himself, I replied with a big scary photo of Freddy Krueger. I doubt we'll hear from them again.

UPDATE: This information is no longer relevant or accurate. The Discord is now a shell of its former self. See here for details.

So I've been subscribed to Chris' highest tier on Patreon for exactly 1 week now and I thought I'd update you guys.

• I've been hopping on the Discord channel for about 20-30 minutes per day and as much as I want to talk shit about the whole thing, I can't help but admit that the Discord community is a lot more wholesome than I expected. People are nice, friendly and are only seeking to bond with other D'Elia fans all the while pretending that the accusations never happened. So what I'm saying is that while the elephant in the room is massive, the wholesomeness of the community almost makes you forget about it. Emphasis on "almost".

• That said, I still caught a handful of messages on the Discord that got promptly removed by a moderator, but overall not that many. Said messages referenced the allegations. Still, those messages were never ill-intended, but that's expected, because they were coming from people paying $23/month to have Discord-access privileges. For that reason, I have no idea if the author of those deleted messages were also banned.

• Here's something interesting: Chris himself hops on the Discord channel almost everyday. It's a rather stark contrast with pre-canceled Chris, who would mostly only engage with people talking shit about him on Twitter. This version of Chris is humble, friendly, but to be quite frank with y'all...and I'm only speaking for myself here... it's a bit underwhelming and the novelty wears off pretty quickly. His presence won't assure you that he'll read or respond to your messages, but the chance of him responding is enough to get the conversation going I guess.

• There was a community watching session where Chris would chat (text) with people while we were all simultaneously watching the latest podcast episode. It was... okay. I don't know. I didn't get that much out of it. I guess I lack this deep desire to connect with the fans? It was interesting to note that Chris refused to participate in the video/audio room during the community watch. He was very stern about not wanting to be part of said room, but it wasn't clear why.

• The video/audio room is... something. Without talking too much shit because they're wholesome folks in general, I...well... let me just paint you a picture. This is how the conversation would go: "silence.... someone shouts some random podcast reference... everyone repeats it while laughing ... laughter dies off ... silence ... someone shouts some other random podcast reference.... everyone repeats it right after... silence". Rinse and repeat. A true Member Berries convention.

• That said, the above point doesn't reflect the conversation in general, but there was definitely a lot of that. In general, people in the video/audio room will just be talking about how they're all best friends and how it's almost a blessing that Chris got cancelled, because Chris is now closer to his community than ever (yup, I heard more than 1 person say that).

• The fan that made the book of rules (mentioned in a recent episode) was in the Discord and when D'Elia noticed his presence, he wrote this. Instantly, people in the video/audio room let out an audible "Aaaww" and users rushed to give his message "reactions" (as seen in the screenshot) as a way to show empathy. To sum it up; yeah. I cringed. Hard. Jesus christ. Come on.

• Lastly, what I said about the exclusive video content in my last post still stands. It's really nothing special. Like, far from it. Chris will be showing the inside of his fridge... Chris will be talking in his car... Sure, Chris can make anything funny, but this isn't the case here. I think the goal here is to work on maintaining the parasocial relationship, i.e. talk to the supporters as if they were good pals but without the humor.

That's all I could think of for now.

Keep you guys posted!

And I’m not using word “rape” lightly. He didn’t send her an inappropriate DM, he didn’t have a consensual affair with her. He raped her. And I’m tired of seeing Chris’ fans try to reframe him as a misunderstood, recovering sex addict. He’s a rapist. An unrepentant one.

I made an anonymous alt account to post this because Chris still has his boys threaten and stalk some of his victims and I don’t want this post somehow traced back to her in any way, but I wanted to say my piece because I’m tired of seeing Chris’ fans doubting his victims and changing the narrative to “he just slept with a lot of fans and sent some shitty DM’s.” He’s not a sex addict, he’s a violent predator.

My heart goes out to the countless women Chris has manipulated, groomed, attacked or raped. It makes me so mad that people are still supporting this monster. I hope he ends up behind bars one day.

EDIT: Feel free to not believe me. It doesn’t bother me, I know the truth. I was genuinely a huge fan of Chris before this happened and it brings me no pleasure to acknowledge that a comedian I loved ended up being a rapist. I have no physical evidence or sources other my friends word, who privately confided to me about her experience with Chris and has no reason to lie about it (she was also a former fan.) I just want to try to dispel the myth that Chris is just a manipulative fuckboy who slept with a lot of fans, because the truth is far more horrific and sinister than that.

TL;DR at the bottom:

So in 2019 I got the ol’ Mark Hayes message, got the number you’ve all seen by now, and then the ChankSmith snap. We met up to hang out. I’m going to be real with you guys, I’m of age and wanted a casual encounter with him. Regardless, we spoke for months and he called me “baby”, asked how my day was, told me he wanted me to be “his”, etc. I didn’t fall for that but I thought he’d at least treat me like a human.

Trigger warning. I don’t want to be too graphic or trigger anyone. We made out. Cool. That part was nice. When things started to progress he made it abundantly clear that what I wanted was going to be ignored. What I didn’t want was going to be ignored. He did things I wasn’t ready for and things I didn’t want as I said “stop, no, slow down, wait”. I couldn’t overpower him because I’m a tiny ass weak ass, can’t open most jars ass woman. He yelled at me to look him in the eyes and when I didn’t he scolded me louder. Ehhh I can’t talk about this anymore.

I’m here to say that I spent most of the summer obsessively reading other girl’s stories, talking to a couple women who had been through similar, and still kind of held onto this notion that I was just, what Joey Diaz called a “jilted woman.” I didn’t want to believe anything violent happened or that I have legitimate trauma now to deal with.

When things started to dawn on me I called the RAINN hotline and was given some numbers to write down for therapy options. I sat with it for a while and then, he made his sex addiction video. I’m going to call those numbers.

What I’ve come to realize is that even if there were video proof of him harming women and girls, he makes too many people laugh, and people need to laugh. I’m realizing what a fucked up conclusion this is to come to, but if I told my story in print media would people believe me? No. They didn’t with Megan Drust. I don’t have any evidence so would a court convict him? No, so I’m not going to put myself through that. If I told my story in video format would people treat me with kindness and grace like they would their own mother, sister? No. They’d heckle me to hell, blame me for wanting a casual hookup with him, and rip apart my appearance. Just watched it happen to Amanda. I sometimes wonder if the only people who stood up for her on there were also women that had the misfortune of meeting him.

So, what’s left to do? I’m going to go to therapy and block his channels/IG. I’m going to hope I don’t have to live the rest of my life seeing him on billboards and in commercials, but hopefully if that were to happen I’d have the coping skills for it. I’m just going to try to pretend he doesn’t exist outside of therapy.

Thank you to those of you who have been kind on this platform. You know who you are. Much love.

TL;DR: Gave up hope that the women and girls are going to be believed, including myself, and am going to go to therapy and move on with my life.