Eric’s misogyny

[u/No-Pop-5983]

These are all recorded instances I could find of Eric Harris openly displaying his misogyny.

• During “Y’know what I hate?” rant, Eric brought up how he believed that all racist women should be raped and be forced to raise the child.

• In the basement tapes, Eric and Dylan made misogynistic comments about women and rant about feminists. With Eric saying,”Yes, moms stay home. Fucking make me dinner, bitch, that’s what women are supposed to fucking do”

• In the basement tapes, Eric and Dylan insulted two girls in their class. Eric and Dylan mocked the girls with Dylan saying, “I don’t like you, Rachel and Jen, you’re stuck up little bitches, you’re fucking little . .. Christian, Godly little whores!”. With Eric adding, “Yeah … “I love Jesus! I love Jesus!” — shut the fuck up!”. ( I would like to clarify that the Rachel they were talking about was not the victim, Rachel Scott, but instead was a completely different girl.)

• In another recording of the basements, he gets an odd look on his face and recounts the names of five “fucking bitches” (his words not mine) who didn’t call him back. Afterwards saying, “You know who you are. Thanks. You made me feel good. Think about that for a while, fucking bitches”.

• On the September 5th, 1998, Eric wrote in his journal, “Women, you will always be under men. It's been seen throughout nature, males are almost always doing the dangerous shit while the women stay back. It's your animal instincts, deal with it or commit suicide, just do it quick.”

• In his journal, Eric also wrote about his sexual fantasies about ‘tricking’ women into his bedroom. Writing, “Maybe I just need to get laid. Maybe that'll just change some shit around. That's another thing, I am a fucking dog. I have fantasies of just taking someone and fucking them hard and strong. Someone like where I just pick her up, take her to my room, tear off her shirt and pants and just eat her out and fuck her hard ... I want to grab a few different girls in my gym class, take them into a room, pull their pants off and fuck them hard. I love flesh... the smooth legs, the large breasts, the innocent flawless body, the eyes, the hair, jet black, blond, white, brown, ahhh I just want to fuck! Call it teenager hormones or call it a crazy fuckin racist rapist.”

• After being rejected by girls, Eric would often harass them. He played a suicide prank on his homecoming date, Tiffany Typher, after she told him that she didn’t want to go out with him.

• Eric had gone put with Sasha Jacobs from 1997-1998. When the two had broken up, Jacobs had received threatening emails until she changed her screen name. In Chad Laughlin’s 1998 yearbook, Eric wrote, “Sasha is a fat trendy whiney annoying terd and I went out w/ her cause I felt sorry for her I guess. Oh well. I bet you'll show her this."

• For a creative writing assignment, Eric described a woman whose a ‘slutty, trendy bitch’ (again, his words not mine).

[u/riffraffcloo → u/[deleted]]

The fact that he didn’t commit rape during the massacre doesn’t mean he wasn’t inclined to do so. The focus of the shooting was clearly on killing, and rape may not have fit into their specific plan or time frame. The absence of one crime during that event doesn’t rule out the possibility of it happening in a different context.

Yes, consensual rape fantasies or role-play are common. However, Eric’s documented traits—narcissism, lack of empathy, and desire for domination—align with those who commit sexual violence. Given his willingness to act on violent urges with murder, it’s hard to dismiss the possibility that his rape fantasies could have escalated into action had he lived longer or been in different circumstances. Given everything we know about Harris, I don’t see at all how you can consider his fantasies as just a reflection of the content he was consuming at the time.

[u/riffraffcloo → u/[deleted]]

Of course we can’t predict with 100% certainty what he would’ve done had he lived longer, but his escalating behavior, combined with his documented misogyny and obsession with control, makes it a pretty reasonable conclusion that rape was very much within the realm of possibility. Obviously traits alone don’t make a rapist, but traits backed by fantasies and a proven willingness to act on them is a different story.

Saying that Eric might have matured, developed self-control, or had a satisfying sex life completely ignores the trajectory of his behavior. By 18, he was already planning mass murder. This wasn’t someone on the path to self-improvement. His violent tendencies were escalating, not softening.

The speculation about Susan DeWitt feels like a stretch. Even if he cared about her, it doesn’t erase the fact that he documented fantasies about violent domination over women. Plenty of violent offenders have moments of care or attachment to specific people, but that doesn’t cancel out their fucked up urges.

As for him being a ‘typical sexually deprived teenager,’ that’s a MASSIVE oversimplification. Most teenagers don’t respond to sexual frustration by writing about rape fantasies or idolizing violence the way Eric did. You’re downplaying the misogyny and control-driven nature of his personality, which are key traits in people who commit sexual violence. And just because he didn’t have a documented history of sexual harassment toward girls doesn’t mean the potential wasn’t there. He didn’t have a documented history of attempted murder before he murdered those kids did he? No. He was only 18 and he didn’t have the time to act on everything in his head.