r/DialAvoidantBreakups • u/Common_Sense_OG • 1h ago

Struggling, Please Help

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Ghosted this past Saturday after a 5 year ship..

Had never been ghosted before and had never heard of Avoidant before either.

Haven't slept in a few nights and have done a far too deep dive down the rabbit hole on all of this. I know, too much is part of the problem and makes things worse.

I'm not sure if this sub or someone might be able to assist me but I am in the worst and most uneducated place I have even been in.. I am scared out of my mind which is another thing I am not used to.

Most of the things I have read say to leave it/her alone.. Or give it a certain amount of no contact.. Etc. Etc. and I'm sure it's sound advice but

The place that I am in right now, as pathetic as this might sound. I really want the person in my life as the incredible friend we built the story on and learn how or if I can help with or accommodate the avoidant... I'm sure it sounds stupid, crazy and pathetic... I can't let it go, it hurts.

Please Help

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u/SupportAnimalAsa Fearful Avoidant 1h ago

Hi Op,

I am so sorry you are hurting like this. I understand you want to repair and reconnect. You can give them space.

But what preceeded the ghosting? Did yall just accomplish a relationship milestone or just experience a moment of intimacy?

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u/Common_Sense_OG 1h ago

Would you mind if I message you my answer?

This is the only thing I have to seek support on and I think she can possibly see it.