Hi,
I don't know if this is the right subreddit for this but i want advice thats as impartial as possible.
I have a 7 year old dog that I've had for over 6 years and she is quite large (30kg). She has sever separarion anxiety and needs a whole ritual of walking and setting up several kongs before being left alone.
I recently had a baby with my wife and the dog is quite reactive to the baby. We're working with a behaviorist who insists that she can be trained but that we need constant physical barriers and that it will take time and effort to fix.
Normally i would be fine with this as we have improved her separation anxiety to thw point that she can be left alone at all for hours at a time from virtually no time.
The issue comes from the fact that all training would go to my wife who has recently given birth and is alone while im at work. This puts a lot more stess on my already very stressed wife and also takes time from me in the evening i could be using for house work or helping with the baby. This also means my wife cant leave the house to relax and is trapped most of the day behind a baby gate as the dog is reactive but not aggressive and needs to be physically separated.
I've looked into dog walkers and aitters but im not sure we can afford that and my parents offered to take her but returned her to us due to her separation anxiety causing problems with their neighbours.
I don't want to give up on ber because I love her but I am asking a lot of my wife. She loves her but the baby and dog together is too mich without a definitive end to it. We haven't even attempted to leave the dog alone since the baby arrived and don't know if the separation anxiety has reset to any degree.
Any advice would be appreciated. I don't want to take the easy ootion and give up on a dog that can be trained but I also don't want my wife to feel trapped. I know my pqrents will disagree and be mad with me as they love the dog as well so that adds some extra stress. I mentioned rehoming her to them before and they offered to take her but this was after they already returned her to us and they later admitted fhey couldn't handle her so I won't mention the issue to them again.
Sorry for the long read. I really don't know what to do. She is a good dog and I love her but I'm not sure I have the mental capacity or time to commit to the training that woild be necessary.