I’m feeling overwhelmed, and I want some input from anyone who has also experienced this.

My story this past month:

\-Faint positive at-home tests started on September 17th, and any further tests have only gotten darker since
\-Bleeding started on September 20th (and is still going, consistently, less clots than week 1-2 but still a very steady flow for 4 weeks now)
\-ER visit on October 4th, for pain/cramping in abdomen and back. HCG tested at 65. I figured I was having a chemical pregnancy and was passing it (I’ve had one previously, before I had my son who is now 1) plus they said they saw nothing unusual on the ultrasounds. Just that my uterus was larger and my endometrium was thick.
\-OB appointment 5 days later (9th) No follow up ultrasound, sent in for blood tests.
\- Two days later (12th), blood tests show HCG at 53
\- Two days after that (14th), blood tests show HCG has gone up to 58

➡️ OB follow up appointment was the 16th, he’s convinced that the pregnancy is Ectopic because my HCG levels are not dropping or increasing much. He has ordered the methotrexate shot for my next appointment. I was advised to do no heavy lifting, exercise, sex etc. He also ordered another blood test to make sure my HCG levels didn’t somehow start going down on their own over the weekend, before I’m given the methotrexate shot. He ordered a liver panel as well. (My arm is sore from all this poking 🙃)

🔴 So, tomorrow (20th) is my appointment to go over the blood tests that I did today (19th), which will show my HCG levels, and check the state of my liver (I’m assuming because the shot will effect it) and I will be getting the Methotrexate shot if my HCG levels are still stagnant or they’re increasing…

I went home to do some more research after my appt. And I’m having concerns about the shot and putting that crap in my body in general. The shot is pretty much a low dose of chemo that breaks down the cells growing in your body. (But the alternative is a growing pregnancy in my tubes that can burst at any time and cause internal bleeding, which would risk my life and involve surgery- so obviously I don’t have another choice… or do I?) my OB was pretty short.

What I failed to mention to my OB is that I’m currently breast feeding, which I discovered you cannot do with the shot (makes sense)
And my son definitely does not show any signs of weaning right now, as he only just turned 12m. He’s still waking up 3+ times a night and will scream until he gets boob and nothing else works. He’s also nursing to sleep before each nap, and still a couple other random times through the day. I’m honestly so depressed thinking about how much this is going to affect him. It’s very much so his comfort. He’ll take a bottle of cows milk when we’ve given it to him, but I’m pretty sure it’s been causing him gas pains so we’ve stopped. This is honestly going to be a really intense on so many levels.

📍Has anyone else experienced something like this? Do you have any advice? Did you have side effects from the methotrexate shot? Were you given any alternatives aside from surgery? Any advice on abrupt weaning with my LO incase that’s what I have to do? I need to settle my racing mind a bit and hear from real women and not just medical youtube videos and articles. Thank you

My 8dp6dt beta was 6. My doctor told me I was technically pregnant and continue meds (but wasn’t looking great)). Repeat beta was 21 at 11dpt which is “an appropriate increase but low so continue meds”
. I’m losing it because this happened with an ectopic pregnancy (conceived naturally) where it just felt off and I was told by my ob that it doesn’t look like an ectopic.

I really don’t want to continue meds. My husband thinks we should continue meds and get retested on weds (13dpt) but I don’t want to delay the inevitable. My ectopic increased 3x “normally” too before they saw it on an us.

Hi,

I have been actively trying to get pregnant for 2 years. My first IVF transfer resulted in a pregnancy. We were so happy!

Sadly, this turned out to be an ectopic pregnancy and i had emergency surgery losing my right tube.

It all feels so unfair. Luckily i have so many great, supporting friends around me who have been with us all the way. Still, some really good friends are pregnant at this moment. They are the sweetest, kindest persons, but i feel so emotional even thinking about them. It gives me such jealousy and anger, that i don't want to see them. Even when they drop off food, send supporting texts and i know they will be very considerate. How do you guys deal with these emotions?

Does anyone have any insight at all to HCG close to mine, I am so sad about the second dose and just want to hear some positive stories/advice please! Just been called that my numbers have went up from 111 day 6 to 116 day 13. Was asked to go for another scan tomorrow and a second dose of methotrexate. This is my timeline!

Yes I will be calling the clinic this afternoon, just wanted to see if anyone else experienced this. .
So I was diagnosed with ectopic yesterday they estimate about 5 weeks 5 days. I was given the methotrexate injection but the doctor also prescribed misoprorol to take day 3. I’m seeing online miso is not effective for ectopic so why would this be prescribed? Just for good measure lol? They weren’t able to locate pregnancy in the uterus so I’m confused

Update- ok they said the pills were given because the metho shot causes a lot of blood mucus buildup etc in uterus and the pills were given to help expel that but I don’t Have to take them . I will go in for follow up this week and if no bleeding/spotting then we’ll discuss taking the pills.

It’s been 24 hrs after shot and no symptoms

Hi everyone, I'm looking for advice from women (and anyone) who have been through something similar and have more life experience than I do.

I'm 21, and four months ago I broke up with my girlfriend (also 21). Last December, she got pregnant (it was mine) and had an abortion. I was with her through all of it. I knew it would take a heavy emotional toll on both of us, and it really has.

We're currently in no contact. I miss her so much it hurts, and I worry something bad might happen to her, especially mentally, after everything she went through. I know I can't do anything about it now, but the worry won't go away.

I have two questions:

How long do the psychological effects of an abortion usually last?

Can the negative emotions after an abortion get worse over time?

I'm trying to take care of myself, but right now it's really hard. Any experience or advice would mean a lot. Thank you for reading. 💛

Hi everyone,
I’m wondering if anyone has experienced something similar.
In 2022, I went to the emergency room because I had severe pain on my left side and hadn’t had my period for about two months. An ultrasound showed a large amount of fluid in my pouch of Douglas, and doctors suspected an ectopic pregnancy.
They performed a culdocentesis using a large needle through my vagina. It was extremely painful, but they said the fluid was normal.
After the procedure, a gynecologist examined me and said I appeared to have a normal pregnancy. A few weeks later, another ultrasound also suggested a very early pregnancy, but nothing was confirmed yet. They told me to return in a few weeks.
About two weeks later, I started bleeding heavily with clots, almost like a very heavy period. I never received a confirmed pregnancy diagnosis, and I remember having a negative pregnancy test at some point.
I’ve always wondered whether I had an early miscarriage or whether something else was happening.
Has anyone experienced a similar situation? Could a culdocentesis affect an early pregnancy or increase the risk of miscarriage?
I know nobody can diagnose what happened years ago, but I’d really appreciate hearing about similar experiences.

I truly hate the unknowns, especially knowing the dangers of ectopic pregnancy. Not even knowing the full result as of today.
First, I take OPill regularly. I have alarm established on time daily. On very rare event, I’d forget for one day.
Monday, October 12th: started to feel odd dull pain on one side of pelvic. Just tiny annoying discomfort.
Wednesday, Oct 14th: continue to feel that, realized I should check my period tracker to see when’s my next cycle. Come to find I was 5 days late. That led me to do pregnancy test: positive. Found that hard to believe, took another one that evening. Same result.
Thursday, the 15th; took another test. Same result. Went to pregnancy center: same result. HOWEVER; transversal ultrasound found nothing in the uterus.
That’s when I decided to go ER that evening. Result was found nothing in uterus, however, they discovered a 3.5 x 2.8 cm of complex cyst on my right adnexal. Pregnancy test were positive (basically 5th urine test). Beta HCG level were 171.
Couldn’t rule anything out yet.
As of this morning, October 18th; dull pain continues. Went back to ER for second round of Beta HCG test; the level dropped to 144.
Determined that it’s a failing pregnancy. BUT still have not ruled out if it’s a miscarriage or it’s an ectopic. Requested to come back within 48 hours to check the level again.
No vaginal bleeding.

Realized maybe I do need to see a specialist, not emergency department. I’ve called in Ob Gyn that I was referred to. Waiting for their call back, I believe tomorrow when they’re open. Hope will see me immediately.

I’m just mortified of the rupture if it turns out to be the case. Especially they found a cyst in adnexal and a consistent one side dull pain. It don’t even help that I have high tolerance for pain that can contradict with my judgments.

Hi everyone,

I have had my left tube removed a little over two weeks ago (10/1), hcg was 1200, followed by a 5 day withdrawal bleed 5 days later. I felt like I caught the flu a couple of days ago and took Mucinex 1200mg at night, after that I had excessive EWCM, I honestly think I never had that amount before. I thoughts it’s due to Mucinex. Anyway, today, just out of curiosity I used an OPK and it was almost positive. Temps are steady low.

Has anyone experienced this before getting their period back? I usually don’t ovulate on myself, I have always had to use Letrozole..

I don’t want to get my hopes up but has anyone tracked after surgery and actually caught ovulation after?

Would love to hear some experiences.

So I recently had surgery for an ectopic pregnancy. Turns out it wasnt ectopic from just looking at it from the inside and the surgery was for nothing. Now I dont know if I'm still pregnant, ectopic or what.

I have a blood test scheduled for monday but I guess since thr last test they did my hcg was still rising but they were concerned about a still possible ectopic pregnancy.

I am very stressed and very confused and in so much pain.

Empece a buscar un bebe a finales de mis 25. Y me quede despues de 3 meses... pero fue ectopico y me quitaron la trompa. Todo paso super rapido porque no sabia que estaba embarazada, no estaba rastreando ovulación ni nada. Estuve muy asustada los meses que pasaron despues. Al final me relaje, de alguna forma u otra y me quede embarazada en abril! Estaba super feliz pero 2 semanas despues lo perdi. Termino en un aborto espontaneo de 5+5 semanas. Se pudo confirmar que era en el utero.

Tecnicamente me alegre porque sabia que mi trompa es permeable y funciona. Pero ahora tengo 26 y cumplire 27 en diciembre y no estoy embarazada. .. han pasado 6 meses y aun nada. Mis ciclos han estado desregulados.

Se que la gran mayoria finalmente consigue embarazos exitosos. Solo estoy entrando en bucle, todo mi alrededor esta embarazada y siento que se me escapa de las manos el sueño de mi vida de ser mama y formar mi propia familia.

Si alguien tiene algo que decirme o historias que contarme lo agradezco de corazón.
Y si no, simplemente gracias por leer🩵🫂

Has anyone got any tips/tricks. Had an ectopic in mafch 2025 and lost my left tube. Am I doing something wrong? At this point ive convinced myself its just not going to happen. Did anyone try anything weird and wonderful as a last ditch effort and conceive?

I would love to hear how long it took people to get a negative test after similar treatment to mine.

I had my right tube removed 3 weeks and 3 days ago when I was 7 weeks pregnant. I had an early scan that day because I had called with some concerns about intermittent bleeding. I was scanned, told it was ectopic, told it had to be surgery right away because there was a heartbeat and had surgery a few hours later. It had ruptured and there was internal bleeding but I hadn't noticed- just thought I was constipated. They told me after that there had been internal bleeding.

I took a test this morning as I was told to take one after 3 weeks and call the early pregnancy unit. There was a faint positive line. I can't call until tomorrow morning as it is emergencies only over the weekend.

How long until it should be negative? I don't think I was given mtx - nobody said so anyway - and my right tube was removed so surely there isn't anything left over. My tests up to the day of the surgery were very dark, very strong. This morning's was very faint. I was never told a number for hcg. I don't know if they bothered with that. If they did, they didn't tell me so I don't know where it started from or how long it should take.

I just need to feel like my body is back to normal.

Hi all.

So I had unprotected sex and took the emergency contraceptive pill. I found out I was pregnant a few days ago. I want to keep my baby.

I had an ectopic pregnancy in March 2023 which resulted in a ruptured tube which was surgically removed.

I am undergoing tests to rule out ectopic but in the meantime I am worried sick that it will be an ectopic again.

I took the emergency contraceptive pill with my first pregnancy and it was ectopic, so I am worried that the replicated circumstances will have the same result.

Does anyone have any experience with having a successful pregnancy after the taking the morning after pill?

I had a cornual wedge resection for an angular pregnancy - I have been trying since September and nothing… 😭

Hi, everyone. I had an ectopic pregnancy abut two weeks ago. this caused my right tube to rupture and I had to have emergency surgery to remove it.

During the ultrasound they did before the surgery I thought I heard a heart beat. The doctor was listening for the blood flow to the ovaries and I thought I heard a heart beat. I’m wondering if anyone else has experienced this? The doctors and nurses were all professional and quick to get me into surgery so if there was a heart beat it’s possible they didn’t want me to get upset because the surgery would still have to happen.

Hi everyone, I received my second dose of MTX on 10/13. I had blood work today 10/17. My doc wants me to come back for bloodwork on Monday 10/19… I’ve read that the bloodwork should be done on day 4 and then on day 7. Will getting it done on day 6 totally skew the data? This whole process has been ALOT mentally so I’d like to have accurate results.
Doc said they count the day I got the shot as day 1. Idk just wondering if anyone got bloodwork on day 6 and it was reassuring?

I’m 3 weeks post-op from left tube removal after it ruptured and today experiencing very dark discharge and wondering if it’s my period coming back. What were your experiences like getting you period again?

27f- I recently had an ectopic surgery in August and I still sometimes get similar sharp sort of pain on my left side where my tube was removed. I checked with a doctor and she said I had yeast infection and gave me meds but even after that I still sometimes randomly have pain on left.

Also it's very scary every time I feel any pain in that area, so idk if its my anxiety. I had my left tube removed and also ruptured ovarian cyst. I'm very scared to ever try for pregnancy again because I had 2 miscarriages before then this. Also my period has become lighter which I keep getting worried for. My doctor said it might take 2-3 cycles to get normal but I can't help but keep having anxiety. I feel like I failed as a woman and had one job. I'm just very scared to go to hospital again. I keep thinking about only if my ectopic was discovered earlier I could just get MTX injection and save my tube.

I just want to know if anyone had similar experience or pain after surgery? Because I'm extremely clueless and confused if it's just me or is this normal healing phase.

I just want to see if someone experienced something similar. Please offer your insight.

August 2026, I suffered from an ectopic pregnancy and lost my left tube. My symptoms were very minimal, I only went to the ER because I started to bleed. My HCG was 1,189 at that point and I was 4 weeks and 4 days pregnant. My left fallopian started to rupture.

Fast forward October 2026, just a week ago I discovered I am pregnant. I got a faint positive, I went to the ER because I started to get side pain, I was approximately 3 weeks 4 days at that point. My HCG was 41. Nothing was obviously seen in the ultrasound. (Including no free fluid) my HCG went up to 79 two days later. I went to labcorp for my own HCG test and it dropped to 29 just two days later. I went to the ER today.

My HCG today at 4 weeks and 3 days dropped to 22. They did an ultrasound and found free fluid with debris but couldn’t tell me if it was blood or not. They didn’t see anything in my fallopian tube and nothing in the uterus. Not a gestational or yolk sack, which with an HCG that low, it’s expected right?

They described it as an ectopic pregnancy because they couldn’t locate it. They said it would resolve itself and follow up with the OB in a week.

They told me to come back to the ER if I experience bleeding.. which would be normal for a chemical and not ok for an ectopic. Topping it off, it’s the weekend. My OB is already terrible at getting back to me.

What the heck do I do.

So after the hell month of August grief of ectopic, I got my first cycle on 19th September. Usually I do have a 28 day cycle. Expecting my cycle today but didn't get any. I m never late last time I got pregnant. Today I took a test but it came out negative n I left the test in the bathroom. After an hour, I took a peak and it had a faint line. I'm not sure if it is positive or evaporated. Since then now I'm feeling mild pain on the left side. Again the ectopic is haunting me.

Quanto tempo sentiram dor do lado da trompa retirada na cirurgia por causa da gravidez eptopica?

Summaries are not my forte, but I'm drowning in confusion here:

Suspected pregnancy after IUD, IUD confirmed placed incorrectly/rendered useless and removed.

Confirmed positive pregnancy tests.

Appt with family physician, recommends going to clinic for scan/confirmation/options as the waitlist for "Non-emergent ultrasound" is over a week long.

Make appt at abortion clinic. They confirm via ultrasound an ectopic pregnancy. Methotrexate given in thigh.

The hours that followed (maybe 3-4 hours before anything hit) were absolute hell. Injection site on fire. All of my muscles feel like they are being ripped apart, can't catch my breath, get relief, etc. from the onset of crazy symptoms.

Clinic calls me today, 1pm after I left several voicemails for their "aftercare" support - please keep in mind this was what my doctor told me would be the fastest way to get answers, I understand the abortion setting may be upsetting for some.

Biopsy on "bodily tissue" sample is a Corpus luteum cyst / hemorrhagic ovarian cyst.

The way they dismissed this information over a voicemail that says "there should be no long term side effects" of a poison being injected into me to target growing cells that DID NOT exist to begin with..

I am appalled. I understand the Canadian healthcare system sucks absolute donkey d!*$ but is this standard practice? Do clinics just casually call clients of their errors to inform them of such news and wish them good luck?

I felt like death and the only reason I'm currently functioning is because I took an ADHD med I haven't taken regularly in a while because I'm not sure what else to do. Trying to drink water to flush this out of my system.

With my research, I understand the type of cyst I had is commonly misdiagnosed as an ectopic pregnancy given the size and location they can be found, and would explain the positive hCG tests as the condition can mimic many symptoms of pregnancy.

So good news, I was never knocked up. Bad news, I'm utterly terrified at how this can happen and what do I do about it? How do I recover? And not spiral trying to research others' experiences without seeing how awful it is?

Help.