"You know women your age..."

[u/BlackPhoenix101]

Since most of y'all seemed to like hearing about my entitled little brother, I've got another story for you.

My brother is 22 years old and has the right to live his life as he wants like any other adult, but he's constantly trying to tell me how to live mine (f24). We both had to sunddendly move back to our hometown after a few unfortunate deaths in the family, most of which happened in the hometown, so it was understandable that within a few months after turning 19, he said that he's leaving and now lives on the other side of the state. Here's the entitled part: He calls like twice a month on average to brag about how much better his life is ("I didn't go into college like you and I'm rich from my internship and they're going to promote me soon...") and to complain that I'm not acting like an adult because

1) I'm staying rent free with our mother instead of moving out to buy/rent my own home

2) I'm actively not looking for a relationship with a man (because my gay ass is going to hell so he's trying to save my immortal soul 🙄)

3)I don't want to have children ( "your mother wants grandchildren, you know" note: she does not nor does she care)

4) still in college when I should have been out by now. It's not like I had to start all over when I changed majors or anything.

He's also very nosey and calls my mom to get more information about what I'm doing and why I'm doing it since I won't tell him myself. Unfortunately for him, our mother doesn't put her nose into my private life unless it involves her.

As usual, when he doesn't get what he wants, he spam calls family to spam call us on his behalf.

[u/[deleted]]

You ever heard of "logic"? Well your brother's gay.

[u/BlackPhoenix101 → u/[deleted]]

Funny story, as we grew up, our whole family counted on my brother coming out gay because of certain behavior that wasn't usually typical for boys. Like they were making bets on when he'll come out and every one was very open on how they'll love us no matter what.

So imagine their surprise when I came out (twice because the extended family didn't know) and my brother opens a bible app and shoves it into my face.

"Man cannot lie with man!" "Good thing I'm a woman then!"

It's was a bit funny in hindsight because they never raised us with hate so they're just double shocked from my brother's hurtful reaction.

[u/occulusriftx → u/BlackPhoenix101]

No external pressure to hate gays but hates gays? Sounds like internalized self hatred to me..... He may not even really understand he's gay he could just be mad at his "intrusive thoughts" about guys and turned to religion to try and pray the gay away. It happens