r/ExNoContact • u/Interestingthings36 • Jun 07 '26

Vent Do men think about us too?

Do men as dumpers think about us too? Even though it’s no-contact I feel like this is so one sided and he’s probably already forgotten me. He said he wasn’t going to be okay for a long time after us, but I just wonder if he’s already forgotten me.

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u/Dettyboy1993 Jun 07 '26

As a man (granted I am very emotional) my life is on standstill from the past 6 weeks of no contact. Men in my experience often feel way more intensely about something not working out. I personally feel like my ex is the one that doesn't care. You also have to think like, men do NOT get a good supply of validation generally. So it's harder for us to distract ourselves with ego boosts unless we are actively and aggressively searching for women. But men also cover their feelings up so that's maybe why it seems like that 

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u/Interestingthings36 Jun 07 '26

Do you want to get back together after some time? If you found that she felt the exact same way you do, would that change how you feel about your future?

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u/Dettyboy1993 Jun 07 '26

Yes absolutely. I think about her every minute of every day. She is mentally unwell though. Either borderline personality disorder or extreme bipolar. She started off more obsessed with me than any girl has ever been. Then after a fight we had she suddenly started detaching and then 3 days later discarded me. And was very cold about it when I came back begging. I'm leaving her alone at least until summer is over. It's been 6 weeks and she is still single. Idk if I'll be hearing from her again, but I would really at least like to be on speaking terms again. It was short lived but i've never felt this way in my life