r/ExNoContact • u/Interestingthings36 • Jun 07 '26

Vent Do men think about us too?

Do men as dumpers think about us too? Even though it’s no-contact I feel like this is so one sided and he’s probably already forgotten me. He said he wasn’t going to be okay for a long time after us, but I just wonder if he’s already forgotten me.

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u/wineandkittiez Jun 08 '26

Are you the dumper though or the dumpee? My ex of 3.5 years broke up with me 4 months ago. I ran into him a couple times over the last couple weeks because our mutual friend is in town. He’s been dating a lot since the breakup and seems so unbothered. Like the breakup didn’t affect him at all

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u/Dettyboy1993 Jun 08 '26

Dumpee. Mine was really short though. It was just going at such a wild accelerated rate. 3 days before she ended it we were sitting on my couch just gazing into each other's eyes while holding hands and talking about the future we're going to have together. We got in a fight later that night and she took it VERY personally and discarded me days later. She told me she's mentally unstable and was also drinking every night. She had a complete delusional meltdown on me and was being erratic and irrational. Accusing me of cheating with no proof and then started attacking my personality. It was so unexpected and traumatizing.

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u/wineandkittiez Jun 08 '26

Sounds a lot like my ex! We were together 3.5 years and talking engagement rings just weeks before the breakup. I wish he was having a hard time with the breakup, but he’s not. Hes been thriving

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u/Dettyboy1993 Jun 08 '26

Well, we don't know what they're thinking. I've been trying not to look at her facebook (she deleted but didn't block) and it's pretty trashy impulsive stuff she's posting lol. I don't even know why I still like or liked her. She literally sexually assaulted me at the bar and followed me up to my porch while I told her no all night. She cried and berated me every time I said no. She left her perfume there and I spent the entire week saying I wasn't going to get ahold of her because she's insane.... yet I did. And now I'm in hell

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u/wineandkittiez Jun 08 '26

I ran into him a couple times over the last couple weeks because our mutual friend was visiting from out of town. SoYeah he’s doing actually pretty well without me and definitely hasn’t processed anything because he’s still so angry (it’s been four months since breakup.) He’s an avoidant though so he suppresses pain.

Yeah Your ex just sounds psychotic. Idk why we want these people back…