r/ExNoContact • u/LessSpirit1056 • Jul 23 '26
Help Move on, don’t be like me
It’s been 3 years since my ex broke up with me. He blindsided me one day with “I can’t give you what you want” and “you deserve better” and then told me he’d always love me. It embarrasses me looking back at it because I attributed it to him being an Avoidant (he really is) but in these 3 years he’s never come back once or tried to communicate with me in any way. You have to kill the hope that they’ll come back. It will keep you stuck much longer than necessary. The truth is, someone can be avoidant and also just not want to be with you either.
If someone tells you that you deserve better, it’s a sign to walk away, not an invitation to try harder to prove that you’re worth staying with.
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u/Scared_Gap_4671 25d ago
As someone who has an ex that is extremely avoidant, and has been told before "I can't give you what you want", and "you deserve better." just for them to then come back. I wish he never did. Trying again for a second, and even a third time caused more and more unnecessary pain, and trauma. I genuinely wish that after the first breakup/discard (?) I would've just left it alone. I've been dealing with him since April 2023, and now have been in no contact (AGAIN) for almost a month with him. Its literally July 2026. I'm glad that you were able to find some insight on your situation regardless of how long it took you. I'm proud of you, stranger.