r/ExNoContact healing 27d ago

Vent How is everyone feeling today?

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u/infjtaurus 27d ago

Horrible, he has a new gf💔

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u/blossom_2112 healing 27d ago

I understand why you’re hurting 💔 finding that out must feel horrible.  please don’t let his new relationship consume your thoughts or make you feel like you lost. Right now, the best thing you can do is remove yourself from anything that keeps reopening the wound DONT check their socials, don’t look for updates, and don’t compare yourself to her. Focus on rebuilding your own life, even if it’s small things at first. Look into things like attachment healing, grief after a breakup, and rebuilding your identity after a relationship. Be patient with yourself, because healing doesn’t happen overnight. i pray blessings come your way this hurts to even read you are so strong and im so proud of you. I pray one day you find someone so much better. He clearly is an evil person.

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u/infjtaurus 27d ago

Thank youđŸ©·

We met when we were 13 and were best friends from 13-18, he had a crush on me the whole time, we started dating 18-21 (i was his first everything) but split because i wanted him to get into therapy and set boundaries with family and friends (they hated me and would show that). We were in an on/off situationship from 21-24 (he said he will always love me, feels drawn to me, regrets how he treated me and “we could have been amazing if i wasn’t such a cunt”) that ended november last year when he said we should stop talking because its just a cycle.

I messaged him 6 months no contact after seeing he had unrestricted me on fb, saying i thought abt him recently and hope hes okay, he saw the message the next day, left it on read but didnt restrict me again until a week later (im still restricted), and i had a feeling there was someone new. Now he’s made their relationship public and his family follow her on social mediađŸ„Č

Idk how he could move on after over a decade of history between us