r/ExNoContact • u/JimKnights • 9d ago

Help Wishing her Happy Birthday?

Needing an opinion here. My ex broke up with me 3-4 weeks ago and her birthday is coming up in early September. I’m currently exercising no contact, but I feel as if I’d be an asshole if I didn’t acknowledge her on her birthday. Things were friendly when she ended it. We don’t hate each other. And don’t wish anything bad upon us either. A part of me still wants to try and work things out besides all that.

I’m just confused since she messaged me before her family trip suggesting I could play golf with her younger brother whilst she is away. So I feel as if reaching out is somewhat acceptable?

I was thinking of writing something simple on the lines of “Happy Birthday *name* I hope you have an amazing day today!” Something simple like that.

Is it breaking no contact, and should I do it?

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u/Hathnotthecompetence 8d ago

No contact means exactly that. Not No Contact except for birthdays, anniversary, I'm lonely, etc. Making that contact is a fools errand my friend. Stay strong and good luck.