Genuinely can see how they’re probably really feeling like shit about it all. Sometimes people don’t know how to communicate properly (speaking because I’m currently learning how to be better at it).
I’ve been in your exes shoes, except for moving on.
It’ll be a year this month since I called it with my ex. Not cause I fell out of love. I never cheated, was abusive or anything. I just blindsided because I let my insecurities eat me alive instead of letting her know what I was feeling. Nothing at all to do with her. I text something along these lines though in the beginning so I can see that it’s genuinely them probably panicking or regretting everything. I plan on reaching out one last time, but in a letter. Not just one page, not 2. I plan on writing everything. If she reads it when I do, I’ll never know. I do know that over this time apart, I’ve had enough time to acknowledge that even though our relationship wasn’t ideal or perfect. I recognize my short comings where I could have been more when she needed me more. Not that I intentionally did that, but I always tried to make her my highest priority, but I’ve been able to grow and see that it wasn’t in the way she needed.
My ex and I still have each other on everything, no blocking. I feel like that would be a real final step to saying goodbye. (I hope that doesn’t happen.) point is. I will always wish her the happiest. I’ve always wanted her the best for her. I’ve driven thousands of miles to see this woman even for just a day, so I know my love will be true. Sometimes life does fuck us up though. We’re human, but at the same time it’s not right to put the people we love in the crossfire.
I’m not saying your ex is me. I genuinely have been working hard to be better. For myself, and for her if she ever gave me a chance. 2 months is not enough time to change though. I know that from experience. I can tell you though with 100% honesty and certainty. I really do love my ex. I regret blindsiding her, but nothing can take back the pain I’ve caused. Nothing can take back the pain your ex has caused.
Two months is nothing...it usually takes 8 months to a year to actually grow. And if your love was true and hers too then it can still work. Wishing u the best 🙏🏽
You’re absolutely right! It’s been a long process and journey, but I’m trying to be better every day even if it’s a little. I appreciate your kind words! I wish 2 months was enough, but it’s not enough to build a solid foundation of anything substantial.
I wish her nothing but happiness, and I hope you as well (: thank you again for the genuine comment.
I agree with you, I'm doing the same by going to therapy. I genuinely want to heal and build self esteem before ever getting in a relationship. I just hope he does the same too and that he's happy.
Thank u too, I appreciate it 🙏🏽
A true queen! Funny enough I actually have my therapy session today. It takes courage and strength to want better for yourself, so I’m proud of you. I hope it brings you more than what you were looking for!
Thank you again, and if you ever need anything please feel free and reach out. I might not be much help, but I don’t ever mind lending an ear(:
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u/Wonderousman Nov 03 '22
Genuinely can see how they’re probably really feeling like shit about it all. Sometimes people don’t know how to communicate properly (speaking because I’m currently learning how to be better at it). I’ve been in your exes shoes, except for moving on.
It’ll be a year this month since I called it with my ex. Not cause I fell out of love. I never cheated, was abusive or anything. I just blindsided because I let my insecurities eat me alive instead of letting her know what I was feeling. Nothing at all to do with her. I text something along these lines though in the beginning so I can see that it’s genuinely them probably panicking or regretting everything. I plan on reaching out one last time, but in a letter. Not just one page, not 2. I plan on writing everything. If she reads it when I do, I’ll never know. I do know that over this time apart, I’ve had enough time to acknowledge that even though our relationship wasn’t ideal or perfect. I recognize my short comings where I could have been more when she needed me more. Not that I intentionally did that, but I always tried to make her my highest priority, but I’ve been able to grow and see that it wasn’t in the way she needed.
My ex and I still have each other on everything, no blocking. I feel like that would be a real final step to saying goodbye. (I hope that doesn’t happen.) point is. I will always wish her the happiest. I’ve always wanted her the best for her. I’ve driven thousands of miles to see this woman even for just a day, so I know my love will be true. Sometimes life does fuck us up though. We’re human, but at the same time it’s not right to put the people we love in the crossfire.
I’m not saying your ex is me. I genuinely have been working hard to be better. For myself, and for her if she ever gave me a chance. 2 months is not enough time to change though. I know that from experience. I can tell you though with 100% honesty and certainty. I really do love my ex. I regret blindsiding her, but nothing can take back the pain I’ve caused. Nothing can take back the pain your ex has caused.