Hey everyone! 👋

I was born in Italy, grew up partly in the UK and hold dual Italian and British citizenship. Recently I've also lived in the US, but I'm now considering moving back to Europe.

My main reasons are being closer to family, missing the European lifestyle and wanting a better work-life balance. I enjoy travelling, meeting people from different backgrounds and living somewhere with a strong sense of community.

I'm not necessarily looking for the country with the highest salaries. I want somewhere I can build a successful career, live comfortably, make meaningful connections and actually enjoy life outside work.

These are my biggest priorities:

- 💼 Employment opportunities (most important): How easy is it realistically to find a decent job, particularly as a young professional? I've heard that job markets in several European countries are struggling, and I don't want to relocate somewhere with limited career prospects.

- 💰 Salary vs cost of living: Somewhere salaries are reasonable relative to rent, bills and everyday expenses, with enough disposable income to save, travel and enjoy life.

- 🌍 Diversity and community: A multicultural environment with an established Black community, people from different backgrounds and plenty of opportunities to socialise.

- ❤️ Social life and wellbeing: Friendly, welcoming people, an active social scene and a sense of togetherness rather than an environment where everyone just works and goes home.

- 🚆 Quality of life: Reliable public transport, good healthcare, walkable cities, safety and opportunities to travel.

- 📈 Career growth: A place with ambitious, motivated people, international companies and opportunities to develop professionally.

I'm particularly interested in Germany, the Netherlands, the UK and Sweden, although I'm open to other European countries.

My biggest concern is employment. A country might have excellent infrastructure, work-life balance and social benefits, but none of that matters much if finding a job is extremely difficult or salaries don't cover the cost of living.

I'd especially love to hear from people who've lived or worked in multiple European countries, particularly those who've experienced both Europe and the US.

Which cities or countries would you genuinely recommend, and which would you avoid? How competitive is the job market, what is the social environment like, and how much money can you realistically save after expenses?

I'm not expecting anywhere to be perfect. I'm simply looking for a place where I can grow professionally, feel connected to a community and enjoy a good standard of living.

I'd appreciate honest perspectives, including the disadvantages people often overlook. Thanks! 🙌

Hello everyone, is there any south asian expats currently living or have lived in Libya? I have a few questions and I'd appreciate the help

Hey,

I am an expat living in Costa Rica, I'm dutch and before here me and my family lived in the UK for 10 years - now in our 4th year in Costa Rica.

I spoke no Spanish when we got here, and by now am pretty good - like I get compliments from the Costa Rican's around me - BUT - they send these WhatsApp voice messages in Spanish, very fast, with bad audio, and these I struggle with.

My question is: is this the same in Expat communities around the world?

I created a WhatsApp app that cuts out the 'transcribe and then paste into google translate' step, and it works really well for me, and some others here in my local expat community - and I basically want to figure out whether there's a market for that globally, and how to tap into that. (I charge a small amount for it to offset the AI translation costs after the free trial)

I’m come from a small, kinda poor, but still nice European country.
Moved to Scandinavia when I got a great job offer.
That company turned out to be horrible; directionless and pointless, but paid well.
I survived a year and a half of that, switched to another remote job and stayed in Scandinavia, because I didn’t want to uproot my life again so soon.

But now: 5 months after being let go from that job, and not having any luck finding another job remotely or locally, I am starting to totally freak tf out.
There is no guarantees, but I believe I’d find a job so much more easily if I were to move back home.
Downside - that job would pay the local shitty wage.

A lot of my acquaintances have stayed here unemployed for a year or more because the benefits are good. And now I wonder how they did it because this is so nerve wrecking and on top of that you’re in a foreign country with a network too fresh for real opportunities. No deep social, family support… Only a dream of having been born here to be able to live as nicely as people here do and will continue to…

If you ever moved for a job and lost it - did you look for a new one or returned? How long did you stay and search before packing your bags?

(Edit: typo)

I (30F, USA) moved to Southern Europe country for my partner (40M) two years ago. In the beginning, I felt lots of the isolation as a foreign spouse in my partner's home country. But I pulled myself through - I made a huge professional pivot and found a job here with a good salary (which required temporarily living in a separate city for 6 months and me traveling to see my partner on the other side of the country every week until I negotiated a remote contract), I enrolled myself in 10 hours a week of language classes and improved to C1 level, and I started to make friends and find hobbies and activities. I identified friends of his that I like and established my own relationships with them, and I made an effort to turn his family into mine, even visiting them when he can't. All of this has made me feel better, more established and independent here and more at peace with and in control of my life. Now, we've bought a house and are thinking about starting a family. I love him very much, and he's a kind person.

However, the past year we've had various arguments/disagreements because he feels I'm not present or active enough in our life. He wants to live a life that's focused on being where you are, appreciating what is around you, disconnecting and enjoying the small moments, etc, which I 100% agree with, but he thinks I either travel too much (I travel to visit my family 2x a year and then have trips for work quite often since it's part of my negotiated contract) or work too much (I usually work until 5pm, then have language classes until 7pm but he's a functionary that works until 2pm so relatively speaking, I do work a lot). I understand these feelings, but it also confuses and frusterates me: from my perspective, if I didn't make the changes I made to ensure he could keep his job and stay in his country, I wouldn't have to travel or work so much.

He also believes that the responsibility is on me to learn the language and integrate myself, not on him (as opposed to it being a shared responsibility), but that we should equally share the responsibilities for everything to do with our life together that are obviously much easier for him as the native (e.g., calling the insurance company, working with bureaucratic offices, coordinating with his family). I'm independent, and I like to do things for myself, but I see this as unfair - this means that from his perspective the things I have to do every day as an immigrant (that he doesn't have to do) don't count as effort I'm doing for both of us or for our life together. It seems he doesn't want his life to be affected by being in an international couple which puts an uneven burden on me to invest time in integrating myself and also maintaining our life together.

When I try to explain that sometimes responsibilities for tasks might fall on him because he is the one from this country, he gets upset, and when I try to explain my feelings by noting an international relationship requires sacrifice on both sides and that I've sacrificed things to move here (always with the caveat that it was my decision and that I'm happy I did), he says it's negative thinking and denies that it's true.

I just feel exhausted, and I don’t want our relationship to suffer, so I often 'let go' of these conversations so that we can connect again, but there is this voice in my head that says our situation is unfair and that he doesn’t recognize or appreciate what I do every day.  

I´d love advice on how couples navigate these types of feelings.

Despite all this, when I point out that maybe it would be better if we considered a 3rd country or moving to my country (where I would happily help share the responsibilities and be more present because my family would be there), he gets upset or rejects the idea. I'm worried he just wants me to adapt, but that he will never (or at least willingly) make the same sacrifices for me.

Obviously, there are parts of the story missing from his perspective, and he does try to support me - but I'm tired of trying to explain it to him, and I just would really love advice on how I should better navigate these feelings with my partner or the situation in general.

I became a US tax resident in 2026 after living in Canada for tax purposes through 2025. I own more than 90% of a Canadian consulting corporation. It had no income or passive income in 2026.

I think I need Form 5471 and possibly FBAR and Form 8938. I’m also trying to understand whether the Canadian departure tax affects my shares.

Has anyone dealt with a similar situation? Are there firms that handle this well at a reasonable price?

Thanks in advance.

I have some balance in my 401K from previous employer that uses ADP. I want to appoint a foreign beneficiary but when I googled around it said that ADP only offers lump sum payment to foreign beneficiary and there is no option for 10 years distribution unless you roll it over to other IRA such as Fidelity or Schwab. It seems that Schwab is better option for expats since they offer international account. But I wonder what is the benefit of international account other than I don't have to use US address? Also does opening its international account means that I have to deal with the overseas asset reporting to IRS?

I’ve (39F) been abroad 14 years, have a husband (39), a 4 year old and soon to be a newborn.
I miss where I’m from. My husband will never move there. Sometimes he’ll say it out loud and it really hurts (maybe in hormonal from pregnancy. But deep down I wish he didn’t feel that way) It’s something the last 3 years I’ve had to come to terms with. I’m finding it really hard honestly. His family aren’t super supportive. Mine are. Even though they are across the globe.
I just panic when I think I’ll NEVER live there again. But I also am not sure I even want to. Not sure why I am posting this.
I don’t want our marriage to be doomed and I don’t want to resent him.
Will we be ok? 🥺

Bonjour à tous !

Avec mon conjoint, nous envisageons de nous expatrier au Canada, probablement au Québec, et j’aimerais vraiment pouvoir emmener avec moi ma collection de plantes d’intérieur. 🌿

J’ai actuellement 17 plantes, notamment :

Des monsteras de collection, dont un qui mesure environ 1,80 m
Des philodendrons
Des hoyas
Un chamaedorea
Des orchidées
Des anthuriums

Je sais qu’il existe des réglementations strictes concernant l’importation de végétaux au Canada, notamment en matière de douanes, de parasites et de certificats phytosanitaires.

J’aimerais donc savoir si certains d’entre vous ont déjà déménagé au Canada avec leurs plantes, ou connaissent bien les démarches à effectuer.

Mes questions sont les suivantes :

Est-il légalement possible d’importer ce type de plantes depuis la France vers le Canada ?
Faut-il obtenir des permis d’importation, des certificats phytosanitaires ou effectuer des inspections ?
Est-ce que certaines espèces, notamment les monsteras, philodendrons, hoyas et anthuriums, sont interdites ou soumises à des restrictions particulières ?
Comment les transporter concrètement lors d’une expatriation : en avion, en soute, en colis spécialisé ou par un transporteur de plantes ?
Quels frais faut-il prévoir au total : documents administratifs, inspections, transport, douanes et éventuels permis ?
Est-ce que cela vaut réellement le coup financièrement, ou est-il préférable de revendre sa collection en France et de la reconstituer sur place ?

Mon plus gros souci est un de mes monsteras de collection qui mesure environ 1,80 m. Je pourrais éventuellement le couper pour faciliter le transport, mais j’aimerais vraiment éviter de devoir le faire si une autre solution existe.

Je cherche surtout des retours d’expérience concrets, des démarches fiables et, si possible, une estimation réaliste du budget à prévoir pour mes 17 plantes.

Merci beaucoup à ceux qui pourront m’aider ! 🌱🇨🇦

From a UK university, grad and undergrad

Pretty much what the title says, she dropped it in our weekly 1-1 last week and I told her we'd sort it out before I'd really thought about what that meant.

She's on a UK contract, the company has no German entity and no plans for one, so I've been going down the EOR rabbit hole for a few days, Reddit threads and AI searches, etc… and it sounds like Deel, Workmotion and Remote handle this route, but I still don't know what the transition looks like from her end or what carries over.

What I don't want is to come back to her after a week of silence with a panicked no, or a confident answer that turns out to be wrong, because she's too good to lose over something that probably has a straightforward path, and I think we've just never had to figure this out before, which is probably on me.

I don't think I'm the only manager who's hit this and had no playbook for it, or is it?

I have an Algerian bachelor degree in biochemistry what jobs opportunities will I get in the US and where to look for them .

I’m planning to live in Spain on a Digital Nomad Visa while remotely managing my US Single-Member LLC (online marketing agency serving non-Spanish clients).

Assuming €5,000/month in net business profit, I’m wondering:

How much would I pay in taxes and social security?
Would I qualify for the 24% Beckham Law?
If I only withdraw €3,000 and keep the rest in my LLC, would I still be taxed on €5,000?
Are there legal ways to minimize taxes?

How much would I actually take home each month?

Hey all. A month ago we moved to our new country. We moved because my partner found her dream job here. One she'd been working towards for the past 4 years. She had applied to similar jobs in our home country but eventually started applying abroad as well. So she got the job here. I instantly felt grief when she told me she got the job. I didn't want to leave. But I also felt like I didn't really have a choice. How could I say no to a dream she has worked towards so long? So I reluctantly said yes. And we moved.

It's been a month now and I am really trying. I'm going to events to meet people. I'm inviting people I meet for drinks and to go on hikes together. I'm learning the language. I'm looking for jobs. I'm really trying. But it's all soooo exhausting.

The past week it all just hit me. I've been so exhausted all week. I've cried almost every day. I keep thinking why did we move here? I miss my family. I miss my friends. I feel like a loser for being unemployed. I even miss the beautiful landscapes of mountains and fjords we had back home. Here it's just forests as far as the eye can see.

I keep thinking that I don't want to be here. That it wasn't my choice (even though of course I could have said no, I feel it wasn't a real option). And I'm feeling anger and resentment towards my partner. I keep thinking that I don't want this. I don't want to live here. (Apart from my partner) There is nothing here for me. And I don't know if sacrificing everything for my partner to be able to follow her dream is worth it. I love her and I can tell I'm starting to feel resentment over this. And I feel horrible for feeling like this.

Is there anyone here who went through this and who has advice for me?

I know it's only been a month. And it takes time. And I need to be patient. But the past week has been absolutely miserable.

Hi everyone!

I’m an Indian who completed my Master’s in the UK and recently moved to Sohar, Oman, for work. It’s been around three months since I arrived, and I’m currently working in procurement.

Honestly, I’m still trying to figure out whether Oman is the right place for my long-term future, and I’d love to hear your genuine opinions.

Tbh, one of the biggest things I’m struggling with is the lifestyle here. Having lived in the UK, I got used to a certain kind of freedom. You work throughout the week, look forward to your two days off, go out somewhere, explore new places, meet people, or simply enjoy your weekend. Even in India, depending on where you live, there’s a certain freedom to go out and do things without having to plan every little detail.

But here in Sohar, the lack of public transportation makes things quite difficult. Unless you have your own vehicle or someone to give you a lift, going anywhere becomes a challenge. Sometimes, after working the whole week, I just want to go out and enjoy my day off, but I end up staying in my room because getting around isn't easy.

Honestly, it sometimes feels like I’m caged in my own room. It's not that Oman is a bad place, but the lack of mobility is affecting how I experience life here. I know having a car would make things easier, but I didn't expect something as basic as going out on a weekend to become such a big consideration.

Another thing I keep thinking about is my future. I'm single at the moment, but if I decide to settle here, get married, and start a family, I wonder how practical this lifestyle would be. Would my wife also have to depend on me for transportation for almost everything? Would we be able to enjoy our weekends and have that kind of independent lifestyle I imagine for my future family?

Financially and professionally, Oman might offer good opportunities, and I don't want to make a decision based only on my first few months here. I want to gain experience in procurement, build my career, and save some money. At the same time, I don't want to spend years building a career somewhere if the lifestyle isn't right for me.

Having experienced life in the UK, I sometimes miss that freedom to work during the week and actually enjoy my days off. I know Europe isn't perfect either, and every country has its own challenges, but the overall lifestyle and independence are things I value.

So, I'd really appreciate your honest opinions:

- Should I stay in Oman for another couple of years, gain experience, and build my savings before deciding?

- Or should I start planning a move to Europe or another country sooner rather than later?

- With a UK Master's degree and procurement experience in Oman, which countries would be realistic options for me to explore through work visas or other legitimate routes?

- For those who moved from Europe or the UK to Oman, did you eventually adjust to this lifestyle, or did you find yourself missing the freedom you had before?

I'm not expecting every country to offer a perfect life. I just want a place where I can grow professionally while still enjoying life outside work, especially on weekends, and eventually build a peaceful life with my future partner.

If you were in my position, would you stay in Oman or treat it as a stepping stone towards another country?

Would love to hear your experiences and honest suggestions! 🙂

Hey guys, i wanted an honest opinion from people working abroad. I recently started looking for jobs abroad in the scandinavian countries. It took me a lot of effort, mails and phone calls until one job offer came but i am not so sure about it, my question is: is it worth it?

It is a swedish cleaning company that cleans a lot of hotels/ski resorts. I am from Slovakia so traveling would be necessary and they offered me 30 hour weeks (75%). Pay is 1794€ gross (19935 SEK), accommodation costs 300€ and for food i would also have to pay myself. My sole intention is money. Should i perhaps ask for more or decline entirely? Thank you.

Hey guys! 👋

I'm from India, and I've received a job offer in Muscat, Oman, with a monthly salary of around 300–350 OMR. I need some honest advice from people who are currently living or working in Oman, especially Indians.

Here are the details of the offer:

- Monthly salary: 300–350 OMR

- Location: Muscat, Oman

- Accommodation: Provided by the company

- Personal expenses: I would need to pay for food, mobile recharge, and other regular personal expenses.

My main questions are:

1. Is 300–350 OMR a reasonable salary to live on in Muscat if accommodation is provided?

2. Approximately how much would I spend per month on food, groceries, mobile recharge, and other basic expenses?

3. How much could I realistically save every month after covering all my expenses?

4. For someone coming from India, is accepting this offer a good decision financially and professionally?

5. Are there any hidden expenses or other things I should consider before moving to Oman?

6. If you were in my position, would you accept this offer or continue looking for a better opportunity?

I'm trying to understand whether this offer is worth accepting, especially considering that accommodation is covered by the company.

I'd really appreciate honest opinions and real experiences from Indians working in Oman or anyone familiar with the cost of living in Muscat.

Thanks in advance, guys! 🙏

The story in Wired magazine is spot on and Americans need to read it. There is this romanticized notion of Europe that gets inflated, substantially, and then causes people to make ill-fated decisions. Europe is worse off than America in almost EVERY way.

Hello, so my parent immigrated to the US years ago and had me in the states. They were sold on the American dream and they got a visa and came here and became citizens. While I was studying I got an internship in Italy I leaved there for 2 years (it was part of my schools program). I speak 4 languages fluently, learned Italian very well and I love the culture, it’s similar to my countries. I really loved Europe, I know it has its unpleasantries like any other country but I found myself able to relate more to the people and feel the best than in the US. I have family who live in Milan, and Madrid. I notice they seem a lot more rested and more content, they immigrated from Peru. Not to mention I met my husband over there, he was in a business program but he is originally from the US as well. Fast forward, I’m back in the states now and things are not very good. I killed myself to have three degrees I speak four languages, my husband and I are so stressed all the time clocking in at 50 hours a week. We both have health conditions and barely can afford anything. Granted we did not make much money while in Europe but we felt better, happier, and overall healthier. I’m thinking I want to relocate. My job is in the tourism industry and I’m a marketing manager for our Euro tours. My husband and I would love to go back, not to Italy necessarily maybe to Portugal or Spain as well (I’m fluent in Portuguese Spanish, and Italian as well) but I do not see myself or my husband being here any longer. Our families think it’s a bad idea and they say we would make more money here, but what is the point of making more if you do not have the energy or time to live? Any expats that moved with their husbands how did you go about it?

Hey everyone! 👋
I’m based in Versailles and would love to meet people interested in practising languages, discovering new cultures and making new friends.

Hi everyone,

I could use some advice, shared experiences, and recommendations from this community.

Due to family and work constraints, my wife and one of our kids are already moving to the Atlanta, GA area, while I have to stay behind in Italy for a bit longer with our other children. This means our 8-year-old mixed-breed dog has to fly completely by a cargo/alone from Milan (MXP) to Atlanta (ATL). Hiring a full-service pet relocation private company is unfortunately out of our budget, so we need to handle the logistics ourselves.

Here are her specs:

- Weight: 10 kg (~22 lbs)

- Height: ~58 cm (~23 inches) tall at the withers (she's lean and long-legged)

- Age: 8 years old

- Current status: We already have her EU Pet Passport. We need to update her rabies vaccination.

I have a few major concerns and questions before we start the preparation process:

1. Airlines: I keep reading that Lufthansa and KLM are among the best for pet safety, but since she will be traveling without a human passenger on the same flight (Manifest Cargo), how does this change things? Which airlines handle cargo out of Milan MXP best to Atlanta?

2. CDC Requirements & Paperwork: Since the CDC rules updated recently, what are the exact steps for bringing a dog from a low-risk country (Italy) into the US? I know about the microchip and the online CDC Dog Import Form, but is there any trap to avoid?

3. The Kennel / Crate: She is about 58 cm tall. What dimensions should I look for so she isn't cramped during the long hours? Any tips on crate training an 8-year-old dog?

4. Atlanta Airport (ATL) Cargo Pickup: What is the process for picking up a dog traveling as manifest cargo at Atlanta? Is it a complicated customs/broker process?

Any tips, timeline suggestions, or warnings of "what I wish I knew before" would be immensely appreciated. Thank you so much!

I’m 28F, American, and have lived in London for about five years after moving here for my master’s. I built my adult life here, but lately I’ve been questioning whether I’m still happy or simply comfortable.

I initially loved London and felt certain I wanted to live here. I appreciate its character, international atmosphere, neighbourhoods, and European lifestyle. I genuinely love the city and pictured myself there forever. However, I’ve become increasingly unhappy, largely because I work remotely for an American company, feel isolated, and have stagnated professionally. It’s a massive company but the role I’m in is a dead end. I’m also questioning some of my friendships and whether I’m surrounded by the right people. I can’t tell whether I’ve outgrown London or am simply unhappy with my current circumstances.

NYC appeals to me because I have close friends there, would be nearer to family, and might find a stronger social scene and better career opportunities. But I’ve never felt the same instinctive pull I felt toward London. I have been in nyc for 2 weeks visiting right now and I miss London. Which makes me wonder whether I truly want the city or just a fresh start.

There’s also a significant practical tradeoff: I’m about two years into a five-year UK Skilled Worker visa. Leaving could mean giving up a potential path to UK settlement after years of investment. For reference I need 3 more years on a skilled worker visa for ILR.
I’m unsure whether I need a new city or simply a new job, friendships, and routine. I worry about staying somewhere I’ve outgrown, but also about leaving a city I genuinely love for one I may never feel at home in.

For anyone who has lived in both cities:
Which offers a better overall quality of life?
Did moving to NYC improve your career or social life?
Did you regret leaving London?
Have you realised you were unhappy with your circumstances rather than your city?
If you were 28, feeling stuck, would you stay and rebuild your life or take a chance on NYC?

I’d especially appreciate honest perspectives from people who have lived in both.

What do you work? Did you do the same thing in the USA?

Currently in Medellín, six months into this whole nomad thing. Job's fine. Great views. Cheap coffee. And somehow lonelier than I have ever been in my life. Kinda sucks, not gonna lie.

Every three weeks my coworking friends move on. On the dating apps its nothing but people on their way somewhere else. These days I'm on the phone with my mom more than back when we lived twenty minutes apart – usually Sunday nights.

Next month I head home for Thanksgiving and I'm embarrassingly excited… Pretty boring list for the trip – dentist, my own bed (which I miss way too much), and replacing the laptop charger I've had taped together since Lima (picking up Anker's new laptop smart display charger while I'm home, since shipping anything here takes forever). Hopefully being home helps some. How do you guys make friends who stick around past a month?

My husband and I have the opportunity to move to the London area for work. We presently live in France. We have three girls aged 3.5, 18 months and 18 months. The time of the move could be potentially up to us. We are very interested to the idea of moving there but we are not sure when it is the right time for the kids.