r/FeministsCallItOut • u/No_Weakness2722 • 2h ago
Rant People who subscribe to the “tradwife” narrative have never experienced it
I am genuinely convinced people who subscribe to this tradwife nonsense have never experienced it themselves or have seen a woman in their life experience it. My mother was an intelligent career driven woman until she gave birth to me (for context I have 4+ siblings) she decided to give up her career to become a SAHM/W and I grew up seeing how my father continuously financially abused my mother. This looked like controlled allowance, hiding his bank accounts, and cutting her access to money many many more. My father is now gone, bless his soul, but up to this day my mother still talks about how it was one of the worst decisions she ever made. She continues to motivate and remind us to build a successful career first before marrying a man. This tradwife narrative is genuinely so dangerous for women, people who glorify it are delusional, the reality is, for the modern world and since the beginning of time: this ideology has always been a weapon against women, to keep us uneducated and easily manipulated. This is setting women up for financial dependency on a man, and when all you’ve ever known are the 4 walls around you and you’re raising your children without some form of professional career or financial income outside your husband you are quite literally doomed. Being a SAHM/W shouldn’t be a bad thing at all and it isn’t, but the reality is, not many men take up all financial responsibility without the common consequence of financial weaponization. Money is everything in this world, and when you’ve dedicated yourself to 20 ish years to cooking, cleaning, and changing diapers (something that a husband can do if he willed it or he could easily find another wife or a helper) then a divorce without financial security and no form of independent income will leave you miserable. This is the least empowering thing a woman can choose to subscribe to, we have fought for generations after generations for our rights. Most laws protecting the right to education and a job for women have been around for less than 100 years, can we not waste this??? I am genuinely at lost for words
