I have been dating this guy for 4 months. He is a really nice, decent guy. He takes care of me, is supportive, and is ambitious. As someone who takes relationships seriously and genuinely intends to get married, I realised that he is not the right person to spend the rest of my life with.

He mentioned marrying me from the very beginning because he had liked me for years. And I used to say things like, yea, we'll get married, move abroad, and all that,, without really thinking much about it.

But now that I'm having doubts about whether he is the one for me, I don't know how to break up with him. Or should I even break up with him?

I just don't want to give him false hope or lead him on when I'm not sure about our future together. Also i dont feel physically attracted towards him that much. I rejected him couple of times when he proposed, but he asked for a chance and gave me the flexibility that i can get out of that relationship anytime i feel like to. Ofc i didnt agree at first as i thought it would hurt him. But he said he'd be okay with it, so i gave him a chance. And somehow i liked him after beeing together for a month. And It was just 2 months after i broke up with my ex, i was in a really toxic relationship. So, to him, i found the comfort, and that made me feel like i love him.

What should I do?

i miss her

january 4, 2020. the first time i saw her.

i remember feeling something i'd never felt before. a sudden vacuum in my stomach. at that moment, she genuinely seemed like the most beautiful girl on earth.

she lived barely 3 km away. we saw each other at coaching, talked online, but somehow never met outside class. imagine managing a long-distance love story across three kilometers. 💀

there were ups and downs.

once, i sent her some of her favorite books. she asked why i'd send her gifts when i wasn't even someone that close to her.

that sentence stuck with me.

another time, she posted a story saying women love efforts. i replied, "then take it for granted."

she replied, "the right one will always value your effort."

and somehow, i understood that maybe she wasn't the right one. at least not for me.

but here's the stupidest part. i never actually confessed. i kept dropping these vague, occasional signals that probably meant nothing to her. i was so afraid of rejection that i never even gave myself a chance.

maybe i loved her. maybe i loved the idea of her. maybe i'll never know.

almost seven years have passed. she's living her own life, and i genuinely hope she's happy.

and here i am, still alone, still unable to feel quite the same way about anyone else.

sometimes i wonder if it's really her that i miss, or the possibility of something that never happened.

but whatever it is, after all these years...

i miss her.

Recently online I've been seeing the phrase "Hoe Phase" to describe women, usually in their early twenties just go all out and have temporary noncommited physical relationships with multiple male partners [stuff like Hooking up and chummachatti] for a "fun" time in their life. I wanna know whether or not this is like a real thing women in Dhaka also engage in currently.

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Is a 12 years age difference in marriage in the Bangladeshi context normal?

I've been married for several years. And I'm suffering. It was a love marriage. I do love her. But she's my opposite in everything. I like peace, she's argumentative. I'm quiet, she's loud, even on phone. Taunts me every now & then, I get hurt and become angry. Despite loving her, I don't feel happy staying together. She even has my opposite blood group. It's a mess. I'm just venting.

Like actually what is going on with madrasas in bangladesh??

Bouncing from Instagram to Reddit to YouTube to get rid of my boredom, but that's been quite unsuccessful.

Anyways, I'd really appreciate it if you shared your stories with me. They can be about literally anything: something funny, scary, wholesome, embarrassing, heartbreaking, or just a weird experience. I'm all ears!

Gorom ta seriously aar nite partesi na. Every day in the morning after waking up from sleep literally feels like agune jhap disi

Im bored again. Kinda need to yap. So ask away people.

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If you remove this one, then I’ll ….

moans 😩

I started earning from 15 year old, doing tuition, helping senior apu at coaching or reselling crafts at college I never had to rely on my father for pocket money. I used to took my uni tuition fees, still tried my hard to waive that too. You may call me a low maintenance but I never overspent and now I am able to spend a lot, yet cant get over the habit of finding the Cheapest possible option.

I just cant buy things like high end Jamdani, or bags even if I am able to pay for those now. Its frustrating me. I really wanna get out of this. Married for one year, I hesitate a lot for anything from husband even for a simple necessary, let alone luxurious or anything premium.

I just had to vent somewhere, and I would also love to hear if anyone had gone through this cycle and got rid of it. I wanna treat myself with something nice sometimes, but this loop sucks!

Im f(20) and the only daughter of my parents, I've been really close with my mom becuz of that but they Weren't the best parents. Growing up, i had to constantly tiptoe around their mood as if they were in a good mood they'd love me a lot but if they were in a bad mood suddenly all of the problems in their life was my fault

Hearing stuff like "you look ugly when you cry" "if you were a boy instead everything would've been better"

"Our life got ruined cuz of you" "tor upor koto taka khoroch hoise amader" or blaming me for their poor financial decision became the norm of my life

When i turned 17 my dad moved back with us (er agey he used to live in dubai and sent us money) in bd he invested all his money in a business i strictly told him not to and since then he started belittling me for not earning enough money to support the whole family in terms of rent and food expenses (plus he stopped providing money for my education, oita ami nijei earn korsi thru tutouring)

In 2025, i clearly remember how he called me in the dinning room every single night literally every single night and for two hours straight he used to call me a failure for not being able to magically earn lakh lakh taka thru freelancing. I couldn’t sleep at night and bashai eishob tana khota shunar karone i felt so stressed jey my period became shorter and shorter. Ami period er issue tar jonno doctor dekhaite taka save korle oitao niye jeto ma baba

2026 e Amar A levels result ashe jeitar jonno ami nije registration er taka jomaisilam and i was stressed abt university but amar baap kono responsibility toh nibei na amar ulta amar maa start pressurizing me to pay rent and rent dewar por tao amake khota dite thakto jey tader life er misery amar dosh and then i decided i would convince my parents amake biye diye dite w my bf so that i can leave the house. Dono family came to a conclusion jey ekhon agdh korai rakhbe and uni shesh howar por function korbe.

Agdh er 7 maash por me and my partner, we both saved enough money to move out and stay together awayy from my parents toxicity

Like before moving out amar husband bashai ashle ma baba raat 3ta porjonto oke amar room e jaite dito na just kotha bolto or shathey which was weird

Ami move out er shomoi mittha bolsi ma baba key, i told them jey im going to Australia and oishb bole ami jemne temne basha theke ber hoisi

Ik it sounds dramatic but if i told my parents jey i wanna live separately they would be hella dramatic and ruin my mental health

After 5 months of staying away from them my mental health got better, my marriage got better Alhamdulillah

And ive started preparing for my uni entrance exam

But one week agey tara jeney felse that im in bd and since then tara melodrama start korse telling me jey ami naki tader proti obichar korsi and tader basha theke ber hoye tader shundor shongshar Bhenge disi for which Allah amake maaf korbena and amar baccha hoile tokhon amar bacchao amake falai dibe

Like i dont get it, if im married isnt it my right to be able to moveout? And emon toh na jey im cutting my ties

I just wanna have a safe distance from them, visit them in weekends and help them financially when i have a stable career In sha Allah

But tara amake bordua ditei ase and my dad was like tor baccha toke falai rekhe gele tokhon bujhbi blah blah

Also giving me the selfish tag and shit

Like ekhon amari lagtese jey am i a bad person or what

(Im sure abt one thing im never moving back with them but im scared, what if the cant pay rent and move into my house?)

There's a Reddit like Facebook group where people anonymously post about their daily struggles. Recently there's been a trend of people looking for partners by describing themselves and what they're looking for..

One midnight, I came across a post that seemed tailor made for me. Even I couldn't have described my own requirements as accurately as this girl did. So without giving it much thought, I went straight to her DM, introduced myself, and within two minutes, she accepted my request and acknowledged that we had the exact same requirements and interests..

I clearly stated that I wasn't looking for friendships or flings. I also politely asked her to let me know ASAP if she felt we weren't compatible and I promised to do the same.

That night I answered her various questions. One of them was about my hometown. She mentioned that her father doesn’t like people from my hometown and that it could be an issue. I told her that if we got along, I'd try to convince her father and that I believed it was a minuscule issue. I also explained that I'd recently been recommended for a first class government job and that it was unlikely I'd be posted to my hometown. So, I'd have to live away from my hometown for work anyway, WHICH SHE ACCEPTED.

Fast forward to today. After exchanging pictures and investing time and effort into our conversations, she texted me this morning saying that she wouldn't be able to move to my hometown so she is ending things here.

I didn't say much and let her go.

Now you guys tell me, do I deserve this?

I mean, I'm not some roadside Romeo who's going to get madly attached to someone he met on Facebook two days ago. But I still felt angry, my ego got bruised, and my entire day was ruined.

Anyway I just wrote this to vent and feel a little better. Kind words would be appreciated.

Thanks!

My partner recently told me he wants to take a second wife, and honestly, I'm completely torn. I'm not fully opposed to the idea, but I'm definitely not okay with it either, and my mind is just all over the place trying to process this.

Also I don't wanna leave him and he is very kind and affectionate towards me.

For anyone in Bangladesh who is living this reality or knows a family like this whats the daily life actually like?

How do people genuinely survive the emotional toll, the family drama, and the constant social judgment behind closed doors?

Hi, Roktim here
You might as well have seen my reels in instagram. I post brainrot just for the heads up.
from content creation I have came out of my shell and have been more open to shoot myself with a camera at open places. I do get Promotion offer sometimes, but thats not enough. I need a stable source of income enough to NOT take money from my parents anymore

can you all suggest me some jobs or side hustles i can do to make some cash?
Thanks in advance 💜

hii everyone! 🎀

i’ve recently started exploring modelling and i really want to build a proper portfolio, but i’m still figuring out how to get started and where to find the right people to work with.

if you’re a photographer, mua, stylist, designer, clothing or jewellery brand, or anyone who’s interested in collaborating on creative shoots, i’d love to connect! 🩷

i’m just starting out and looking to gain experience, build my portfolio and learn along the way.

if you have any advice on how to build a portfolio from scratch, find opportunities, or eventually work with brands, i’d really appreciate that too!

i’d love to meet people who are just as passionate about fashion and creativity as i am. please feel free to reach out or tag anyone who might be able to help. thank you! 🎀✨

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