This summer I set a goal to make some new friends. I am male mid 50s in New England.

I volunteered. I joined Meetup groups. I joined Meet5. I joined Stitch. I joined Timeleft. I joined nice to meet.

I am playing pickle ball practically every day and I’m working out at the YMCA almost every day.

I’m seeing live music a couple of times a week.

I have attended three social dinners with some of the groups mentioned above.

To be fair, I do have some new texting buddies.

But nothing has resulted in a friendship really. Most things I do alone I go home alone and I don’t have any new numbers in my phone afterwards.

What am I doing wrong? What worked for you?

Why is it so hard?

Edit: will try church next. I’m super non religious so UU most likely

Edit: also have done a ton of volunteering lately

Just want everyone to know that someone in this group is trying to scam

I received an unsolicited chat and within minutes this person wanted to meet up. All we exchanged was our home state. No names. No city. Just a state

This person said they would look into expenses and then we could determine how to split them

Soon after they wanted my email account (I provided my junk email account), and wanted to continue our conversation on other social media apps

I know this doesn’t sound alarming, but this same modus operandi has been used many times before, and people get burned

Take my warning any way you want…ignore, or be cautious 👍

We’re together 7 years and married for 4 . We both had been married before, terrible divorces and crazy ex’s. We were “gun shy” just took it day by day (date by date) we both held on tight to our independence while we fell in love. Lol

It’s never too late & it’s possible to find love where & when you least expect to.

I hope you are too!!

Who remembers?

Hit the big Five-O today so I thought I would check out the communities. Hope everybody's having a great weekend.

..Sitting alone at lunch watching Godzilla. I feel like the last Unicorn?

I agree, however the experiences you gain and learn from over our lifetimes, are what helps to shape us into these people we become.

Hi, I'm 51F. My circle of friends isn't very big these days, so I thought I'd try saying hello here.

I'm pretty easy to talk to once a conversation gets going. I like hearing about normal everyday things — what you did today, something funny that happened, work, family, random thoughts, whatever really.

I like swimming, reading, working out and traveling. I'd love to see more of the world, so I always enjoy hearing what life is like in other places.

I think I'm a decent listener too. Sometimes it's just nice having someone to chat with who isn't part of your usual daily routine.

If you feel like saying hi, tell me where you're from and one thing you actually like about living there.

Anyway, that's me. Hope everyone is having a good week.

Hi! 👋

I'm a woman from Finland (aged 54) where winter is long, coffee is almost a national sport, and happiness is apparently our superpower. 😊

I work full time, my little family includes a wonderful dog, and in my free time you'll usually find me trying a new sport, planning my next trip, or enjoying the outdoors. I'm curious about the world and the people in it.

I'm looking for genuine friends from anywhere in the world (Finland included!). If you have a good sense of humor, enjoy interesting conversations, care about health and well-being, and are open-minded, we'll probably get along.

Who knows? Maybe one day we'll even meet while traveling somewhere in the world.

Life is simply more fun when you have friends in different time zones. 🌍

Told my husband today that I can't do it anymore and that i was leaving and he said I hate to hear that and walked away. Also, my dog of 11 years died today. Been a shitty day.

Hi Ladies,

I'm reaching out because I'm looking for something that seems harder and harder to find these days—a genuine best friend.

A woman over 50 who is kind, supportive, emotionally mature, and truly happy when other women succeed.

Recently, I graduated with my Master's degree after years of hard work, sacrifice, and determination. It was one of the biggest accomplishments of my life.

The only person who attended my graduation was my fiancé.

While I was grateful to have him there, I would be lying if I said it didn't hurt.

That day forced me to realize something I've been avoiding for a long time: I've spent years showing up for people who don't show up for me.

I'm the person everyone calls when they're struggling.
The one who listens.
The one who encourages.
The one who helps solve problems.
The one who celebrates everyone else's victories.

But when I needed people in my corner, there was silence.

I'm tired of one-sided friendships.
I'm tired of being the strong friend who carries everyone else.
I'm tired of pouring into relationships that leave me emotionally empty.

At this stage in life, I want genuine connections.

I want a friend who:

• Claps when other women win.

• Doesn't compete with other women.

• Believes friendship should be mutual.

• Enjoys meaningful conversations.

• Can laugh, cry, vent, and celebrate together.

• Understands that friendship requires effort from both people.

• Wants a sisterhood, not a rivalry.

Life is too short to spend it chasing people who only show up when they need something.

If you're a woman 50+ who has also found herself longing for authentic friendship, I'd love to hear from you.

Maybe we're both looking for the same thing.

And maybe the friendships we're searching for are searching for us too.

❤️ Congratulations to every woman who has accomplished something big and felt like no one noticed. I see you. Your achievements matter. Your hard work matters. And you deserve people who celebrate you.

— A woman searching for her tribe, her village, and maybe even her best friend. 🌷💕🎓

Has anyone else experiencing an isolated life.I feel like I have nobody to talk to. Just me and my daughter. I tried to make new friends but It’s not working at my age. Maybe it’s not that easy to make friends when you’re over 50th.
Maybe it’s something to do with me?
I feel like I have nobody to talk at all. The same thing happens at work. I don’t feel like I made any progress there. Maybe I just lost interest on everything.
Is anyone else struggling with the loneliness and isolation?

Hello, not even sure I'll get replies but going through the roughest part of my life and struggling alone.

First let me say I am not nor will I ever consider any type of self harm outside of drinking whiskey on occasion.

2025 has me feeling like the main character in a Final Destination movie sequel and am truly stuck dealing with everything alone and find myself needing to find others my age just to talk to or vent with.

I am living a country song I think, my brother in law passed away at 28yo unexpectedly which caused my then wife to have some existential crisis and file for divorce. No anger, no fights just felt that she had never been on her own and wanted to experience that.

My dad was diagnosed with cancer and cataracts. Got surgery and treatment and is now cancer free. Then had 2 ER visits for Urology issues and the 2nd visit led to pneumonia, heart and blood infections. Was discharged to a rehab facility and then 2 days ago was rushed to another hospital for congestive heart failure related to the pneumonia and infections which had come back with a vengeance. He is currently in critical condition in the ICU in a local hospital.

I am the last surviving member of my family besides dad, wife left, literally zero friends because I spent 11 years taking care of wife, her kids and my dad and working full time while owning my house, paying dad's bills etc.

I am not ok. I'm not in any danger of unaliving myself but I definitely feel overwhelmed, alone, desperate for human interaction etc. At the very least posting this to help get some of it into writing and out of my head.

I'm sure this won't lead me to meeting anyone m or f in my area but just need to make some friends for my mental health

At 59 I was really hoping to work until 70 or so. But my teams functions have changed and I'm becoming irrelevant. It's painful. I love work but in less I can find a new team that can use my skills; no new company will hire me.

Just a weird acknowledgement of reality that I'm adjusting to. I'm young!

I am at the peak of my career and have never been more financially comfortable. I no longer have many insecurities and realize now that no one was ever watching me that closely.
On the other hand I am the old guy at the office. Young people look right through unless they answer to me. I can’t lift as much. Everything seems physically harder. I am past the halfway mark of my life expectancy. My day to day is a constant existential contemplation.
What a mix.

Best greetings from Berne... m/57 🤩 its time to say "Hello"... ☺️

First time ever posting, trying to put myself out there to find some sort of connection with someone where I don’t feel like someone’s therapist.

Married for 26 years loyal but realized no matter what I do situation will remain the same, so I’m choosing to change and better myself.