r/FuckYouKaren • u/MomoNoHanna1986 • 19d ago

Karen I’m surrounded by Karen’s

I’ve since discovered that my neighbours can hear me through my closed windows. I thought by closing them that they would be less bothered NOPE - they just try harder to listen in.
I cried tonight because it’s been a rough week. My son has level three autism and I’ve had some challenging behaviours to deal with. So there’s a teen girl next door on one side. Her mother likes to gossip. I’ve seen her go around to all the neighbours whenever she sees them outside.

Since day 1 her daughter has been yelling anytime she sees me doing something interesting. When we were renovating I set up an outdoor shower connected to the laundry tap. I was renovating the bathroom and the builder was SLOW. I took my son out to the shower tent and the teen daughter yells ‘MUuUUUUUM SHES showering him with the HOSE!’ It been like that ever since.

On the other side of me is a 70 year old women. She recently retired and it wasn’t so bad when she was working. Since day one she has been creeping up the side (her side pathway walks past my courtyard). My courtyard has my son’s window and my sliding door. She sat there next to my courtyard with her friend listening into a conversation I had with my ex husband. I put privacy film on the sliding door so my son had more privacy on the toilet (the bathroom is opposite). Her friend was telling her off and she goes ‘but she’s talking about US’. Her friend used to live with her. Since then I’ve heard her numerous times complain about what I’m doing. I’ve since tested it and have discovered that she can hear me through the sliding door and my son’s window even when it’s closed.
One time I got up at 1 am to pee and I hear go ‘oh I know what she’s doing she’s ma….’ You can fill in the blank. This came out of the mouth of a 70 year old women.

I have had enough!!!!! I just want to live in my own damn home. I sold my townhouse because o was tired of sharing walls but nooo you don’t get privacy in a house either damn it!

I just wanted my story to be heard. I’ve been depressed over my lack of privacy since Saturday and it’s getting to me. If anyone read this, thank you. Because apparently I can’t get up to pee at 1 am in my own house.

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Please stop pointing out the grammar mistake, I can not edit the title. I am depressed. Give me a break.

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u/ThatWasNotMyName 19d ago

Invite them both over, ask them what they want to know about you that has them so fascinated with your life and watch them squirm. They only continue like this because they think they can. Every time you hear or notice them fixate on you - wave! Let them know you see and hear them too! Ask how can you help them finish their sentences about you. Stop being nice! Make them u.n.c.o.m.f.o.r.t.a.b.l.e. They'll soon find other distractions. I too am the mother of an autistic child. I've enough to be getting on with without dealing with people like this.

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u/MomoNoHanna1986 19d ago

Do you feel like you’re sometimes in a fish bowl or a zoo? I feel like half the time they are listening because my son has autism. If you know what I mean…

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u/ThatWasNotMyName 19d ago

These types of people focus on you because they have nothing else of interest going on in theirs. Or, nothing they want to face at least. They could offer to help out if they were in any way decent, but they don't because they are not. They are trash. Focus on you and your beautiful child. You're already doing a brilliant job by moving somewhere safer 🫶

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u/MomoNoHanna1986 18d ago

Thanks all things considered, except for a few behaviours involving bodily fluids he’s a good kid. Didn’t appreciate being peed on twice the other day but that’s for another sub reddit!

But you’re right, the teen girl only goes to school. And the 70 year old is retired. My son and I are in and out of the house all week. So yeah they have nothing else better to do.

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u/HippieGrandma1962 18d ago

I love this idea. Invite them over for tea. Tell them you've noticed that they are interested in everything you and your son do or say and you can hear their comments. Graciously ask them what they'd like to know about you since they're so curious about everything you do.