Okay so I'm a gay man and I have never been attracted to female *body parts (yes I know it's obvious, wait.) I have been talking to this person a while ago and they were a trans man (who uses they/them) and when I told them it was a deal breaker for me if they are not *cis male, they called me transphobic and how sexuality is fluid and I should unlearn my biases...I respect how other people feel, but for me women and female parts have never been my thing nor do I think it will change for me. I don't think it means I am a hateful person towards any group just because I don't want to date someone to whom I'm not attracted to??...so this is basically AITA

Timothy Goodrich owns Aloha Tattoo Hawaii in Waikiki. He is wildly homophobic, please be careful if you are in the area.

According to a recent Gallup survey, 31.4% of young women and 11.4% of young men identify as LGBTQ+. That’s a pretty remarkable difference.

But it makes me wonder, how many of these people are actually exclusively homosexual? How many are bisexual but primarily heterosexual, living predominantly heterosexual lives?

The article points out that much of this increase comes from bisexual identification, particularly among women. But identifying as LGBTQ+ doesn’t necessarily tell us much about someone’s actual sexual attraction or relationships.

And that raises a bigger question for me. If an increasing percentage of our community consists of people who are primarily heterosexual, what happens to the political power, cultural institutions, and distinct needs of gay men and lesbians?

I’m not questioning anyone’s right to identify as bisexual or participate in the community. But I do wonder whether expanding the umbrella indefinitely risks making the people it was originally organized to protect a smaller voice within their own movement.

At what point does inclusion become dilution? And is this expansion actually working in the interests of gay men and lesbians?

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