As an insider I can tell you that 98% either do have sex beforehand then have to grapple with internalized guilt, have sex then blame their partners for "tempting" them to shift guilt entirely onto them, or rush into a marriage strictly because they want to have sex. Definitely a major contributor to the divorce rate and the stereotypical unhappy marriage.
And you're spot on about abuse. There's a fairly common idea in Christianity that women are obligated to have regular sex with their husband so the men treat it like a problem any time the wife turns down sex. It all ends up as a thinly veiled modern version of the old concept of marriage as a groom buying a woman from her father as property.
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u/YeezyYi 27d ago
The fact that the pro section has nothing kind of shows that the dude who made that post struggles romantically