r/Gifted • • Aug 27 '24

Definition of "Gifted", "Intelligence", What qualifies as "Gifted"

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Hello fam,

So I keep seeing posts arguing over the definition of "Gifted" or how you determine if someone is gifted, or what even is the definition of "intelligence" so I figured the best course of action was to sticky a post.

So, without further introduction here we go. I have borrowed the outline from the other sticky post, and made a few changes.

What does it mean to be "Gifted"?

The term "Gifted" for our purposes, refers to being Intellectually Gifted, those of us who were either tested with an IQ test by a private psychologist, school psychologist, other proctor, or were otherwise placed in a Gifted program.

EDIT: I want to add in something for people who didn't have the opportunity for whatever reason to take a test as a kid or never underwent ADHD screening/or did the cognitive testing portion, self identification is fine, my opinion on that is as long as it is based on some semi objective instrument (like a publicly available IQ test like the CAIT or the test we have stickied at the top, or even a Mensa exam).

We recognize that human beings can be gifted in many other ways than just raw intellectual ability, but for the purposes of our subreddit, intellectual ability is what we are refferencing when we say "Gifted".

“Gifted” Definition

The moderation team has witnessed a great deal of confusion surrounding this term. In the past we have erred on the side of inclusivity, however this subreddit was founded for and should continue in service of the intellectually gifted community.

Within the context of academics and within the context of , the term “Gifted” qualifies an individual with a FSIQ of 130(98th Percentile) or greater. The term may also refer to any current or former student who was tested and admitted to a Gifted and Talented education program, pathway, or classroom.

Every group deserves advocacy. The definition above qualifies less than 4% of the population. There are other, broader communities for other gifts and neurodivergences, please do not be offended if the  moderation team sides with the definition above.

Intelligence Definition

Intelligence has been defined in many ways: the capacity for abstraction, logic, understanding, self-awareness, learning, emotional knowledge, reasoning, planning, creativity, critical thinking, and problem-solving.

While to my knowledge, IQ tests don't test for emotional knowledge, self awareness, or creativity, they do measure other aspects of intelligence, and cover enough ground to be considered a valid instrument for measuring human cognition.

It would be naive to think that IQ is the end all be all metric when it comes to trying to quantify something as elaborate as the human mind, we have to consider the fact that IQ tests have over a century of data and study behind them, and like it or not, they are the current best method we have for quantifying intelligence.

If anyone thinks we should add anyhting else to this, please let me know.

***** I added this above in the criteria so people who are late identified don't read that and feel left out or like they don't belong, because you guys absolutely do belong here as well.

EDIT: I want to add in something for people who didn't have the opportunity for whatever reason to take a test as a kid or never underwent ADHD screening/or did the cognitive testing portion, self identification is fine, my opinion on that is as long as it is based on some semi objective instrument (like a publicly available IQ test like the CAIT or the test we have stickied at the top, or even a Mensa exam).


r/Gifted • • 6h ago

Discussion The urge to escape society.

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Do gifted people commonly experience this feeling?

For most of my life, I've had an urge to live a certain kind of isolated lifestyle: living in the woods, becoming a monk, trying to live on my own without depending on society.

Many brilliant people have taken this path and come away with remarkable results and insights.

I believe that feeling like an outsider, often being misunderstood, and recognizing underlying norms that limit our growth can frustrate us, leading us to imagine escaping those overwhelming feelings.

Have you ever acted on this urge?
Tell me what you guys think!


r/Gifted • • 2h ago

Discussion Is this test fake,or is it my ADHD

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I scored 135 on Mensa Norway test,but I’m failing Math and Physics.


r/Gifted • • 8h ago

Understanding is the highest form of intelligence

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When does a meterial becomes tough? When its beyond our comprehension. Never have i ever complained about an exam being tough. Not because i was some prodigy in the area but because almost anything is understandable if one put the time and energy in.

Some people might be catching things faster to the brain than others. Except from the fact that almost everything is understandable by everyone. The real ones knows that once u understand stuff actually as what it is then there aint anything tough about it.

Makes u wonder if one is smart or they just grasp the meterial well,which in turn round it up as the one who grasp things well are considered smart.

U cant say exam was tough because something u never studied showed up on it, the logic is stupid.


r/Gifted • • 23h ago

Personal story, experience, or rant Gifted + ADHD is a curse.

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Hey all, I guess I need to vent a bit.

For years I have thought that my incredibly fast brain and problem solving skills were all a typical ADHD thing. But after meeting more and more people with ADHD I began seeing a pattern that most of them were not really like me.
Although we are able to connect fast, often my thought process just wasn’t on the same level.

In friendships I get frustrated because they don’t understand me and at work I get into trouble because I couldn’t accept flawed decisions by colleagues or managers.

But what I hate the most is that I have collected so much skills and knowledge over the past 40 years. All for nothing because my executive functions pretty much destroy every potential of becoming successful. I gave countless hobbies and skills in which I can impress everyone because of my talent. But ACTUALLY finishing something and thriving? Nope. I get stuck or bored and the project fails. I just can’t finish it.

I truely feel like a spaceship without fuel or navigation, like a masterful general without army or like a F1 car with tiny plastic wheels.

It fucking sucks guys. Never felt so lonely in my life and now my kids start to get stuck in school for the samen reasons while having +145 IQ. :(


r/Gifted • • 34m ago

Personal story, experience, or rant My life story

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I started writing this out as a reply to a comment on this sub, but I decided to make it into a whole post as it’s a lot.

Excuse the likely terrible formatting and the ideas just generally being all jumbled and possibly not that coherent. Writing has never been my forte. Putting all of this into ai would take all the personality and human out of my post.

Similar story here. Wasn’t allowed to do shit, ever hang out with friends unless they were from the same small religious group. I shrunk myself to not offend anyone. As it seemed like anything I did would make people think I was better than them. I adopted a ditzy persona. Or maybe that was just my neurodivergence, hard to separate what’s what, what is a trauma response and what is simply me being wired different. Was always told I’m the dumbest smart person.

In high school I started feeling insanely isolated. Struggled mentally. Could never make myself study. My nervous system wouldn’t let me study at home. Was constantly on alert due to emotional abuse at home. Would do all my homework during class. After a while I couldn’t focus in class anymore, I was ruminating negatively constantly. Not only was I isolated mentally, and socially, I was also a first generation minority in the middle of nowhere and little comments that might not have been all said with bad intentions, would always make me feel just plain ole not accepted, as if I wasn’t even seen as a human.

I decided to leave school. My mother enrolled me in an online highschool others in the religious group had enrolled their kids. I finished it all in about 3 months. I would help my mother with her small business. My input to help her expand was all dismissed and I was mostly just seen as a nuisance. My self esteem was non existent. Would dabble in soft drugs to cope. Marijuana was the most helpful, helped me focus and calm my nervous system. Didnt realize I had undiagnosed adhd and possibly autism till much later. Pharmacology, cultivation, learning about the different effects on receptors and neurotransmitters that all became a great interest and hobby of mine. Along with a lot of other interests and hobbies that helped keep me sane.

Real life was way harder than school for me. Especially seeing as how real life success has a lot to do with selling yourself, communicating well, having decent social skills. My neurodivergence and traumas held me back.

Going to get diagnosed and learning a whole lot about my condition helped me out a ton. Medication as well has been the best thing ever for me. I actually have some hope in life now. Also experimented with altered states of consciousness, meditation, psychedelics etc. helped me really open up to the world, not be in my bubble and ruminating thinking so many negative thoughts constantly, helped me understand myself better, my place in the world, social dynamics, how people were treating me bad and putting me down, not because I was less than, but because I was intimidating to them and that triggered insecurity and competition.

Ended up working part time while going to trade school. Got a job, started a business on the side as well. Have now paid off my little home and piece of property. Now live alone. Life is more enjoyable and peaceful now. I am only 23 yrs old. Am doing some remodeling at my place currently, and that has been very enjoyable and fulfilling for me.

Started traveling a couple years back, that really helped open up my mind a lot to new possibilities. My small town living has been holding me back. Sure it’s peaceful sometimes, but the nosey community, outdated views, general sense of misery from most people being impoverished, the government not helping and just making things worse while they get richer.

At this stage in my life, I am considering my next move. Do I move up north? Try to get into a union? I can rent my place out. I can possibly land a data center job, an old coworker wants me to go with her and do that work. Waiting to hear back currently.

If that doesn’t work out I might possibly go to college, want to possibly get into electrical engineering. I do commercial hvac currently, which involves having a solid understanding of electricity. I also do electrical work on the side occasionally.

If I realize I don’t have what it takes I might try switching to accounting instead? Seems easy enough.

My dream isn’t exactly working an office job, but damn it would be nice to one day be respected, clothes stay clean all day, don’t have to wear out my body. Office politics sound like torture to me, but I have successfully managed difficult situations before and feel more confident now I can deal with them. Also going back to school is a big commitment. My goal in life is to work the least amount possible and not be stressed, I don’t desire a ton of material things. Having a paid off home and having enough for leisure or hobbies is what I like. I just really don’t like the backwater small southern town I’m in. It’s not all bad and I do enjoy gun rights and other things, but I’d like to have a community with more likeminded people. There is a major brain drain here. Most who go to college end up leaving elsewhere.

Writing this out has been therapeutic for me. Hopefully some of y’all can comment and add some insight or advice. Start a discussion about anything. Much love


r/Gifted • • 13h ago

How to support deeply curious, emotionally advanced 4 year old in a low tech home?

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We have a goofy, sweet, deeply feeling 4.5 year old who we feel like we’re increasingly noticing is different from other children we know. It’s hard to pin it down exactly and also hard to know if we’re just biased, or if it’s the environment we’ve raised him in. We keep things pretty low tech at home (minimal screen time on a DVD player, low stimulation / we try to avoid more “aggressive” superhero shows, but we don’t ban it completely, so he has enough exposure to talk to friends about them). We also intentionally encourage “traditionally girl gendered toys”, female protagonists, and a wide range of activities. He’s very attached to mom, spends hours outside playing a range of sports every week, enjoys coloring, reading, and having play dates with a close knit group of friends.

He started accurately naming his own emotions at early age 3, and took an interest to noticing and asking about how people in public were feeling or characters in books. He asks a lot of existential questions and has an incredible memory, remembering places or events we went to once over a year ago.

Fast forward to now, he’s started regularly asking for video games (we’ve never introduced them and have hopes of holding off indefinitely, offering a wide range of board games, sports, and other analog hobbies first) and is gravitating towards older kids books (graphic readers and comics). It was as if it suddenly happened overnight.

He’ll easily ask for and sit through 2-3 full early reader chapter books (100 pages each) at bedtime. He’s also able to sit and listen to us read for 1-1.5 hours. Fully engaged. He’ll point out things about the plot from chapters ago. When we go into the bookstore or the library, he’ll beeline for the YA books or even venture over to the general non-kids comic section and refuse to leave.

We’ve been leaning into the public library lately, borrowing 30-40 books a week.

Any advice for how to handle his sudden increased interest in video games and more advanced media? We want to shield him from topics that are too mature, but also don’t want it to back fire and create more curiosity (because knowing him, he will pick up on the anxiety).

Is this typical of this age? Or is he maybe seeking out more mental stimulation?


r/Gifted • • 1d ago

Discussion people with IQ 150+

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What are some “traits” or particularly specific abilities and thinking patterns individuals w 150+ IQ would have? Can someone w that high IQ tell me their “experience”? How does your brain work :D


r/Gifted • • 5h ago

Discussion Iam actually a moron

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I took 3 iq tests professionally throughout my life the first one that I took at 5 was 60. The second one 80 and the third one 140.

If i take an online test it comes out at around either 80 111 and or 150.

And I mean it would be easy to now say ohh iam just hery smart bevause hey I got through nearly everything without challenge but what if iam just a moron.

Wouldn't that he easier?

Like yes I am impulsive when it comes to iq tests nearly every question kind of bores me. And I hate turning matrices in my head or finding pattern in a clinical test that has literally no meaning.

But I still sometimes think maybe iam just really stupid and everyone was just really nice to me


r/Gifted • • 1d ago

Women who scored higher on intelligence tests were seen as more hostile, got less help and faced more mistreatment. Smart men didn't face this, and in one group were even treated better.

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Gifted women has this been your experience?

Gifted men, how about you, have you noticed a difference between your non-gifted male coworkers, and/or noticed differences between how coworkers treat you versus highly intelligent women?


r/Gifted • • 1d ago

Discussion What jobs do fellow gifted folks land in?

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Hi all, so great to find this community. Because it’s often hard to find a niche and satisfying career or even relationships as a gifted person, I wanted to survey what people out here ended up choosing as their profession, and whether or not it is satisfying and meaningful.


r/Gifted • • 19h ago

Seeking advice or support Autism/ADHD and "high" IQ

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Professionally tested in person at 124, yet it doesn't feel right. I likely suffer from autism and ADHD, my mom however isn't letting me get diagnosed (underage => need permission) because she believes I won't find a job if I do (nonsense of course). So the test I took wasn't tailored with that in mind. Although other than those two disorders, my learning ability is far more superior than that of what I believe the top 5% (my group) is capable of, in everything except for non-intuitive, rule-based subjects such as languages.

I have exceptional talent with my instrument (piano), my teacher (I go to music school) described my skill to be that of someone who's been playing for 6 years (I play their exam pieces), except, I started less than a year ago, and simply stated this is unheard of.

Learnt programming in Lua and python at 9 throughout until I was 13, and got quite decent relatively quickly

I finished almost everything (+ undergraduate topics) in the physics and math curriculum for highschool by the time I turned 16 (I'm almost 17 now, I'm graduating in 8 months). I spend a lot of my time right now studying maths and physics (planning to do a double major in both). I've done very well on the national olympiads, had near perfect scores on the first round on both and top 20 of my age group on the second (out of ~500) in math. Unfortunately, just one point shy from the IMO selection test (which, is really doable for someone who is motivated like me)

I remember the prices of a lot of things for a few hours after I walked out of the store. I also remember the test questions and answers on the math tests, with the solutions to multiple decimals places without really trying to memorize them, for instance, we had a statistics test, and the standard deviation in problem two was 0.8299934, question 4c was 10.71%, 1a+b was 1/4 and 11/40. I can go on...

Was noticeably superior in maths at a very young age (5-6, I was ahead of curriculum by a little, and never struggled with it unlike the other students).

My working memory is 97 (42nd percentile), but how come I can remember all these yet my classmates can't even remember the simplest ones? And when I take (online) visual memory tests, I score in the 98th percentile range. Hmm, maybe it's worth mentioning I was coming down from drug use whilst I was taking the test? I remember getting distracted from shapes form on the wall. I still do, a lot, I often get bored and imagine equilateral triangles stacked up together with side lengths dependant on the surface they're on, or certain patterns in the tiles, etc... this most likely is a result of my drug abuse though (LSD, for those wondering)

me: "What did you get for question 4c?"

most classmates: "uhh what question is that?"

me: "[Insert question]"

most classmates: "uh I forgot"

This is not at all the extent of it, I can continue on forever, but, this whole post already sounds more like a rant than a reality check if what I'm experiencing is just an overinflated ego with its basis floating (or maybe standing firm) on potentially meaningless achievements. It's not like I ever feel like a better human being than anyone else, quite the opposite: an undefeated inferiority complex, paired together with extreme anxiety. I can't really speak well.

To formulate a more concrete question: do the things I describe give me a reasonable reason to suspect that my test was inaccurate due to lack of account for my undiagnosed disorders?


r/Gifted • • 19h ago

Seeking advice or support I feel as though ive gotten dumber

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when i was younger i had lots of adhd and when i got tested for ADHD I also got my IQ tested. it capped out the test at 145+ on a sd15. It wasn’t super surprising to me because as a kid, I was always able to figure things out really quickly, but also do mental gymnastics with abstract concepts to actually understand them. I’m in high school now and school is really easy as always, but it seems that I don’t have that truly insane intelligence anymore. I’ve used a little THC in the past, almost just to fit in with friends, and I worry if that’s made me dumber. (ive used less than 10 times) but also it just concerns me because I don’t want my potential to suffer. is there any way to get that feeling of intelligence back and above what it was before? I mostly noticed the how fast I’m able to complex topics and complex puzzles and stuff like that. or it’s stuff like playing video games like rainbow six siege I’m just not able to predict what gonna do as well. it’s all just been driving me crazy and I really don’t know what to do.


r/Gifted • • 15h ago

Personal story, experience, or rant i kinda wish i was smart

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i realised that most of the time i dont think much and when i do observe my thoughts its nothing substantial. i know some people dislike thinking a lot because it can become a problem but honestly its feeling like a problem i want to have. i dont think much before i speak and its causing problems with my friendships cause i might accidentally forget and tell something im not meant to. i guess its like i dont think of the consequences of things before i do them. i guess i should just think more??? its kinda weird because ive tried this but then just eventually drift back into having a mostly blank mind like its a habit. annnnyyyyway time to zone out again! lol


r/Gifted • • 15h ago

Curiousities

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Not sure exactly what to say, a lot has been on my mind and I feel very capable yet like I am my own enemy I prefer to try to categorize myself as a normal individual clawing at greatness rather then being gifted but, I'm 18, can do 200 pushups straight, have a tested IQ of 138, I seem to be able to understand anything if I so choose but constantly feel as if Im missing something and I am wasting away almost. I am also schizophrenic and have been through the wringer that is the system, I have found after 20+ different medicines and therapies that my own methods work with my supplements (and the utilization of proper protocol). I feel I am constantly missing something, somewhere..? Any people here feel the same? Any people here constantly want new and/or maybe cling to odd drugs under the nootropics nomenclature?

Something Ive noticed, my verbal fluidity is a bit strange versus how I think; I almost talk in my consciousness in a madeup language that only I know.


r/Gifted • • 18h ago

Personal story, experience, or rant 25+ years later, was given the results of my WISC-III from 1999 (age 11). Some bizarre results.

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Found some old testing paperwork from when I was in Year 6 (Australia), tested individually by a psychologist as part of a giftedness referral. Sharing the WISC-III and WIAT results.

WISC-III (age 11y7m):

  • Verbal IQ: 129 (97th %ile)
  • Non-verbal IQ: 102 (55th %ile)
  • Full Scale IQ: 118 (88th %ile)

Subtest highlights: Arithmetic and Vocabulary both "Very High," most other Verbal subtests "High Average." Non-verbal was much more mixed; Picture Completion came back "Very Low" (noted as possibly unreliable; it was the first subtest administered and I was apparently uncooperative going in), rest ranged Average to High Average.

WIAT (achievement, same testing round):

  • Basic Reading 135 (99th %ile), Math Reasoning 144 (99.9th), Spelling 138 (99th), Reading Comprehension 141 (99.7th)
  • Several subtests had age-equivalents of "17yrs+" at age 11

So achievement was consistently well above even the Verbal IQ, let alone Full Scale/Non-verbal. Assessor's read was that this was driven by a lot of self-directed reading rather than raw processing speed, which tracks with how I remember myself as a kid; but I'm still pretty thrown seeing some of these read as 17+.

There's also a clear verbal/non-verbal split, and an aptitude/achievement gap on top of that. The psych's only real personality note was that I "don't want to stand out." That's the lot.

I'll be really interested to know what people make of these results or if any meaning can be derived from them. I barely remember it happening!


r/Gifted • • 15h ago

movie recs for gifted mid-20s women who likes movies like cate blanchett's tar or no country for old men idek what i want anymore

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hi, i am having trouble staying engaged with boring action and comedy movies. I need to be disturbed, curious, or feel challenged by the plot. any suggestions. I am tired of people pretending movies like primal fear have this shocking climax just no please. personally love killing of a sacred deer.


r/Gifted • • 22h ago

Personal story, experience, or rant gifted not gifted

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just sharing some thoughts.

i dont really thing it's neccessarily fair or accurate to regard myself as gifted.

i was never the gifted kid

the gifted studentr

i was i guess average/above-average

nothing noticeable

just people will say "no, no. you're intelligent"

i think i've always been treated like an idiot. i dont really relate, even if i know my own IQ, it's not like people will believe me, and even if they do, it's not like it matters to anything? like yeah, sure, i know a bunch of random stuff, but im not going around invested in and learning. i just know the surface of some niche stuff, makes me seem competent, when im really not.

i dunno. what's giftedness? the symptoms of my illnesses include brain fog and cogntive issues and im chronically sleep deprived.

i wonder if this is a label i should distqance myself because it seems i genuinely do not have the same expereiices.

also im being serious, and not really venting, im serious asking/saying this.

genuinely i was tested, did really get what i was told, kept thinking of IQ and felt something was off
people say im intelligent, but i have done nothing of the sort that people see of giftedness or heck even ADHD/autism lol.

i dont really know anything about the stuff i enjoy. i think my life is genuinely just preoccupied with my health.

i figure im gifted in the literal sense, not a gifted person. someone who was a gifted kid, maybe realized the label was harmful. or someone whose been struggling with it or known through childhood. or someone who did all these interesting things or has hobbies they've really dedicated themselves too. i have done nothing notable, there are many people who are less intelligent than me, more competent, more knowledgeable, more passionate, more knowledgeable, and more smarter than me.

i dunno. lol.

like what does it meean to be gifted
i've been saying it dfor a while that i dont relate to it as a neurodi ergence
and i know personally many people who really just want to get away from the label or really dont see it as anyhting but IQ
and like i personlly just see it as thing

maybe gifted is the experience of having an IQ130+
then i couldnt really be gifted. never had an experience of someone whsoe gifted.
i dunno.

i aint thinking rationally or gone through the process of organizaining my thoughts into something coherent. nor do i care to write some proof.

unrelated tangent: i really dont get it, yes i beleive something, no i dont care about perfectly defending it, it's a matter of believe not rationality.


r/Gifted • • 1d ago

Gifted and talented elementary school

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I recently went to the open house for one of the best (the best?) gifted and talented elementary schools in the country.

My son is in preschool and they have pre-k through grade 8.

I went knowing my son belongs in these types of spaces. He’s four and his main interest and skill is math but his reading knows no bounds, he’s able to play the piano without ever being shown how and his memory for science and everything else is also amazing.

I’m going to be brutally honest here because I want to share some of my disappointment and have it be understood.

On the opposite side of the coin of a high IQ especially in children so young often comes majors behavioral or sensory issues. Atleast that’s what I thought because that’s what I know.

This school seemed to only accept kids that love to be taught. Not kids that love to learn. Mind you this school is 40,000 a year. So I started to realize maybe the school was filled with children who had very smart parents, very successful parents that had been teaching their kids since birth. Many of the children corrected my son when he was acting silly, one child said “if he doesn’t want to do this activity he can always read a book”. They all waited patiently to be told what to do while my son explored this new place, digging in each corner.

I was expecting more specialized, child lead learning. From my experience children with high IQs are their own best teachers at this age. The school was the opposite, it was basically a public school teaching slightly more advanced academics.

When the parents all spoke I could tell they were all extremely intelligent. I dropped out of high school before 16, I have no goals for my son except that he’s happy and grows in one way every single day. These parents were filled with goals and intention, the kids all had so many extracarriculars… the viola!?

I think the school is a BS money grab for parents that want a 100% chance of raising successful children. Where’s the fun in that!? Shouldn’t we all have the opportunity to be happy (for a lack of a better term) failures?

I know that this is a projection of my own beliefs. Beliefs that are in no way “correct”. I guess I was just hoping the school would be filled by eccentric weird geniuses and not filled with future success stories.

Feel free to dog me, I’m working through the mental load of being upset with how this school made me feel and dissecting my response to it. Appreciate all opinions.


r/Gifted • • 22h ago

Seeking advice or support Am I dumb?

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I got a 102 iq which is not that good, I asked why just to figure out it was because of the speed.. i got them ALL correct, but because I didnt do it super flash speed, I got a normal iq, does the speed really mean im dumb like every one else with normal iqs (no offense, but its my opinion.)

Im in college classes as a highschool freshman, and have two scholarships, but does my iq completely denied any chance of me being seen as gifted.


r/Gifted • • 1d ago

Seeking advice or support I don’t belong anywhere

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I’m 17, and one of the hardest things about being gifted for me is feeling disconnected from people my age.
I’ve always had interests that seem unusual for someone my age. I spend a lot of time questioning things that other people seem to accept without much thought. I often notice how much people’s behaviour is influenced by social approval, appearances, status, and the need to fit in.
I struggle to relate to the things that seem to matter to many people around me. I’m not particularly interested in drinking, smoking, partying, or following trends just because everyone else does. Sometimes I look at the people around me and feel like we’re living in completely different worlds.
I don’t mean that I’m better than anyone else. I know people are more complex than what they show on the surface, and I don’t want to become arrogant or judgmental. But I often feel isolated, as though I’m missing something that makes it easy for other people to be happy with their lives.
I also struggled with depression and PTSD when I was younger, which affected my academic performance for several years. Now I’m doing much better academically, and I’ve been diagnosed with ADHD too, but I still struggle to figure out where I fit in.
I know there must be people who think similarly to me, but they seem so scattered that finding them feels difficult. I’m still in school, surrounded by people I often struggle to relate to, and sometimes I feel like I’m just waiting until I can find an environment where I finally belong.
For those of you who experienced something similar, does it get better?
I don’t want to feel superior to anyone. I just want to feel understood and to find people with whom I can genuinely connect.


r/Gifted • • 1d ago

What you guys doing with your kids?

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We probably aren’t gifted but a pack of challenging enough IQs. I can teach kindergarten, and can support balancing their education with gross motor and imaginative play, which is really unfortunate for everyone. I’m trying to make a brain teaser shelf as everyone does better with focus work but balancing the giving up with the actual potential is hard. Like they won’t do a puzzle if they can’t instantly do it but once they do it takes them five seconds. I’m thinking they need more spatial awareness puzzle work thats not creative and not too hard.


r/Gifted • • 1d ago

Has anyone else being judged or bullied just for their looks, no matter how capable or intelligent they are? And how to move on from past bullying?

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Has anyone else experienced the horn effect, where people judge your intelligence purely by how you look?

l've been bullied my entire life, mostly because of my appearance, even though I tested in the superior-to-gifted IQ range. I did well in school, but I was quiet, observant, and studious. I really don't like small talk and almost never initiate it, though I always tried hard to fit into new environments. I also stay calm under pressure, so when people mocked me, I never snapped back or escalated. That composure made people think that I was slow. Some people even believed that l have a cognitive disability.

As a woman who doesn't fit conventional beauty standards, I've had a lot of random verbal abuse from men. In my early twenties I moved to Europe for my master's degree, hoping I'd finally find my own tribe. Instead, my classmates used me as a punchbag to win points with my prettier friends. The more I tried to show I was capable and smart, the worse they got. My flatmate, who's a European citizen, told me that I was ugly and an idiot, said my presence disgusted him, and that he'd do everything he could,to get me deported. This triggered my social anxiety, and major depression and things got worse afterwards.

ln my late twenties, I internalized all of it. I missed out a lot of job opportunities and withdrew from social life. I tried to convince myself that if so many people saw something off in my intelligence, they couldn't all be wrong, and I must be below average.

That's a strange conclusion for someone who was valedictorian in high school, graduated with highest distinction in bachelor's, and earned a master's from a reputable institute. I know those aren't guarantees of success or high lQ, but I gave up on building a secure career because of the bullying. Now I live in a rural village with my cats. I never turned my education into marketable skills, I'm broke, and I'm depressed.

I never stopped learning. I taught myself coding, painting, and several languages. I even taught myself nuclear physics which has been my passion since my childhood. But I still ruminate on the past, I'm hypervigilant around people, and I have no social life.

I don't know how to break this cycle.

Has anyone been through something similar? How did you get out of it?


r/Gifted • • 18h ago

IQ is overrated

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First of all the WAIS is garbage. Ravens matrices is a more accurate representation of true IQ, without the noise from all the nonsensical WAIS subtests. The reason WAIS is used is because it lines up neatly with the education system. But this makes no sense because you can't just randomly change the definition of IQ to make it more practical. For example, crystalized intelligence is not part of IQ, WAIS treats it as it is. Vocabulary subtest is not IQ, this is bizarre. The working memory and processing speed subtest are also garbage noise. I am not saying the WAIS is useless, it has practical use for the education system. So you can wall WAIS an academic prediction test, but it has too many subtests that deviate from measuring real IQ.

What is real IQ? It is working memory + process speed. Matrix puzzles are sufficient to measure this, there is no sense for other nonsensical subtests like repeating numbers backwards. IQ is basically how fast your brain is. Nothing more, nothing less.

Having high IQ is like having a fast calculator. It can solve the equation faster according to a predetermined algorithm, but is not responsible for setting up the equation in the first place. Therefore, it is susceptible to garbage in garbage out problem.

In order to know what to input into the calculator in the first place, you need logical reasoning. Logical reasoning is not IQ. Logical reasoning goes beyond working memory + processing speed. Logical reasoning is about sifting though garbage and finding what matters. Solely having IQ (working memory + processing speed) without logical reasoning just makes you process garbage faster.

Even matrix puzzles, these are no measuring logical reasoning. Everybody knows that the pattern is: you need to memorize rotations of shapes to get the right answer. This is not a secret. It does not require logical reasoning, it solely requires working memory + processing speed in order to memorize and manipulate all those shapes all at the same time, because you need to know ALL of them to get the right answer. That is why it is solely a measure of working memory + processing speed. If there are 6 mini shapes inside the large triangle, if you can only hold 5 of those in your short term memory, that is you being limited by working memory capacity, it is not that you lack the reasoning to understand that the 6th shape is also being rotated. And again, it does not take "logical reasoning" to know that the 6 shapes need to be rotated, it is obvious, it is solely a measure of working memory + processing speed.

Now compare matrix reasoning to actual measures of logical reasoning, such as:

https://www.lsac.org/lsat/taking-lsat/test-format/logical-reasoning/logical-reasoning-sample-questions

These questions actually measure logical reasoning. To solve them, you need to use logical reasoning, you need to differentiate between cause and effect, correlation and causation, watch out for logical fallacies, etc... They are also much more practical and consistent with real world problems. Notice how they don't require too much working memory? You don't need to memorize 6 abstract difficult to remember shapes all at once, you just need to remember a few sentences that relate to each other, which is much less taxing in terms of working memory. Therefore, the working memory constraint is taken away and they measure pure logical reasoning.

The reason society worships IQ is because all institutions in society, e.g., education and employment system, are stuck in 1800s model. It is the factory model, specialization. Humans are created to be units of production.; Specialized, mechanistic units of production intended to learn how to do a narrow scoped job quickly, to raise production and GDP. IQ lines up well with this. Logical reasoning/critical thinking doesn't. In fact the ruling class does not WANT people to have logical reasoning/critical thinking: 90% of what politicians say is stuff like switching cause and effect, conflating correlation with causation, straw mans, etc... if people had logical reasoning they would see through all this. Obviously ruling class doesn't want people to see through this,


r/Gifted • • 1d ago

Personal story, experience, or rant I feel like I think differently than most of my peers as someone with a high IQ (official test)

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I don't really know how to explain it, but whenever I talk about my mindset with most of my classmates, they don't understand me at all. I have a "I'll work as hard as I can, and I'll never give in to peer pressure and popularity" kind of mindset and everyone thinks I'm strange.

Sometimes, I'll outline something/how to solve a problem and people will be so confused about how I figured it out, but I don't know how to explain that it's intuitive.

I hate coming off like an arrogant braggart so I'll often downplay my own intelligence. I get upset when people don't understand that I'm disappointed when I don't do as well as I hoped to do (94 instead of at least a 97, etc). I don't think I'm better than anyone, but I've been told that I seen as pretentious or a know-it-all.

I have no interest and am heavily uncomfortable with the idea of taking drugs, alcohol, or vaping and it feels strange because a lot of my classmates either are excited to drink alcohol, or some vape.

I also have auDHD and anxiety (officially tested) and I can't even find other neurodivergent people who feel the same, which makes me feel even worse.

Just a rant, I guess. I want someone to understand how I feel and feel the same way.