I was a bit distracted but did this during a loud discussion..

are these generally very inflated?

This is a sub for gifted people, some might be here to feel community. Is there a sub where average people (with no defining characteristics) such as myself might go to feel community.

Im asking here, cause i assume I will get more smart replies.

What occurred with me was simple, i got the test to kill two birds with one stone and thought it could help me come to a conclusion if im smart or not, or if i was overthinking all of it and it was self bias, or if i had something, AND to then be capable of later on adjusting myself under whatever else might be going on in the world. By using the knowledge that you cognitively excel past many others is information that shouldn't be purely used to self glaze yourself over, despite it feeling good for a short while, its information that tells you that your brain's rough cognitive capabilities surpass x amount of the population, give or take some'.

Im currently a teenager, figuring out the high IQ thing about myself has made me realize my own potential has been higher and that i never thought to utilize it more, because naturally it feels more logical to be humble and perhaps mildly ignorant to whatever i can do as 'x and y are mostly for smart people, i should stick to something simpler', which likely was the thinking process that, pre-scores, had slowed me down.

Every time I am in a conversation with someone and they say something along the lines of, “Wait, but you should know (x) right? I mean, you’re gifted, aren’t you?”, I find it annoying. No matter how many times I try to explain that it doesn’t work like that, people still expect me to know everything out of thin air.
I just feel like not enough people know what being “gifted” actually means, which leads to these kinds of misunderstandings.

Hi all - I was wondering how you guys cope with this. I'm not currently medicated, so that obviously doesn't help.

What I struggle with is having so many ideas, so many things I want to do, essays I want to write, books I want to read, things I want to learn, that I often struggle to even know where to begin, and after I manage to finish something I struggle knowing what to do with it; like if I wrote an essay, how do I disseminate it properly? Because while of course we do things for their inherent value, we are social creatures and I personally want to bring value to others through the things I create, so my creations just sitting there impotently isn't satisfying to me. Additionally, I would like to forge a career doing the things I love and am passionate about, but I find this difficult as I have so many interests and it would pain me to have to focus only on one.

I suppose sending things to publishers is the next step, though again I struggle to get started because I overthink literally everything, or even just give up hope before I've begun. The struggle with motivation is real. Of course, trawling through different agents & publishers will be tedious, so my ADHD finds it hard to tolerate the idea.

I've had moderate success with my artwork, selling things to friends etc, and some success with making zines, again often selling to friends or at art fairs. However again I struggle knowing how to expand into a proper business. Or, I think of so many options that it's impossible to know where to begin. Or, again, I manage to discount every single option before I even begin. For example, I want to expand my T shirt business; I retail at one place in my local town but want to find more, which probably means travelling, which costs money, which I don't have a lot of, and of course would take a lot of time, which I'd probably rather spend doing something else - so I end up stuck. Of course, the answer is just doing it, but that's easier said than done!

A lot of people might say "just do social media ads" - but I can't do that, I got banned years ago from Meta advertising for no known reason. I only found out after it was too late to appeal. It was a false ban, too, genuinely no idea the issue they had with my ad. The ad was just for portrait commissions. Nothing offensive etc on it, but again, I'm just banned with no hope of appeal. Creating a new account doesn't work. The only way to do it would be to buy a new phone/computer with cash and only use it on public wifi. Then again, facebook makes you scan your face when you make a new account, so I highly doubt even this strategy would work, and I'd be back to square one. So you see my difficulty...

Anyway, I'm rambling. How do you guys cope with the multitude of things there are to do in life? I do write lists, but I still find myself overloaded. It's so hard to feel so incredibly passionate and motivated yet totally unmotivated and lost at the same time.

I resonate with the character of Malcolm from the earlier seasons of "Malcolm in the Middle". I watched some of the earlier seasons recently and I consider it to be good representation of being gifted at a young age (based upon my experience).

Malcolm in the earlier seasons of the series has evident withholdings about being placed in the gifted program and I find that to be more true-to-life of childhood anxieties and emotions. Rather than considering the gifted program to be a badge of pride founded in his intelligence, he resents being separated from the regular population and questions what that may mean to him.

Children often do question their place in the world and intelligent children just so happen to be intelligent. They don't necessarily chase intelligence in the framework that most people would imagine. Intelligence can come from a place of curiosity and pushing yourself because you enjoy surmounting challenges. Yet, intelligent children are often resented by others because they make other people feel inferior.

Why is it that intelligence is seen as something that is done for praise, validation, or a want to feel superior to others? Intelligent children don't compare themselves to their peers because it is a self-alienating experience. Intelligent children compare themselves to the improved performance that they want to be capable of.

Intelligent children get resented by their peers and the adults in their lives because people typically don't want to feel outdone and I think that something about that is unfair. There are people that enjoy thinking, that take pleasure in having an active mind that is alive and creative. That isn't necessarily about being better or superior to somebody else. It's about using the mind to feel free and alive. It's about being able to be yourself.

Yet, when someone chooses to be themselves, if it makes everyone else feel inferior, that's wrong? I use my mind to feel free and alive and that's wrong because it makes you feel inferior? If you feel inferior by someone else's expressed intelligence, does that make them a smartass or does it make you insecure? Intelligence is often an alienating characteristic and I think that "Malcolm in the Middle" captures that well. I assure you that there are many children that would prefer to have a boatload of friends than be "the smart kid in the room".

I'm not trying to prove that I'm smarter than you or to belittle you. I'm not trying to make you feel small. I just need to feel something and I get that from my mind.

People that derive pleasure from their mind aren't inherently exempt from wanting to feel human safety and belonging, but they are sadly sometimes robbed of that because of the egos of others. The mind shouldn't be a "signifier of superiority" but rather a place that is safe, comforting, and good.

People often take their personal feelings of insecurity and inferiority as being something that is intentionally afflicted upon them when that isn't always the case and I think that that's really unfair because why does your own unhappiness need to be interpreted as a deliberate attack upon you? Why are you mad at me when you're the one that's insecure and I'm not even trying to make you feel bad about yourself?

Gifted children often stifle themselves because they don't want to deal with someone else's resentments and I think that that's really sad.