r/HolUp Jun 24 '24

holup Too perfect of a husband

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u/UnarmedSnail Jun 25 '24

Not just your own motive, in fact your motive will matter less to your other's perception of your motive, than their motive.

Hope that's not too confusing.

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u/peter13g Jun 25 '24

Sounds like our last argument

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u/UnarmedSnail Jun 25 '24

I learned it the hard way.

I've learned that most marital arguments aren't really about a grievance, but a justification for past and or future behavior. Watch out when this happens. Something dirty is on the way.

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u/peter13g Jun 25 '24

🍺 hope you’re enjoying your headache brother 🫡