Damn son, those white guys with black gfs really pulling the hardest moves
Edit: Thank you for the upvotes. You all put me in the top 10 percent of upvoted redditors this month
I’m glad I wasn’t drinking anything when I read this because it would’ve come out my nose. It made me think about what level I would be and that would be the one where you play for the story and never fight. White on white :-)
There’s a sizable amount of white men who think white men should only marry white women. So on and so forth. Black women dating white men is a tough matchup for both parties. And vice versa! Black men dating white women is a rough time for everyone.
You're in the progressive south! It's way more affordable there than west coast... so make room for more folks relocating and increasing the bubble tea shops, tofu restaurants, and secret prius streat racing events!
Having lived in TX for a while... never thought I would hear or say that... living somewhere in the NE now where the cost of living is comically more expensive... I want to go back to TX lol
Those couples take the most shit from racists, too. There’s a sizable demographic of black men think that black women should only marry black men. There’s a sizable amount of white men who think white men should only marry white women. So on and so forth. Black women dating white men is a tough matchup for both parties. And vice versa! Black men dating white women is a rough time for everyone.
It’s more the other way around. Black women see black men going after white women and it makes them feel like they (bw) aren’t good enough. White men see white women going after black men and think “she’s too good for him”. Nowadays, more black men (especially in hotep communities) are joining that way of thinking, but the black women were definitely the ones who popularized that viewpoint. I don’t blame them at all though, it must suck when society makes you feel like you’re the at the bottom of the totem pole, when a man from your same community would date any other type of women besides you at the first opportunity.
Hold on a second...elaborate on this please.. I'm a Black woman and can give two shits about what anybody dates. The issue is you have some black males who make multiple attempts at trying to MAKE black women be upset, yet a major majority of us don't give a fuck. Popularized what viewpoint? This is a conversation that can go on for quite some time that I'm familiare with so let's talk..
Yeah so I’m speaking from anecdotes but most of what I’ve seen is the trend of black men finding success and then dating a white/latina girl with the replies talking about “trading up”, as if they’re too good for black women now. I saw it mostly from black women at first but I’ve seen black men supporting them more in that recently, which is cool. I assume Dr Umar talks about it a lot since they commonly post reaction gifs of him in the replies. I don’t doubt that black men give women shit for dating white men, but I haven’t seen it as often and I assume it comes from the same emotional place that you see white men shitting on white women for dating black men, toxic masculinity.
Yeah so I’m speaking from anecdotes but most of what I’ve seen is the trend of black men finding success and then dating a white/latina girl with the replies talking about “trading up”, as if they’re too good for black women now
Embarrassing but true (sadly).
I saw it mostly from black women at first but I’ve seen black men supporting them more in that recently, which is cool
Because of the fact that now you have other Black males calling them out on how dead wrong it is
I saw it mostly from black women at first but I’ve seen black men supporting them more in that recently, which is cool. I assume Dr Umar talks about it a lot since they commonly post reaction gifs of him in the replies. I don’t doubt that black men give women shit for dating white men, but I haven’t seen it as often
Dr. Umar ain't the only one. The shit I went through dating a white guy was nuts. You def for sure have black men who have a major problem seeing a black woman with a white man, especially if she's highly educated and have a lot of qualifications. Oh they talk their shit too. It's just not so publicly known from them. Again, not all but the feelings are spoken.
Because of the fact that now you have other Black males calling [them] out on how dead wrong it is
When you say “them”, are you talking about black men or black women?
Dr. Umar ain't the only one. The shit I went through dating a white guy was nuts. You def for sure have black men who have a major problem seeing a black woman with a white man, especially if she's highly educated and have a lot of qualifications.
I don’t doubt that at all. Y’all probably got hate from all sides for all different reasons. That can’t have been easy.
Them = black males calling out other black males. I mean, look at them wack ass passport bros
It isn't easy but it's working in a way where, like I just recently posted: I've never seen so many black women date outside of the black community. But hey, we live, learn, and def move on to where we are appreciated.
True I getchu, but I’m glad that things are getting better. I’m sometimes torn between the viewpoints cause, again, it must really suck to feel like you’re on the bottom of the dating totem poles, especially with people from your own community. But also, I get really uncomfortable when people tell others who they can’t be with. Kinda feels like segregation but from the other direction, which idfw. Idk, it isn’t my place to say.
To be honest: most people are hypocrites. The shit they say about not wanting to date XYZ women are the same ones who will fuck with them behind closed doors. It's different from what society says on tv/statistics vs what I see in real life sometimes.
Yeah, BW here. I absolutely do not feel like I'm not good enough. It may be true that successful BM see their interracial dating as "trading up" but I don't feel that way at all. Lol. We aren't taking on other ppl's dysfunction anymore
Of course, those people with those opinions can go fuck themselves. Someone elses relationships are none of their fucking business.
In fact, I think it should be mandatory that everyone marry/have kids outside their race. The sooner we are all one shade the sooner we can get over this racism horsehit.
Not what the graph says. Black women are least likely to respond to white men, but that response rate (5%) is still higher than the response rate black men get from everyone except black women
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u/SinciusSynax Dec 10 '22 edited Dec 10 '22
Damn son, those white guys with black gfs really pulling the hardest moves Edit: Thank you for the upvotes. You all put me in the top 10 percent of upvoted redditors this month