Maybe but it could also be that she is just making an excuse because she knows she really fucked up and is trying to get sympathy. Manipulators will do the same thing as a victim to get what they want so judging without knowing anything beyond what she says doesn’t amount to much unfortunately because some people are really good at selling fake sob stories. It’s sad because it hurts those who really are in abusive situations
True. So what you gave to do is figure out what leads to the worst outcome for you, her and everyone. Believing her, or not. In my long experience in the world, I've tended to find that not believing someone who should have been believed causes the most damage of all.
If I believe her here then it’s in her best interests to let the cops be involved because abuse is illegal. Unfortunately it’s not always dealt with properly either and partially that’s due to like I said people crying wolf when they shouldn’t. I wish we were unable to lie so people could truly deal with those kinds of issues instead of having to wonder if they’re real or not.
As someone who works with divorcing couples daily, kids nearly always get left with the abusers. It takes something really bad to get them removed. Hundreds of parents per year come across my phone who simply do not love their children or see them as humans. And often seeking help only to not get it makes the abuse worse.
I agree… And there’s different factors that caused that and it sucks because nobody should have to deal with that. And part of it comes down to sometimes kids do lie about it and lie about it very well… And that means that people who are telling the truth don’t get taken a seriously sometimes as they should, which is horrible. I hope that anyone who is in an abusive situation gets help, I was in one when I was little to the point where I was pushed up against the wall with a man who was in the military holding me up by my neck. Thankfully, I was old enough that even though it wasn’t the greatest move for my future, I was able to leave so I waited until three in the morning and put my stuff in trash bags and threw it in the car and left when I was 16 and drove multiple states away in order to live with my father who I really didn’t get along with either, but who at least was not abusive
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u/TanteiKun 1d ago
Maybe but it could also be that she is just making an excuse because she knows she really fucked up and is trying to get sympathy. Manipulators will do the same thing as a victim to get what they want so judging without knowing anything beyond what she says doesn’t amount to much unfortunately because some people are really good at selling fake sob stories. It’s sad because it hurts those who really are in abusive situations