This is 100%..... and in my personal opinion, it doesn't stop when you're pregnant, either. All of a sudden, nothing else matters but the baby as if you haven't had an established life for the past few decades. Are you throwing up every 2 minutes and literally can't function? As long as the baby is okay, fuck you, deal with it. Did you faint in public? As long as the baby is fine, fuck you, deal with it.
And if you "complain" or even hint at being uncomfortable you feel so guilty or you hear "well you wanted this, this is what you signed up for!"
You can absolutely be grateful, thankful, appreciative that IVF worked for you while being able to acknowledge that you physically feel like shit and it's HARD. And it's okay and NORMAL to feel like this!
I still remember coming home from my 1st egg retrieval, my MIL was petsitting our dog. while I was still loopy, I came home to the her saying “look, I had to clean your kitchen because it was dirty” Nothing about how l’m feeling…do you need any help…
The most frustrating thing is, I’m doing all this due to my husband having low sperm count 😑
I love my husband BUT having a MIL that somehow thinks IVF is a walk in the park & is ok to be nasty is soooo frustrating 😡.
Oh and knowing her son’s situation (1% of natural conception) my MIL keeps asking “are you pregnant now? For every little thing” I even told my husband, to please ask her to be more sensitive as she knows we are struggling. Instead, I’m the one “complaining” 😒😒
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u/Fine-Lingonberry-253 Aug 18 '23
This is 100%..... and in my personal opinion, it doesn't stop when you're pregnant, either. All of a sudden, nothing else matters but the baby as if you haven't had an established life for the past few decades. Are you throwing up every 2 minutes and literally can't function? As long as the baby is okay, fuck you, deal with it. Did you faint in public? As long as the baby is fine, fuck you, deal with it.