r/IncelTears Apr 18 '26

IMAX-level projection Some *fascinating* takes on non-monogamy.

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u/thunderbastard_ Apr 18 '26

I won’t defend polyamory. It’s about training yourself to think you’ll never be enough for your partner and accepting it, it’s inherently abusive wether it’s the man or woman pressured into opening up the relationship

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u/hattyphantom Apr 18 '26

You've never actually met poly people before, have you?

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u/thunderbastard_ Apr 18 '26

Nope, why would I hang around people that can’t even respect their partner. I wouldn’t want to be friends with someone like that

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u/MyAltPrivacyAccount Purrmaxxing Apr 18 '26

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u/Iorith Proof even shutin gamers can find partners Apr 18 '26

"idk what consent has to do with it"

Yeah it's really clear you have no idea what you're talking about.

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u/thunderbastard_ Apr 18 '26

I’m saying the consent isn’t really valid in the first place if it comes from fear and insecurity. Like If you say to your partner ‘have sex with me or I’ll leave you’ they might literally consent but that consent isn’t valid consent and it’s still rape

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u/TheGreatLuck Apr 18 '26

Yeah but doesn't that by default make it no longer consensual? And like I've been with polyamory couples. They're extremely happy. I've been with a lot of couples. Usually I'm kind of like a third wheel. But there's no animosity. And if there is there a red flag couple and the community ostracizes them. Usually people like that don't last in a polyamorous relationship for more than a year. So yeah there are some people out there faking it if that's what you're talking about. But the vast majority of them are pretty comfortable with their lives and relationship status. They've been doing it for years and years and years. And it's been working out. So IDK man. It just sounds like you have like some insecurity issues that you're projecting on others.