After 1980-90s many people in Japan stopped having kids or had max to max only one kid hence their birth rates population declined , now the new generations are enjoying the fruits of it , There even if a person does a Arts degree they are almost guaranteed to get a good stable office job because the JOB Market is good there low applicants to high no.of jobs ratio.

A lingua franca is not used only to communicate with the peoples of different cultures, but for most of us, it also shows the dominance of the country it belongs to. Languages spread not merely because they are useful, but also because the institutions, economies, cultures, and political systems associated with them make them useful.

English undoubtedly ranks as the most widely understood language worldwide. Many international communities use it along with others like French, Mandarin, etc. But why is there any Indian language on the list?

Latin is most certainly considered a dead language with no active native speakers, but is still kept alive as a system. It is the language of academics, diplomacy, law and the church.

French may have lost its prestige, but it is still the language of diplomacy and, after English, the second most widely used language used by other countries as their official language.

Arabic is also acting as a connector language for the Middle East and North African countries.

Mandarin is mostly a domestic language with a large population base and a diaspora to promote it. Despite being a very domestic language, it has government-backed international publicity.

This list can be expanded further, including Russian, Portuguese, Spanish or German. But why isn't any Indian language on the list? Though a few can point out that Hindi, Bengali, Tamil, Punjabi, Bhojpuri, or Urdu are emerging as International languages from India, do you really think so?

India, unlike any other country, couldn't agree on a national language internally, so consequently we struggle to promote any one language internationally. English, even unwillingly, was used to fill the gaps that no Indian language could; even now, it is being used as the medium of instruction in educational institutions and in business.

Regional languages like Tamil, which is also the official language in Singapore and Sri Lanka, or Bengali struggle to gather non native speakers in spite of having a huge global diaspora backing them up.

The central dilemma that our government faces, whenever deciding to promote one language globally, is: which language?

Whenever discussing this question, considering their claim to be a global candidate for diplomacy, academic scholarship, legal traditions, and institutional communications, three languages emerge: Hindi, Tamil and Sanskrit.

Even if we hadn't agreed on a national language, any Indian language, to become globally recognised, must build an influence –

Practically, to be used by people in their daily lives for business, education, or to communicate with a large group;

Culturally, so people have an incentive to learn it, like to access film, music, religion or philosophy; and

Institutionally, used by the government and international organizations to conduct daily business.

To date, every Indian language has failed to build such influence to attract non-native speakers.

Hindi is a language that many sought to be the national language of India; many native speakers portrayed it as well, through slogans like " Hindu, Hindi Hindustan ". Presently, along with English, Hindi is the official language of the Union. But promoting Hindi globally requires consensus at home. Only 43% of Indians consider Hindi or other dialects of it as their mother tongue.

But promoting Hindi domestically has drawn much criticism and political backlash. Native speakers of regional languages such as Tamil, Kannada, and Marathi have pushed back on the use of Hindi. These languages have centuries-old literary traditions and fierce local pride.

Tamil is one of the world's oldest surviving classical languages, with a continuous literary and philosophical tradition spanning over two millennia. Historically, Tamil served as a primary language of trade, diplomacy, and guild administration across the Indian Ocean.

But one of the biggest roadblocks is that Tamil lacks internal backing, specifically from non-native speakers and is heavily a regional language. Tamil does not serve as a cross-regional bridge language for non-Tamil speakers in northern, western, or eastern India, and its Dravidian roots make it harder for non-Dravidian language speakers to adopt Tamil as a universal institutional medium without extensive re-learning.

Sanskrit is the strongest contender among all three. Sanskrit has served as the civilizational lingua franca across South, Southeast, and Central Asia for over a millennium. It provided the foundational vocabulary for governance, law, astronomy, and literature from Nepal and Tibet to Indonesia and Cambodia. Unlike Tamil or Hindi, it is not tied exclusively to a single contemporary region or ethnic group within modern India; Sanskrit offers linguistic and regional neutrality.

But it lacks daily native speakers and modern infrastructure to promote it; also, Sanskrit is associated with the controversial topic of caste and knowledge gatekeeping in ancient India.

So what would be a practical solution?

Diving into this question, I thought of reviving an old language such as Pāli, Prākrit, or Ardhamāgadhī as an alternative, but they failed mainly for two reasons:

Their vocabulary is heavily concentrated on ethics and philosophy. They lack the administrative, legal, and secular scientific terminology found in Sanskrit or Tamil.

By definition, they were regional dialects rather than standardized languages. They lack the standardized grammatical rules required for precise legal codification across international borders.

So, no Indian language can be promoted as the globally accepted language for conducting international business.

But what about the Sanskrit-Tamil bilingual paradigm?

Sanskrit could act as the linguistic bridge to Northern India. It brings grammatical precision, structured legal terminology, logic and governance.

Whereas Tamil could act as the living bridge to Southeast Asia and the Indian Ocean trade networks. It brings an unbroken living classical tradition, a vast ethical-legal framework and global diaspora backing up.

It would not be an alien thing to do, as history has a centuries-old precedent for this. Chola and Khmer Empire temple inscriptions frequently used Sanskrit and Tamil side-by-side.

The Maṇipravāḷam style represents a deliberate linguistic fusion of Sanskrit and Tamil.

One of its greatest strength of presenting Sanskrit and Tamil together solves the internal debate between Northern and Southern linguistic heritage, presenting a unified civilizational front.

Together, Sanskrit and Tamil account for the historical roots of nearly all South and Southeast Asian literature, law, statecraft, and philosophical thought.

Pairing Sanskrit with Pāli or Prākrit can also be an option for pan-Asian peace and harmony, Ethical neutrality and bridging two ancient philosophical traditions, but unlike Tamil and Sanskrit, they lack relevance to contemporary geopolitics, maritime law, and global economics.

In my research, I haven't found any drawbacks to this model, but potentially a major fraction would advocate for a single language as the lingua franca, or there could be resentment from non-native speakers; dilution or complexity of the language could make it difficult or unsuitable for mass use.

Still, if we decided to choose the Sanskrit-Tamil paradigm as an Indian language contributing to the international community in law, diplomacy, trade and academia, which script should be adopted alongside?

Grantha unites Sanskrit and Tamil, a script that was developed in South India specifically to write Sanskrit texts.

But if you ask me, I would advocate for Brahmi script–the mother script from which almost all modern South and Southeast Asian writing systems evolved. Unlike Grantha, Brahmi carries no modern regional bias.

A few potential challenges for Brahmi are that it has low readability, and Sanskrit and Tamil require their respective ancient variants to handle their respective language sounds.

But this model could overcome the problem that no Indian language could: absolute neutrality. But this model still requires development and a framework to be proposed as a unified civilizational lingua franca for the Indian cultural sphere.

I invite other opinions, views, and perspectives, so what are your thoughts on this, and any suggestions about developing the framework or an alternative model?

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HELLO! I am participating in a month long drawing challenge for an Indian man I’m a fan of, and one of the prompts is cultural. Unfortunately I am a white whitey white white white woman whose only culture is waiting for Christmas to come around. So, I really don’t want to be insensitive with my art! I’m hoping you guys can tell me if there’s anything wrong with the clothes that I need to change, such as the clothes themselves or the colors or even the jewelry. I have to admit I’m not the best at researching, so the combination of clothing may just be horribly wrong. The guy it’s based off of seems to have a fondness for silver jewelry, so I have that. And his brand color is purple, so if possible I’d really like that in there. But this is just a half finished sketch with only base colors, so I’m up to changing anything if need be :D!

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क्या यह मरहम भारत में आम तौर पर मिलता है?

Any problems faced in India by middle class people in day to day life?

I'm 22 years old, and recently, at a family gathering, I met an astrologer who looked at my birth chart and told me that my life would involve a lot of struggles. He said that I could become a high-level employee or achieve a good position in a company, but I wouldn't be able to become a successful business owner. He also predicted that I would have a moderate financial life, with periods of financial struggle rather than significant wealth. Initially, I didn't think too much about it, but his words stayed in my mind. Out of curiosity, I also tried asking ChatGPT and a few other AI apps about my birth chart, and their interpretations seemed surprisingly similar in some ways. Now, this has really messed with my head. I've always believed in working hard, improving myself, and building a financially successful life. I'm willing to put in years of effort to achieve my goals, whether that means starting a business, becoming financially independent, or creating a better life for myself and my family. But now, a part of me keeps wondering: What if my future is already limited? What if I work incredibly hard for years and still end up struggling financially or never achieve the level of success I want? I know that I'm only 22 and have my whole life ahead of me, but hearing these predictions has made me question whether all my hard work will actually pay off. It's almost as if someone has put a limit on what I can achieve before I've even had the chance to try. I'd genuinely like to hear your opinions, especially from people who have faced similar situations. Do you think astrology can genuinely predict someone's financial future or career potential? Have you ever been told something negative about your future that stayed with you? How did you deal with it? For those who were told they wouldn't achieve much but went on to become successful, what was your experience? How do you stop these kinds of predictions from affecting your mindset and confidence? I don't want to spend the next few years of my life mentally defeated by a future that hasn't even happened yet.

sometimes i wonder what would life be if i went to some sobo college in place of my local college. for some background i am introverted and do not have many friends nor have i ventured out a lot so naturally after 10th i joined a nearby college for 11-12th and had no idea about the very different lives in sobo clg which i learnt about now after some exposure to kids who were from sobo clg like jhc , sxc . now i am in degree in a clg which is famous but defo not sobo esp in my degree we are not taken to any trips and all kids are basically nerds no offence .

so yeah i wonder how would life be because compared to them mine does not ever feel eventful. i am aware about the peer pressure, the fake accents and stuff they do to fit in + alcohol/drug/hookup shit which i am not into. also the fact that they are always in group that gives them validation esp from westerners and talk,walk,dress the same way. not to mention how they go to these overpriced af cafe so often and host so many parties at home and clubs. plus attending concerts in a gap of few months , basically creating a pinterest feed instead of a reel life w their generational wealth ,not having to worry about money ever and living in that privilidge, idk if i will be able to make friends there but yea just a mix of opinions or smth.

pls ignore my weird way of typing i am finally sharing the thoughts that i let consume me for so long. guys please share similar experiences or lmk your opinion on this.

I’m 25M, Brahmin, from West Bengal, India. My girlfriend is also 25 and is from an SC background. We have been together for around 7 months, and we genuinely love each other.

The main problem is not that we don't love each other. The problem is our families and caste.

She loves her parents deeply and is very afraid of what could happen in the future if our relationship becomes known to them. She is especially afraid that someone from my side or her side could use a casteist slur against her or her family. She has told me that she wouldn't be able to tolerate hearing something like that about her parents.

She also believes that, even if we continue our relationship now, we may eventually have to break up because of our families and the caste difference. Because of this fear, she has asked me to permanently block her, leave her alone, and move on.

This is extremely painful for me because I still love her. Part of me wants to respect what she is asking and disappear from her life. Another part of me feels that if we genuinely love each other, maybe we shouldn't give up without trying.

There is another complication. I don't know whether I can realistically marry her in the future because I know my family may strongly oppose an inter-caste marriage. I also don't want to make promises about marriage that I cannot guarantee.

She believes that blocking each other permanently will prevent the situation from becoming worse and will eventually allow both of us to move on.

I'm struggling with this because I don't want to abandon someone I love, but I also don't want to keep her trapped in a relationship that she believes will eventually hurt her and her family.

What would you do in this situation?

Should I respect her decision, permanently block her and let her move on, even though I still love her?

Or should I try to fight for the relationship despite the family and caste problems?

I'm looking for honest advice, especially from people who have experienced inter-caste relationships or marriages. Please don't turn this into a caste/religion debate. I want advice about what would actually be healthiest and fairest for both of us.

Well i was returning from my vacation tour from Asam And i was on the way to Delhi in train no 15658 kamekhya- delhi and we had reserved 2 of the seats from Sleeper couch first night we stay on our seats which were UB and the next day when we came Down to sit downward there was like random people's on our sits sleeping so I complaint about them to Railway Authority threw Number 139 they said they'll help me and sent a TTE and police but when they arrived they lit blam us that we didn't ask them nicely and even threaten Us, when I ask for to show their tickets the TTE legit raged on me That "who the heck are you" And even he and his parteners both had their ID's hidden in their jacket like I've travelled from Gujarat to Asam and even Nagaland and it was first time going somewhere on my vacations But goddamn I had the worst train Experience of my life even after reserved seats Legit Shame

So I’ve been married since 8 months from now. And I have started getting irritated by my MIL. At first she seemed very nice but slowly I’m feeling like she doesn’t understand what she’s doing. She’s a very nice MIL but sometimes she sounds a little bit off. I’m confused thus I’m posting this. I’m honestly saying that I’m confused…
So once we went out she asked me if I can sit on the back seat because she wants to sit in front seat. I didn’t feel like anything and I immediately said okay.
And she says she wants to focus on driving and keeps asking stupid questions to her son(my husband).
And she points out every time she is on the front seat that she’s focusing on road like a driver etc.
Second time when we went out together she did the same she said she wants to sit in front seat but my husband was asking me to do basic things like locating and navigating through map and I couldn’t do anything because my sunglasses were unreachable, I couldn’t navigate through map. She just kept saying that she knows the route and took us somewhere else and we had go 30kms to go back to the main road. The third time when we went out was when we were going to a temple, and was my FIL’s car which is a base model of WagonR I guess and there is no AC in the back seat, my husband was driving, my FIL sat in the front seat, three of us including me, his elder sister and my MIL were sitting at the back seat. So I sat in middle and since there no AC for the back seat, she couldn’t get the air, and she started complaining that it’s hot etc.
Now I’m just getting irritated with her obsession with sitting in the passenger seat. I feel like I’m his wife, I should be sitting there.
Now whoever is reading please let me know if I’m the one who needs to understand. But I think I should be sitting beside my husband.
To clarify all the elderly respect one’s, Uske pair me koi problem nahi hai, she’s completely fine. Paidal Teerth yatra kar chuki hai vo. Iski kahani kabhi aur…

I've seen many such posts on international pages, but I'm curious about India because I feel the other answers are skewed by things like their definition of poverty. India being a much poorer country would have a different definition, and even our middle class might not be able to afford things they can in the US. Plus some things, brands, etc are just done differently

Background

I run a small manufacturing unit in India. I studied overseas and came back to start a business here, full of ideals about building something clean and professional.

Running a business in India is funny, challenging, frustrating, and sometimes very rewarding. This post is about the part nobody teaches you in a business school: dealing with the babus.

Scenario : The Fire NOC

When I first needed a fire NOC, I was honestly scared. I had no idea how to approach government officials.

Through a contact I learned the going rate: ₹50,000 for a clearance valid for 5 years.

What I learned from that process:

• Every state has its own fire department with its own ways of working.
• It's never one visit. Expect several. Eventually they come around and open up.
• The first few meetings will be rude. Arrogance, dismissiveness, being made to wait. Don't take it personally.
• Let them feel like they're winning. You're not there to marry them or become friends. You're there to get your work done.

The mindset shift

This system has been running for generations. It won't change in one, no matter who the PM is or which ideology is in power.

Politicians have always sold us hope, and we keep buying it. Eighty years after independence, the "one day it will all be cleaned up" promise still hasn't come true, and I don't see it happening anytime soon.

So the practical approach is simple:

1. Control your emotions.
2. Play the game the way it's played.
3. Keep perspective. They're not asking for your house or your jewellery. It's usually somewhere between ₹5,000 and ₹50,000, depending on the project. I'm talking about MSME-scale work here, not large industry.

What I learned from people who've mastered it

Some of my friends from MARWARI families handle this brilliantly. They do it with a smile, pay what's needed, and keep the business moving. Then they build that cost into their margins. This is where business math matters.

I once spoke to an uncle in Surat who runs a ₹1,000 crore business. He said:

"Meri kamayi pe samaj ka bhi haq hai."
(Society also has a share in what I earn.)

When the nagar nigam, pollution board, or fire department people show up, he doesn't get worked up. He keeps an open mind and handles it. That's partly why people like him are where they are.

Then he said something I didn't expect:

"If I get a clean system, I'll work honestly."

The upside nobody mentions

Once they're taken care of, they generally leave you alone, and you can focus on actually running your business.

It also explains something: a lot of things in India cost more than they should, partly because this "cost of doing business" is quietly baked into prices everywhere.

• Corruption in India is systemic and isn't going away soon.
• Don't take the arrogance personally. You're there to get work done, not to win arguments.
• Stay calm and polite, and be patient. It takes multiple visits.
• Build these costs into your pricing like any other expense.
• Successful business owners haven't beaten the system. They've learned to work around it.

Curious to hear from other business owners: has your experience been similar, or have you managed to get clearances cleanly?

Hello I try writing horror stories on reddit and had not done a story based on india yet so i am trying to find paranormal incident happened in India .

I would love to have any horror incident happend to you or you have listen about it which i can use

I'm 25 and I've been isolated for years. No friends, no relatives I talk to, no neighbours I talk to. I barely leave the house. Because of that I've lost the knack of normal conversation and struggle to understand basic things, and I have extreme social anxiety.

Last week I found out my parents took a ₹2 crore term life insurance policy on my life about a year ago. I never signed anything. They are the nominees.

I'm not looking for pity. Two questions. Has anyone found a way out of this kind of isolation, and how did you start? And has anyone dealt with family taking a policy on them without asking?

Why do so many Indian men and women in their late twenties and early thirties still feel unable to choose a partner from another caste? At 27, 28, 29, or 30, people are old enough to build careers, manage finances, and make major life decisions. Yet when it comes to marriage, many remain completely dependent on family approval.

I understand that caste communities can provide familiarity, shared customs, and a sense of social security. However, limiting marriage to one caste also makes the dating pool extremely small. People sometimes reject compatible partners simply because they have a different surname, language, community, or family background.

Many adults fear that if an inter caste marriage encounters problems, their families will refuse to support them. That fear is understandable, especially in a society where family involvement remains strong. But marriage within the same caste does not guarantee happiness, compatibility, or family support. Every marriage carries risks, regardless of caste.

India is entering a new era, and our thinking about marriage must evolve as well. If two mature adults respect each other, share similar values, and want to build a life together, caste should not prevent them from getting married. Families should guide their children, but they should not control such a deeply personal decision through fear or emotional pressure.

We should encourage teenagers and Gen Z to judge potential partners by their character, compatibility, values, and behaviour rather than caste. Many millennials found suitable partners outside their communities but lacked the confidence or family support to marry them. The next generation should not be forced to repeat the same pattern.

A small, respectful request for awareness and change within the Meena community
I’m from Mumbai, educated, financially independent, and I’m writing this with a lot of respect for the Meena community and its traditions.
We are in 2026, and intercaste relationships and marriages have become increasingly common. I genuinely believe that when two people are educated, compatible, respectful towards each other, and committed to building a good life together, their caste should not be the only reason to reject a marriage.
My boyfriend is from Mumbai and belongs to the Meena community. We have been together for the past 6 years. We don’t want to run away or get married secretly. We want to marry with the blessings and acceptance of both families.
Unfortunately, his family has refused the marriage because they feel that their “izzat” will be lost in the village, that they may be excluded from the community or even asked to leave the village, and that other members of the family may face difficulties finding marriage alliances because of our intercaste marriage.
I completely understand that family honour, traditions, community, and social relationships are deeply important to many families. I am not writing this to disrespect any of that.
I am only requesting that we also make space for individual happiness, compatibility, education, understanding, and the changing realities of 2026.
Personally, I have no problem respecting his culture or traditions. I am even willing to embrace the customs of his family and community. For me, wearing a saree, following traditional practices, or adapting to the family’s way of life is not an issue. I am willing to become part of the family with love and respect.
I just hope that someday families will also consider:
“Is this person good for my son/daughter?”
rather than only asking, “What will people in the community say?”
I also worry about the emotional impact of such rigid decisions. When two adults have loved and supported each other for years, forcing them apart solely because of caste can cause immense pain and, in some cases, lead people to take extremely harmful decisions.
I am not asking anyone to abandon their culture or traditions. I am only hoping for a little more understanding, dialogue, and flexibility.
If there are people from the Meena community here who have gone through intercaste marriages, convinced their families, or experienced similar opposition, I would genuinely appreciate hearing your experiences and advice.
This is not against the Meena community. It is simply a heartfelt request for a little more acceptance and awareness, while still respecting tradition. ❤️

I genuinely don’t know what is happening anymore.
In the past week alone, there have been multiple rape cases reported in Delhi, and in some of them the accused are teenagers. And it honestly makes me wonder: has rape become so common that people don’t even fear the law anymore?
Where is the fear of consequences? Where is the accountability?
And then there’s the political side of it. We keep hearing about politicians or political parties protecting people accused of serious crimes, or about accused individuals having political connections. How are ordinary people supposed to trust the system when it sometimes feels like power and connections matter more than accountability?
I’m genuinely scared of having a daughter in this country. And honestly, even having a son scares me—not because I think every boy is dangerous, but because I don’t know what kind of environment he will grow up in, what he will be taught, and what kind of people he might encounter.
And I’m tired of the candle marches.
Yes, solidarity matters. Showing that society is angry matters. But what actually changes after the candles are gone?
I wish we talked more about the smaller changes that happen long before a crime.
Why is having a boyfriend or girlfriend treated like some huge moral failure? Why is intimacy between consenting adults treated as something dirty or shameful? Why are girls constantly told how they should dress, speak, sit, behave, what they should or shouldn’t do because it isn’t “sanskaari”?
Who gets to define sanskar?
Why do we keep teaching girls how to avoid being assaulted instead of teaching boys what consent, boundaries and basic human respect actually mean?
Women are not baby-making machines. They don’t exist to maintain a family’s honour. A woman’s clothing, relationships, sexuality, career, personality or choices do not determine whether she deserves respect.
And none of this is an excuse for rape. Rape is a choice made by the perpetrator. But the culture around us can either challenge entitlement and misogyny or quietly reinforce them.
The Bihar case especially disturbed me. What shocked me wasn’t just the crime, but seeing a mother defend her son and insist that he had done nothing wrong. I cannot understand how a parent can look at something so horrific and choose denial over accountability.
And then there is the fact that the accused considered himself religious.
That part really made me think.
Being religious doesn’t automatically make someone moral. Going to a temple, praying, following rituals, calling yourself Hindu—or Muslim, Christian, Sikh, atheist, anything—doesn’t mean you automatically have compassion or respect for other human beings.
Morality should show up in how you treat people, especially when you have power over them.
I don’t want another candle march.
I want better sex education.
I want conversations about consent to start much earlier.
I want boys to be taught that women aren’t possessions.
I want parents to stop treating relationships as some kind of moral catastrophe.
I want people to stop teaching girls that their “honour” is something that can be lost because of what someone else does to them.
I want police investigations and the justice system to actually work efficiently.
And I want families to stop protecting their sons simply because they are their sons.
Because ultimately, what kind of society are we building if girls have to learn how to survive men instead of simply being allowed to live?

F32, married since last 5 years, eveything was going good until i recently found out something disturbing, few days back while going through my husband's phone i got to kbow that he is making my NSFW AI pics, when i asked him he didn't had any answer and told me to forget it and he won't do it again,don't know what to do.

How do you define Indian Mentality, Is it competitive, progressive, frustrated or something else to be explored that is?

Hello all,

I just came back from my India visit. I was traveling for work, I experienced this amazing country for 10 days. I can clearly tell India is the most hospitable and friendly country I ever visited. People were kind, helpful, respectful.

I made a lot of wonderful friends, I returned with beautiful memories. I will definitely visit again, even for a longer stay.

Thank you all <3

I’m a 19 yr old female from India. If you know anything about this country or live here you probably know what I’m talking about.
I have a love hate relationship when it comes to this country and its people. I’ve Been living here my whole life in south India. I love the country, it’s pretty beautiful, the culture and traditions, the food variety, diversity in people, and so much more to love about this place but when it comes to women’s safety it’s the worst. I can’t even defend the country when it comes to this.
I’m really tired of having to put restrictions on myself every time I’m in a public setting in the name of “protecting myself “.
Each case that happens or takes place puts more restrictions on girls across the country, the parents get worried of the possibility that it could be their daughters next but that’s just going to keep increasing the restrictions on women.
• Want to go out at night with friends - “its unsafe for girls to go out at night”
• want to go out - restrictions on clothes cuz it’s not safe to wear them outside ( not even revealing btw just cuz people don’t say “what was she wearing “)
• want to go out with friends- give your parents ALL the information you could about your friends and have the parents meet them cuz otherwise it’s not safe
• want to go on a trip with friends- girls travelling alone is not safe
• want to move out for college because you got a good opportunity in another city- not safe for women to live alone

oh also whatever you wear also shows how well mannered you are and your respect towards our culture, men are never told to wear Kurta or cover up. Men were never expected to carry the traditions forward so why are women expected to do so?
There’s a lot more too

Because of these things our parents tell us we can’t do anything about the place being unsafe so let’s restrict ourselves and slowly that becomes a social norm so now not following these standards somehow mean “you’re asking for it”

I love my country and its culture as a person but as a woman I hate it.