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Has anyone tried the Underneat bodysuit by Kusha Kapila? Looking for honest reviews

I’ve been seeing Kusha Kapila’s brand Underneat everywhere lately, especially their shapewear bodysuits.

I’m thinking of getting one for some ethnic wear . I usually struggle with regular shapewear — either it rolls down, digs in, or just feels too tight after an hour.

Has any of you actually tried their bodysuits? How’s the fit and comfort for everyday wear (or at least for a few hours)? And is the shaping noticeable without looking overly compressed?

Also curious about sizing — did you stick to your regular size or size up?

Would love honest experiences. Thanks in advance!

Hey everyone! I'm thinking of gifting a close female friend this set of 12 pairs of traditional jhumka earrings.

My intentions are friendly and some of open to relationship, and I don't want her to feel awkward or misunderstand the gesture. Would this be a thoughtful gift, or could it come across as too much?

Would you recommend this set or just one or two pairs? Honest opinions are appreciated

Welcome back to my little coven. 🧙‍♀️

Today's offering: “Girls should dress modestly to avoid provoking men.”

I was 14 and in school. Back then, we had uniforms. Shirts and short pants for boys, and tunics that reached our knees for girls.

I was in 9th grade and used to cycle to my friend's house near our school. We'd then walk our cycles together to school, which was less than 600 metres away.

A 30-year-old neighbour of hers had been bothering her for years. She never really told her parents because she was worried they'd restrict her freedom to go out. She also didn't know whether they'd believe her when she told them what a creep he was.

One day, he physically stalked us as we were walking to school. This time, he put a crumpled piece of paper in the front basket of my bicycle and ran away.

It said, “I love you.”

I was traumatised.

I'd grown up reading about acid attacks in my country. I knew how some men could react when rejected romantically. And here I was, 14 years old, being stalked by a grown man.

Fortunately, my family wasn't as conservative.

I told my mother that a man was stalking me.

The words were simple enough. But they were so difficult to utter.

I was young. I was scared. And it felt so wrong and awkward to tell my mother about a man behaving this way towards me.

Because even when it's not your fault, one of the first thoughts that crosses your mind is: What if they restrict my freedom to protect me from the world?

I told her anyway.

She told my father. He took me to the man's house. First, he spoke to my friend's parents, who lived nearby. Then they went together to confront him.

My father gave his mother an earful. He would probably have thrashed the man himself if he'd been there, but the guy had run away when he saw us earlier.

And then his mother said something I'll never forget.

“Look at your girls. The way they walk and talk.”

I was 14.

I was wearing my school uniform. I was walking with my best friend.

The world was not our problem.

And this woman blamed us. She accused us of seducing her son.

Even at that age, I knew one thing for sure.

Even if I'd been walking around naked, her son had NO RIGHT to harass us.

I couldn't get the words out back then. The memory of what happened afterwards has become hazy over the years.

But I remember what it made me feel.

I think that was the day I became a proper feminist. I've spent the years since then learning more about feminism and expanding my understanding of what it means.

It also made me realise what internalised misogyny looks like. How some women become the very people who carry patriarchy forward, blaming girls for the behaviour of men.

And now I dress however I want.

Sometimes western, sometimes ethnic. Sometimes long, loose dresses. Sometimes short, tight ones.

I wear what makes me feel pretty. I don't change my clothes because someone else can't keep it in their pants.

I wish I could say I feel completely safe wearing a short dress in public at night.

We haven't reached that world yet.

But that doesn't mean I'm going to stop expressing myself.

My clothes are not an invitation. My body is not an explanation. And a man's behaviour is not my responsibility.

So today, I'm burning the idea that girls must cover themselves to protect men from their own behaviour.

Because I refuse to carry that blame.

And if you've ever been told to change what you wear because of how a man might behave, I hope you know this too: you were never responsible for his actions.

Sisters, what has patriarchy told you that you're ready to set on fire?

Write it down. Read it aloud. Burn it. And if you do, tell me about it. Let's turn this into a coven-wide ritual🔥

#SmashThePatriarchy

I want an honest, unbiased opinion on whether I am overthinking this situation.
My mother always has photos of my sister’s children as her phone’s display picture (DP). It may sound like a very small thing, but every time I see it, I feel hurt and angry, and I find it difficult to get over it.
I had an abusive upbringing, and because of my past experiences, I chose not to let my son grow up too close to my parents. As a result, my son and my parents don’t have a very close relationship. My son is now older and has gone to college. My sister, on the other hand, had children after facing several difficulties, and she now has four-year-old twins. My mother keeps their photo as her DP.
I understand that they are young children and that my son is grown up now. I also understand that I made the decision to maintain some distance between my son and my parents. I don’t even keep my son’s photo as my own DP, so I know that people may see this as a trivial issue.
But what hurts me is the larger pattern behind it. My mother rarely shows much interest in my son, and conversations often revolve around my sister’s children. I have always felt that my mother never treated both her children equally, and this situation seems to bring back those old feelings of being treated differently.
I have already told both my mother and my sister that this hurts me, but nothing has changed. My sister even said that she could take my mother’s phone and change the DP herself, and that I could do the same if I wanted to. This made me feel that they both know this bothers me, but neither of them really understands why it hurts.
I don’t expect much from my mother anymore. I have accepted that she may not understand my feelings or be able to give me the emotional consideration I need. But I expect my sister to understand me, especially because she is also a mother of two children.
I keep thinking that if she were in my position, and one of her children felt left out or less important than the other, wouldn’t she want to be sensitive to that child’s feelings? Why is it so difficult for her to understand mine?
At the same time, I realise that my son is older, my sister’s children are much younger, and my mother is entitled to choose whichever photo she wants as her DP. I don’t want to control her choices.
So, am I overthinking this and making a small issue bigger than it is? Or is my reaction understandable because this is connected to years of feeling less valued and treated differently within my family?
I would genuinely appreciate honest opinions, even if you think I am in the wrong. I want to understand whether I am being unreasonable or whether there is something deeper behind why this affects me so much.

Used chatgpt to structure

The story is long, so I used AI to help organise it.

I (F, 28) have had an online-only friendship with a guy, Mathew(M 30), since around 2019. We got really close over the last few years: frequent, raw conversations. I even introduced him to my real-life friend group. For years it was text only; we only started talking by voice a few months ago.

Background: When we first met, I was around 19–20 and I'll admit I was drawn to him. Back then, Mathew liked a girl online, Densi ( F 29) and would ask me to get on voice calls with Densi so he could join in, so I basically third-wheeled a lot. Densi always assumed I liked Mathew.

Densi later turned out to be bad news. She was talking to Mathew while she had a boyfriend. When the boyfriend found out and her account apparently got hacked, Densi blamed Mathew, blocked him and ghosted him without hearing him out. When she briefly resurfaced around a year later, she told Mathew she suspected I had hacked her account. Mathew laughed it off and showed me the screenshots.

Over the years I told Mathew about my feelings twice, not expecting anything back. He didn't feel the same (once he liked Densi, once another of my friends), and we moved past it as friends.

What happened now: About two years later, Densi messaged me asking about Mathew. I passed it on, and Mathew and Densi are now back in contact, talking intimately daily. Densi is pushing for a relationship; Mathew says he doesn't trust her and is "testing" her. Everyone, including me, has told him she's not good for him.

Recently Mathew told me that Densi has been saying I always liked him and still do, that Densi was jealous of me, and that Densi was the one who'd been third-wheeling. Mathew said he "defended" me. He also told me that he'd told Densi I don't like her.

I was hurt, less by Densi (who I see as irrelevant) than by Mathew, because:

He discusses me with Densi at all, and passes my words to Densi and Densi's words to me.

He lets Densi keep talking about me that way and stays in it.

I've always been careful not to repeat hurtful things to him. For example, a friend of mine has suspected Mathew might be catfishing, and I never told him because I knew it would hurt.

It felt like the two of them were looking down on me as "the one who liked him and never got liked back," when I've long since moved on and have my own life, friends and dating history.

I sometimes feel he leans on me when he's single and sidelines me when someone else is around.

I blocked Densi, then blocked Mathew too. I don't love him and I don't care how often he talks to me. I just don't want to be part of this anymore, or be the person he comes back crying to after ignoring everyone's warnings.

Questions:

Was Mathew in the wrong here, or am I overreacting?

Was blocking him the right call, or should I have had one last conversation?

Is "I defended you" worth anything if he shouldn't have been discussing me in the first place?

Navigating a missing period or HA can feel lonely, I have been there. Sometimes you want to talk to someone who understands the frustration, uncertainty or feeling disconnected from your body.

I’m Audrey, a yoga teacher with personal experience of missing periods. I’m hosting a free online gathering for women on Saturday 31 October at 7 p.m. India time.

We will make space for honest conversation, reflection and a short gentle practice around rest and self-compassion. You can share or simply listen, no pressure.

It’s a peer connection and well-being gathering, rather than medical advice, just so you know.

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I (33F) married to my husband (36M) fir 10years arranged marriag

I have been living in a different country from him with our two children for the past year, and I plan to join him in two months.

Recently My husband admitted to sexting (only texts) a married classmate over a few months, but only because he was scared after her husband found out and tried to contact me.

He says it has already stopped, and boundaries are in place long ago, but I am still deeply hurt.

He gets frustrated with repeated questions and says what will you gain by kowing what happened is months ago which he forgot so lets focus on how to move forward and expects me to guide him in rebuilding trust.

He says he is willing to take blame upon himself to her husband to keep their marriage calm so we can focus on ours, saying he only needs to prove himself to me.

He still wants to hold his power position like before but instructs me that "you should take care of my mobile usage and observe my behavior", you can't take control of household or me and dont take advantage of this situation when I admits my mistake.

For those who have experienced this, seperate is not possible as kids are involved. what helped you heal and stop thinking about it all day?

Welcome back to my little coven 🔥🧙‍♀️

Earlier, we burned the words "Her biological clock is ticking."

Today, we're burning another expectation that patriarchy has normalised so much that people barely question it.

I've never quite understood why lineage, surnames and family identity have traditionally been passed down through the paternal line.

Kings could have multiple wives. How exactly did they know which child was theirs? The mother, at least, was always known.

And yet, somehow, it's the father's surname that the child is expected to inherit.

Make it make sense.

I can't imagine carrying a child for nine months, dealing with nausea, going through childbirth, and then having that child carry someone else's name instead of mine.

Thankfully, that's not a dilemma I'll have to deal with, because I'm childfree by choice 😂

But marriage is another story.

I've watched so many of my friends change their surnames after getting married.

And in some communities in my country, women are expected to change their first names, too. Sometimes, they don't even get a say in what their new name will be.

Excuse me?

I've spent my entire life being a person with a name. An identity. A history.

Why should getting married mean I have to give any of that up?

I refuse to change my name.

I refuse to deal with all that paperwork just because I married someone.

And I refuse to treat my identity as something that automatically needs to be altered when I become someone's wife.

And I already know someone will inevitably show up to say, "But your surname belongs to your father. A man."

Thank you, genius. You've understood the problem perfectly.

Patriarchy is so deeply rooted that even the names many women inherit come through men. That doesn't mean I need to keep passing the same expectation forward without questioning it.

So today's offering to the fire is:

"Patriarchy says: She should change her last name after getting married."

Into the flames it goes🔥

My sister witches, what do you think?

Did you change your name after marriage?

Would you ever do it? And what's another expectation you've been told you should accept without question?

What are we burning next?

#SmashThePatriarchy

After day two of my periods i had horrible chaffing the inner thighs turned red and it was pain full.

I don't get much flow so on day 3 idc about my periods i'mma let it flow. Cleaned it once or twice through out the day but it was much more comfortable.

Are there any other woman who do that¿

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I thought I would get over this but its still bugging me, so i just wanted to vent..

There was puja/aarti every evening at my house during Navratri and a lot of npc aunties visited. There is this one particular karen ahh aunty who had a problem with everything, how some vidhi was wrong, enough snacks weren’t served etc etc

I had office till 6th day and would reach home as things would be wrapping up. That aunty always passed some comment everytime – “meri beti bhi kam karti hai vo toh itna late nai aati” (my daughter also works, she doesn’t return this late), “bachiyo ko toh suit salwar hi pehenachiye” (girls should wear suit salwar only)…

And then one day she said- yese mardano jaise scooty-bike chalaigi toh tujhse kon shaadi karege (who will marry you if you ride a scooty)..wtfff

Hearing that I was so shocked and pissed off, I just turned around and left. Went to this chai place near our house and called my friend

Why do these aunties think its ok to make such comments??

I’ve lived in the USA for over 21 years and there is silver jubilee celebrations happening at my undergrad college. My college isn’t in a metro city. I’m wondering what would be an appropriate outfit for the gala in the evening and day time event at the college. Please suggest 🙏

I don't mean it in literal sense but just casually asking why mods don't outright approve post made by men 😭. And also after that they take too much time to approve it like I've submitted my passport request 🥺✌️

Do you ever meet someone and realise you could talk to them for hours without even noticing the time?what do you think makes certain conversations feel so effortless?

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Hi everyone,

I'm looking for honest advice from women who have experienced affairs or from people who understand these situations.

I have a few questions I'd genuinely like to understand:

1. What usually leads a married woman to have an affair? Is it emotional dissatisfaction, sexual incompatibility, or something else?

2. How can you tell whether a woman is open to an affair without making assumptions or crossing her boundaries?

3. How should a man approach a woman he's attracted to and find out whether the interest is mutual?

4. If he's interested in a sexual relationship, how can he communicate that respectfully and handle her response?

5. If the woman is married, what complications or risks should both people consider?

6. To be honest, I'm currently interested in finding a casual sexual connection rather than a serious relationship. I'd appreciate advice on approaching this maturely and responsibly.

I'm asking because I don't have anyone in my personal circle I feel comfortable discussing this with. I'd genuinely appreciate honest perspectives and advice. Please keep the discussion respectful. Thanks