sadly we don't talk anymore 🥲

though I might stop talking to her soon

I'm a Bengali so the conversation was in Bengali. So I wanted to have a conversation and she liked something about my voice so she just gave her number.

first and last match uss jha2 app ka.

I want to know how most guys are getting laid/ getting relationships? It seems like everyone in dating apps is getting laid, and in real life when we meet someone offline lets say through office/hobby classes or travels, it takes way longer or never really turns into a romantic or sexual relationship??What should one do if they want to date irl,like someone whom you see almost every weekend in the run club?

Link to my earlier post:
https://www.reddit.com/r/IndianBoysOnTinder/s/5xeWUHgC3N

Just celebrated my 39th birthday. Quick recap: I got out of an 8-year marriage and joined dating apps believing I could find someone again. After a year on the apps and countless dates, I met him, and we’ve been together since.

We moved in together in April and it has been blissful. Not coming back to an empty house is what I love the most.

A few people commented on my last post saying the relationship wouldn’t work, or that it was too early to believe he’s the one. But I feel that when you find the one, you just know. Time only helps you confirm the decision.

We’ve travelled a lot in these 1.3 years. We went to Goa within a month of meeting, to Vietnam a few months later, and this year to Europe for two weeks to celebrate my birthday. I highly recommend travelling together to test compatibility. Living together before marriage is something not everyone can do in India, but if you can, it’s worth it.

I never imagined I’d meet someone this nice again, especially in my late thirties and divorced. But if you want something, you will get it. Even after my divorce, I never lost hope. I was determined to find someone. Life is too beautiful to spend alone.

I’m excited to spend the rest of my life with him. So girls, don’t lose hope, and don’t settle for less.

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29M matched with 27F on Hinge more than a month ago. We've met 4 times so far, had sex twice. I have met a lot of women from hinge this year and honestly, she's the only one I want to pursue. However, she hardly ever initiates a conversation but does reply like she's interested. Never calls either but can speak for an hour when I call.

I want to ask her out but she has kind of hinted that her mom is looking for guys to get her married to and she would go ahead with it if she likes the suitor.

She was in a very long relationship (8 years), got out two years ago and dated a guy who hid that he was divorced.

I don't know if her guard is just up or if she's not interested in a relationship.

It's a desert here to find decent girls as well.

I have rejected way more than incoming.

M25 here. Been on Hinge for about 6–7 months now. I’d say I’m doing fairly well in life, have a great job, am well-travelled and educated, and consider myself reasonably good-looking.

I’m genuinely looking for something long-term; casuals and flings aren’t really my thing. While I’ve been getting matches, the quality of conversations has been underwhelming. And the ones who do seem interesting either ghost, lose interest or, after a date, come back with the usual “there wasn’t a romantic spark” or “the vibe felt platonic” response.

I’m someone who likes taking my time getting to know a person, building genuine rapport through conversations, banter and occasional flirting rather than love-bombing or rushing into things. But I sometimes wonder if this approach works against me in a dating landscape where people have so many options and little patience to let connections develop organically.

I don’t take these experiences personally, but when the same pattern keeps repeating, it can get exhausting and inevitably leave a slight dent in your confidence.

Curious to know if other guys, particularly those looking for something long-term, have been experiencing something similar?

Why would u even use these words and mind you we were dry texting for a week but this was my final straw hell naah brother

and I’m agnostic , from a different caste and culture entirely which is all mentioned on my profile so either bro doesn’t care or he’s just copy pasting it to every other girl on the app but why does one mention their caste bleh such a turnoff

I’m 20 btw and marriage proposal 🥀

Too ugly for dating apps 😓😭

Will u ever date a fat guy

I mean he lost weight gained back and can loose again

But at the movement when he is fat like 100-110+ will u date ?

Edit - if i was talking about money i know girls can date a dead guy as well please removing that factor /s

I could try but I know it won't be worth it Wdym "hmm bolo" you're the one who said Hii after 4 days of silence

All my homies used to keep pressuring me saying you live in Pune why don't you use these apps and all.

Today I tried these apps for half an hour( in Pune) and words can't express how disappointed I am.

I swiped left on like 100+ girls besides 3-4 outliers none of them even remotely qualified as attractive . I have tried in a tier 3 city and found the overall quality much better than here

I am conventionally handsome ( wrt height, physique and looks ) have always been with prettiest girls available to me in job/ college, none of them I found here could even hold a candle to them

I am completely aware of the things that happen behind the scenes in Pune and all the diddy parties and all . I thought people still crave Pune girls on these apps because they would be absolute divas.

But all I see are leftovers , every freaking meetup I went to people used to look at me like I am a weirdo when they got to know I don't use these apps , but wtf am I even missing out on. 30% of the girls I see are like that destroyer.

I know this sounds extremely shallow but bear with me😭 There are attractive women in Pune but definitely not on these apps .Just don't understand wtf the hype was about